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i don’t think anyone meant any harm. we was all joking abt but i understand it upset you.
I also wonder if there is anything you can think of that might help keep you safe today? Is there a particular way you've managed these thoughts in the past?
You're doing so well to reach out for support Seb.
I can hear how much you value being there for everyone else. Though you just wish people were there for you like you are for them. Caring for others sounds super important to you - what elements of this care do you wish others provided you with? It sounds like that deep care, where people aren't there because you feel they have to be but because they choose to be and they stay longer-term.
Chat sounds like an element of hope for you - to be able to talk to the community! And I also hear how important your dog is! I used to have 2 dogs and I love that my grandparents still have dogs (Terriers), cuddles with dogs feel extra precious sometimes!
Have you ever had this connection with anyone? What steps do you feel you might be able to take towards this?
@Seb Hello seb, i'm here if you want to talk a bit about anything. You aren't alone mate.
I will be here as much as I can for you too. There are loads of us who care mate.
@DonnerKebab set up a thread you can use tonight if you need to talk right now.
It's okay to be feeling tired and overwhelmed by things. If possible today, take things one step at a time. Sometimes we can need slower days to help us just relax that little bit more and calm us down.
Sending lots of hugs
May I ask, what kinds of thoughts or feelings are coming up for you in the hardest moments right now?
I wonder if you'd feel comfortable sharing some more about what makes you feel that you have messed up something good in your life? We're here to listen without judgement.
@Seb Im so extremely sorry things are tough right now. I think it depends on your circumstances for emergency housing like, if you are safe or homeless or at risk of homelessness etc, Im not sure of your circumstances now or in general but if you want to move out council housing might be an option. Im sorry I can't be anymore help. We are all here and listening.
Hi @Seb i'm so sorry things have gotten so awful for you. I'll pop a few links here for you friend, and i'm here to talk to if you need emotional support, or someone to vent to. A lot of it depends on circumstances, and who your local council is.
This is shelter's emergency helpline. I'd advise speaking to these people, who are experts on it:
https://england.shelter.org.uk/get_help/helpline
And i just want to say, i know it must be crushing how you feel right now. I've come close to it myself. You aren't alone right now friend.
so long.
I’m really sorry you’re feeling so awful right now. You don’t have to face this alone, and there are people and services who can assist you in finding somewhere safe, secure and supportive to stay. Shelter (https://england.shelter.org.uk/get_help/helpline) can give urgent housing advice and help you contact your local council’s homelessness team at 0808 800 4444 or via their website. Crisis (https://www.crisis.org.uk/get-help) offers support with emergency accommodation and longer‑term housing options. If you are at immediate risk of rough sleeping, StreetLink (https://www.streetlink.org.uk) can alert local outreach teams who will try to come to you and find support. St Mungo’s (https://www.mungos.org) works with people at risk of rough sleeping and can offer emergency and short-term housing as well as outreach support. Centrepoint (https://centrepoint.org.uk) helps young people aged 16–25 who are homeless or at risk, offering supported accommodation and guidance.
I’m really sorry that reaching out for help in the past didn’t give you what you needed. That kind of experience can leave you feeling dismissed and even more alone and it isn’t your fault at all. You and your experiences and feelings are very valid and real, and they absolutely deserve to be treated with understanding, kindness and attention. You don’t have to carry all of this by yourself right now. We care about you, we’re listening, and we’re glad you’re here.
You matter so much more than your mind is telling you in this moment. You matter because your life has value that does not disappear when you are hurting, quiet, exhausted, or struggling. You matter not because of what you can give others, how useful you are, or how well you hold yourself together, but simply because you exist as a person with feelings and depth. Your empathy, your care for others, your desire for deep long-lasting connection, and the fact that you are still here reaching out all show that you are important. The world is a brighter and better place with you in it.