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If i cut..she cuts..
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well i just been speaking to my friend and she say's if i cut she will cut... how do i get around it... i cant stop cutting.. i know i cant..
what to do?
what to do?
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self harming.. i do it.. she does it and i will feel guilty...
I would personally say if you are cutting then keep it from your friend because this is actually bringing your friend down (by the sounds of it). Obviously your not going to stop overnight so get the professional help you need then things may get better.
It's emotional blackmail.
And stop showing her your cuts. No one needs to see that.
I agree with beck. You really should get some help because it sounds like it is not only you that is getting down.
she will find out.. i know she will:crying:
If you could refrain from assuming the worst case senario in every situation for one moment. The pair of you aren't gonna be much help to each other like this so I would suggest spending some time apart. Get help for your issues. If she wants to seek help, that's up to her but this is a destructive relationship and is not going to help either of you.
And I don't care if you go to the same school together - you don't have to hang around each other. And just don't let her see your cuts. It's that simple.
Is this you by any chance?
What if he doesn't know her in person? Then stop contact. Or just not talk about self harm. Nothing good will come of this.
More guilt.
More blackmail.
Dragging each other down.
It's not fair on either.
This isn't support. This isn't 'help.'
Good luck
thanks that was helpfull. no need print it off she reads the forums.. anyway i dont think she will now..:)
If you really are in so deep with self harming then you should talk to a therapist, after i began talking to my counsellor i didnt feel the need to cut so much anymore. They may be able to help you find another outlet for your pain than cutting, one that is less halmfull and maybe even more effective. My friend has started thai boxing, another writes poetry. Originally i turned to drugs however, and thats something that i really shouldnt have done.
i write alot aswell but only during/after i selfharm.. im glad that you have slowed down and stoped. it shows that it isnt going to ruin your life and im happy that it isnt the end of the world. i have just got to learn to look up and see the possative...which is going to be VERY HARD but i think i can get it in the end...
I can tell you that thats 100% wrong. And I'm being totally honest. And, for the record, I know the truth as much as Frances does. I have to go to school with you losers.
no it isn't.
in my experience, cutting is a very secretive activity. i never told anyone, and would do it in places no one would find it, and people i knew and met in therapy who cut were the same.
there seems to be this new generation of cutters who do it in easily seen locations, share it with everyone, almost seem like their bragging, in some horrible way. but they don't represent the majority.
Therapy really can help some people, if youve not given that a go it really is worth it. And so are anti depressents whilst youre working on finding/solving your problems.. not for everyone and i dont know your situatiuon but its just a thought.
And Kayleygrub... :rolleyes: thats a very closed minded attitude to have.
Thank you my councillor is thinking of me going onto AD and maybe a therapist would be good..
Excuse me........WTF
Its not 100% wrong as you have already seen here people do it in private, so if you cant offer constructive advice or help then shut it. For the record darling I dont go to school and im not a loser..........thank you !!!!
and there was no need for the reply you made to lil_minx neither, your so far up your own arse !!!
Coming to a site and having a go at the regulars isnt really a good way to get in favour. Nor is acting like your part of some special little clique. it just makes you and your schoolfriends just look a little bit pathetic.
Anyway I know someone who self harms and he/she does anything to make sure nobody see's them. However he/she does trust me enough to let me see them if I ask her to make sure she's ok especially if he/she has done a bad one. Main example would be me getting him/her some plasters in a free i had to see what they had to cover. But other than that its totally 100% secret.
And by the way, I wasnt referring to me going to school with you.
Yep, it does. I'm sorry, I'm not used to this kind of messageboard. I'm a regular down at the NFc (nirvana2.com), and there things are real different, for a message board. Rules are tight, every other post is sarcasm and its addictive as hell. It sounds bad already, right? Wait until you go there and read the posts and announcements.... be afraid
My advice: Don't go to her for things like that. Its not her job around the school, annoyingly. Get her to write you a letter and see a doctor. He or she would be far more helpful because they have the power to prescribe you what you need, and give you advice and doses and stuff. I know that Julia seems like some kind of help, but unfortunatly her job isnt to do stuff about your problems, its to talk about it
Oh, they really are :thumbsup:
julia is just there to listern she hasnt tryed to solve my problems only suggest optinions...
She is making you without you realise it talk about your problems. When we talk about things we feel a big weight off our shoulders, its like getting rid of some of the baggage we are carrying.
She wont be able to solve your problems but she can help you face them by talking about your fears etc.
I KNOW ITS GREAT ISNT IT....
Hey man, well for once I've decided to browse the health forums.
So you're cutting? In a sense I can empathise, I used to hurt myself too, it's kinda like undoing a valve to let steam out of a bioler, thus preventing it from exploding isn't it? At least it was to me...
However, since I got proper psychiatric help I didn't stop... I'm not sure what help you're receiving now... But maybe there's another way in which you could try venting your pain... such as writing for example, a form of art? That's what I work with now, although I'm not sure if it'll work for anyone... still, it's worth a try, right?