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Guy repeating himself
Redemption
Community Connector Posts: 5,044 Part of The Furniture
I’ve been feeling quite frustrated lately because someone I met back in college in 2018 keeps messaging me and repeating the same things, especially about cars. He constantly brings up the same models, like the Audi A3, and it feels like we’re having the same conversation over and over. I’ve tried to politely ask him not to repeat himself, and although he apologised, he’s continued doing it. I understand being into cars since I like them too, and to be fair, he does mention some interesting ones. But when it becomes constant and repetitive, it starts to feel more exhausting than enjoyable. I really hope I don’t come across that way myself when I talk about things I enjoy.
What makes it difficult is that I don’t want to be harsh or upset him. I’ve been blocked before by people I was close with and it really hurt, so I understand how that feels. We haven’t seen each other in person since before the first lockdown and, unlike with some of my other friends, we’ve never actually met up again. I’ve blocked him in the past for similar reasons and unblocked him thinking he might have changed. Maybe he has a little, but the repetitive behaviour is still there. I’m now considering blocking him again just to take a break and reduce some stress, and maybe later I can unblock him to see if anything has improved. I just feel stuck because I overthink situations like this and don’t want to hurt anyone, but it’s starting to add pressure on top of everything else I’m already dealing with. I hope I don't come across this fustrating here with my threads. I am feeling lonely myself at times and could do with people to talk to but I need to right people and I hope I don't sound harsh by saying that. This person isn't saying anything bad or anything but its just quite fustrating. I hope you here understand.
I have some screenshot here of the messages
Any advice will be appreciated
What makes it difficult is that I don’t want to be harsh or upset him. I’ve been blocked before by people I was close with and it really hurt, so I understand how that feels. We haven’t seen each other in person since before the first lockdown and, unlike with some of my other friends, we’ve never actually met up again. I’ve blocked him in the past for similar reasons and unblocked him thinking he might have changed. Maybe he has a little, but the repetitive behaviour is still there. I’m now considering blocking him again just to take a break and reduce some stress, and maybe later I can unblock him to see if anything has improved. I just feel stuck because I overthink situations like this and don’t want to hurt anyone, but it’s starting to add pressure on top of everything else I’m already dealing with. I hope I don't come across this fustrating here with my threads. I am feeling lonely myself at times and could do with people to talk to but I need to right people and I hope I don't sound harsh by saying that. This person isn't saying anything bad or anything but its just quite fustrating. I hope you here understand.
I have some screenshot here of the messages
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