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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition) w/c 03.11.25

LeylaLeyla Community Manager Posts: 525 Incredible Poster
edited November 10 in Health & Wellbeing
This is a space to chat or vent about things which you think may be more triggering for the Community but still want to get off your chest.

Every Monday morning we will close the thread and start a new one so we have a fresh one each week. If you'd like to check out this week's venting thread that isn't triggering, click here.
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  • LeylaLeyla Community Manager Posts: 525 Incredible Poster
    From @mai on the last thread before it closed:

    i actually can’t do this anymore. just talked to samaritans and got told “that’s true tho” when i said how a counsellor told me i sh for attention.
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,743 Community Veteran
    i cant sleep... :/
  • Past UserPast User Posts: 0 Just got here
    there is a service (not nhs) local to me that have a crisis team. i was given the contact info for them so i reached out on sunday morning when rly struggling. when it comes to talking abt how i feel i find its easier to do over text or email etc. i ended up using the email i was given. i had hope for the service but they finally replied to me today and told me try talking to shout instead. i rly do give up.
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 10,051 An Original Mixlorian
    @Mai ugh sounds like your classic crisis team. I really do think they should offer more text based options, as so many people struggle talking over the phone about feelings, it feels a bit intense having to do that. I hope you’re feeling a bit better since sunday but we’re all here to chat if you did want to talk about anything
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,743 Community Veteran
    TW - self harm (i know this is the triggering thread but i may as well post a trigger warning just in case).
    the reason why i said i was disappointed in my self harm thread is because i self harmed today.
    im safe
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,198 An Original Mixlorian
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    TW - self harm (i know this is the triggering thread but i may as well post a trigger warning just in case).
    the reason why i said i was disappointed in my self harm thread is because i self harmed today.
    im safe

    do you need medical help for your sh? if so pls call 111 or your gp for advice or go to your local hospital. we’re here for you <3.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,743 Community Veteran
    eylah wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    TW - self harm (i know this is the triggering thread but i may as well post a trigger warning just in case).
    the reason why i said i was disappointed in my self harm thread is because i self harmed today.
    im safe

    do you need medical help for your sh? if so pls call 111 or your gp for advice or go to your local hospital. we’re here for you <3.

    no my dad already treated it so it should be fine. i cant give descriptions about it because then itll violate the community guidelines. thank you.
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,198 An Original Mixlorian
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    TW - self harm (i know this is the triggering thread but i may as well post a trigger warning just in case).
    the reason why i said i was disappointed in my self harm thread is because i self harmed today.
    im safe

    do you need medical help for your sh? if so pls call 111 or your gp for advice or go to your local hospital. we’re here for you <3.

    no my dad already treated it so it should be fine. i cant give descriptions about it because then itll violate the community guidelines. thank you.

    hey im glad your dad treated your injuries. of course i just wanted to know if you needed medical help or not but im here for you on the boards :).
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,743 Community Veteran
    eylah wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    TW - self harm (i know this is the triggering thread but i may as well post a trigger warning just in case).
    the reason why i said i was disappointed in my self harm thread is because i self harmed today.
    im safe

    do you need medical help for your sh? if so pls call 111 or your gp for advice or go to your local hospital. we’re here for you <3.

    no my dad already treated it so it should be fine. i cant give descriptions about it because then itll violate the community guidelines. thank you.

    hey im glad your dad treated your injuries. of course i just wanted to know if you needed medical help or not but im here for you on the boards :).

    im here for you too <3
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,743 Community Veteran
    ive never really stayed up longer than a day, so im wondering what it would be like to stay up for two days. i know its detrimental to my health but im curious to see how ill react under two days of sleep deprivation. i mean, one day's worth of sleep deprivation is already affecting me. my reaction times are slower, i tend to phase out often and i feel tired. so i think im just going to go to sleep tonight to avoid further hassle...
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 551 Incredible Poster
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    ive never really stayed up longer than a day, so im wondering what it would be like to stay up for two days. i know its detrimental to my health but im curious to see how ill react under two days of sleep deprivation. i mean, one day's worth of sleep deprivation is already affecting me. my reaction times are slower, i tend to phase out often and i feel tired. so i think im just going to go to sleep tonight to avoid further hassle...

    Hey @toffuna101 - I hear you, and it sounds like things have been really difficult recently. But like you said, sleep is important for your health. I care about you and want you to be healthy. I know it can be hard, but you deserve care from yourself, as well as from others <3
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,743 Community Veteran
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    ive never really stayed up longer than a day, so im wondering what it would be like to stay up for two days. i know its detrimental to my health but im curious to see how ill react under two days of sleep deprivation. i mean, one day's worth of sleep deprivation is already affecting me. my reaction times are slower, i tend to phase out often and i feel tired. so i think im just going to go to sleep tonight to avoid further hassle...

    Hey @toffuna101 - I hear you, and it sounds like things have been really difficult recently. But like you said, sleep is important for your health. I care about you and want you to be healthy. I know it can be hard, but you deserve care from yourself, as well as from others <3

    yeah <3
  • Past UserPast User Posts: 0 Just got here
    i’m so tired of being alive. crisis team asked me if i could wait till next week. i didn’t realise you had to schedule a crisis into the calendar, i better get it booked in for next week i suppose😭
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,743 Community Veteran
    i feel like self harming again. although my parents hid everything i still want to try and find something to harm myself but i cant because im not home alone. but if i self harm again my dad wont take me on the disney cruise in the summer which sucks because i feel like im being threatened not to do anything when i desperately want to. part of me wishes i didnt ask him to go on the disney cruise with him even though i want to go because now hes threatening that even if i dont go to college he'll take that away from me. i dont know what to do. im safe and i have no plans to self harm.
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,024 Boards Guru
    Hey @toffuna101 , how are you doing this afternoon? We really appreciate you opening up about this. It sounds like you're coping with some distressing feelings right now. I wonder if there's been anything in particular that might have triggered those urges to SH today?

    When you think about SHing, what do you imagine or hope the outcome would be afterwards?

    We're right here with you to listen without any judgement. It sounds really tough right now coping with these feelings on the one-hand, and then your dad's threats about taking away the cruise on the other. I can imagine that creating some really conflicting and pressurizing feelings. It's so positive that you've taken the step to talk about this.
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,024 Boards Guru
    @mai that sounds so frustrating, and I really hear just how exhausting being alive is feeling right now. You're doing so well to be trying to reach out for support and actively keep safe. We've dropped you a DM to explore further.
  • Past UserPast User Posts: 0 Just got here
    thank u @Sian321
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,198 An Original Mixlorian
    edited November 6
    i can’t stop feeling so shit. it’s torture for me :(.

    edit. sry i posted in the wrong thread.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 551 Incredible Poster
    eylah wrote: »
    i can’t stop feeling so shit. it’s torture for me :(.

    Hey there @eylah <3 I'm sorry you're struggling right now. You're dealing with a lot, and it's understandable to feel this way, though of course it doesn't take away from how hard it is. I want to remind you that I really care about you, and I'm here if you need support or someone to chat with. Take good care of yourself <3
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,743 Community Veteran
    Sian321 wrote: »
    Hey @toffuna101 , how are you doing this afternoon? We really appreciate you opening up about this. It sounds like you're coping with some distressing feelings right now. I wonder if there's been anything in particular that might have triggered those urges to SH today?

    When you think about SHing, what do you imagine or hope the outcome would be afterwards?

    We're right here with you to listen without any judgement. It sounds really tough right now coping with these feelings on the one-hand, and then your dad's threats about taking away the cruise on the other. I can imagine that creating some really conflicting and pressurizing feelings. It's so positive that you've taken the step to talk about this.

    no nothing triggered those thoughts. i dont know what i hope the outcome would be afterwards, i just dont want to go to college.
  • Past UserPast User Posts: 0 Just got here
    i rly am more than done with life. the world would be better if i wasn’t here.
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,024 Boards Guru
    @toffuna101 , thank you for your message - that sounds extremely difficult and I really hear how you don't want to go to college. What feels like the hardest part of college at the moment?

    Can I check that you feel able to keep yourself safe from those thoughts of SH today? And if so, how do you plan to keep safe?

    Please know that Childline, SHOUT, Papyrus, and Samaritans are here for you throughout the evening and night if you do wish for some further support and a space to unpack these feelings.
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,024 Boards Guru
    @eylah , I hear you - it sounds like you're coping with some really agonizing feelings right now. Would it feel helpful to talk about this further? What has today looked like for you?
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,743 Community Veteran
    Sian321 wrote: »
    @toffuna101 , thank you for your message - that sounds extremely difficult and I really hear how you don't want to go to college. What feels like the hardest part of college at the moment?

    Can I check that you feel able to keep yourself safe from those thoughts of SH today? And if so, how do you plan to keep safe?

    Please know that Childline, SHOUT, Papyrus, and Samaritans are here for you throughout the evening and night if you do wish for some further support and a space to unpack these feelings.

    the work. i think ill be able to keep myself safe and ill do that by staying away from all of the tools. ill probably call samaritans now because why not.
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,024 Boards Guru
    That sounds really positive @toffuna101 , and I hope that Samaritans can be a safe and supportive space to talk. Thank you for clarifying that you are feeling able to keep safe. Your Community are here if you'd like to talk further.
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,743 Community Veteran
    Sian321 wrote: »
    That sounds really positive @toffuna101 , and I hope that Samaritans can be a safe and supportive space to talk. Thank you for clarifying that you are feeling able to keep safe. Your Community are here if you'd like to talk further.

    thanks
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,743 Community Veteran
    im so tired of life :/
    (im safe)
  • DancerDancer Community Connector Posts: 8,174 Legendary Poster
    How do I politely tell someone to shove it up their arse? I`ve ended up having to change to a different GP surgery.
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
  • CutelivejazzCutelivejazz Posts: 302 The Mix Regular
    edited November 8
    TW: potential eating disorder??
    I feel awful ive overeaten again and idk i just wanna cry. I havent rly talked much abt it before ive breifly mentioned it in support chat but its not smth ive really told anyone openly and recently ive been wondering if I have an eating disorder I mean ive never like forced myself to be sick or anything but for about a year i skipped lunch and breakfast and only ate dinner and i lost a lot of weight and i still felt fat tbh but i was happier i was down and now im up and i feel like shit i have a mirror in my room and sometimes i just stare at myself in the mirror wishing i was slimmer or prettier i feel like i eat as a way to comfort myself i feel like after being alone for so long and dealing with pretty much everything myself i find that idk food gives me comfort and idk i just feel liks crap idk im just rambling on im sorry
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