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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition)

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  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,713 Supreme Poster
    No problem @River and like Nathan said, you are following your own path - you have to do what makes you feel happy, what makes you feel like you’re accomplishing something. Your mum might not like it, but you are at an age now where that decision should always be yours.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    @independent_ @DonnerKebab thank you both, she’s just come into my room to scream at me again 😭
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    Feel the need to relapse
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,436 Community Veteran
    independent_ wrote: »
    @Redemption I’ve always said when you don’t enjoy a sport, then there’s no point. Sport and exercise are great, but imo you absolutely have to be enjoying it at least on a level because otherwise that motivation and energy just isn’t there. This is what happened to me with swimming, a few years competitive sucked the life out of it for me, and eventually i stopped, but I’d been doing it for long enough that my teammates referred to that as “retiring”. If another sport would suit you better then go for it, sometimes individual exercise is better, like going to the gym or yes cycling.

    I hear you on that, but it varies very much on support needs - if someone needs that support every week then that’s what the space is for and it’s ok to use it. Excluding really difficult times (and circle has been the place I go in those times) I don’t feel I need it every week.

    @independent_ yh I agree it's not much point like its exercise but other ways to do that and like im hardly going to die or get ill just for not going football.

    Yh its a bit more closed an focused and stuff but yh personally I try to reduce a few weeks in a row unless its get quiet maybe a space pops up. I don't feel like I need it every week, tbf I feel a bit happier like way more constructive and productive doing my course, it's actually decent too everyone's nice, I don't want to jinx it though lol. Should help me get into work coz its been a long rough journey and still is a bit but it's this community what's got and getting me through it like I've felt like I have had no one at times and then have here, it sends me to tears sometimes thinking of it. I hope I don't sound cringe or anything from that but yh.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    edited June 9
    @River

    My degree was crazy. First year, i was changing left right and centre. I was first on cyber security, then i switched during first year to software engineering (modules the same first year), then i switched again when ChatGTP started programming stuff to Computer Science with a cyber security pathway which again, i could still do as they had the same modules. I switched between like 3 courses in first year, (no cost for me thankfully as it was same modules). There isn't anybody who could tell me, at the age of 19, you don't get to choose this path, or you don't get to pursue this course, or you have to stay on this pathway, or even you have to do this in this certain way. The reason i'm bringing this up is i assume she's complaining you've done college courses before, and i want to show that this isn't unique. It's not abnormal. You are your own person with your own dreams.

    The feeling of needing to relapse after an argument is understandable, especially if she stormed into your room screaming. Just know, we're here to talk to. I promise, you deserve to be able to pursue your dreams in your own way, and nobody has the right to tell you no.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,436 Community Veteran
    Was I enough help on the chat @DonnerKebab ?
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    Feel the need to relapse need a relief, my head is racing and I’m really triggered
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @Redemption you were insanely great tonight mate. Helped me out enormously. I honestly can't thank you enough for it all.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    River wrote: »
    Feel the need to relapse need a relief, my head is racing and I’m really triggered

    @River There isn't a lot i can say to talk you out of relapsing, but it might be worth just going over what was said, and talking a bit about it, and breaking it down amongst friends if you'd like. The feeling of hurt after that is gonna be intense, just know we're here for you.
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,713 Supreme Poster
    edited June 9
    I’m gonna get ready for bed now but @River please take care and keep talking <3

    And @Redemption definitely, exercise is great but it’s even better when you’re enjoying that exercise. I’m so glad the course is feeling positive for you <3

    Goodnight lovely people, take it easy and be kind to yourselves (remember, it’s the law)
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @independent_ yes, the law. 50 years in jail if your not being kind to yourselves. Have a good night Independent <3 .
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,436 Community Veteran
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @Redemption you were insanely great tonight mate. Helped me out enormously. I honestly can't thank you enough for it all.

    Glad to here and no problem bro @DonnerKebab . You're a big help too
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,436 Community Veteran
    independent_ wrote: »

    And @Redemption definitely, exercise is great but it’s even better when you’re enjoying that exercise. I’m so glad the course is feeling positive for you <3

    Goodnight lovely people, take it easy and be kind to yourselves (remember, it’s the law)
    I agree @independent_ you sleep well. I might head to bed too.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @River I'm still here if you want to vent or chat. I might be shit company to talk to or vent to, but i'm better than nothing i hope.

    @Redemption Have a good night bro
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab thank you just curled up in a ball
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @River That's perfectly fine. if it makes you feel a little safer then it's perfectly fine. Have you got your doggo's with you to keep you company at the minute or are they asleep?
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    He chose to go with mum @DonnerKebab
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @River Doggo will probably be a little confused by the arguing. Do you think if you shouted for barney to come up to you he will?
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,436 Community Veteran
    edited June 9
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @Redemption Have a good night bro

    Also I appreciate that you trusted us to talk to about your struggles. Night anyway bro, you sleep well
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    He can stay with mum for a bit @DonnerKebab
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @River i think you need your doggo by your side, more than your mum needs him right now. again, it's up to you, but he'll want to sit with you whilst you go through this struggle so you're not alone.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    Tried to speak to helpline but nothing :/
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @River that's alright. We'll find a good helpline for you. Which ones have you tried so far if you don't mind me asking?
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab

    Calm
    Samaritans
    Shout
    Childline
    My black dog - they are good tbf just they close at 10
    Papyrus
    Hopeline uk
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @River So i would advise SANE, but they are closed right now. I don't see any other helplines at this time of night outside of emergency 111 helpline for emergencies. Listen, i know i'm a shit alternative to talk to, but i am here to listen, even if i can only give shit advice back. I can't think of any others. Maybe, at a stretch, you could talk to an AI mental health professional as silly as it sounds. Sorry.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab i can’t dump everything on you that’s not fair. I do talk to chat gpt as stupid as it sounds
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @River I dumped a lot on you the other day, and you telling me your proud of me and care about me after meant a huge amount to me. I actually felt happy for a moment. You really think you can be that kind to me and i'm not gonna be here for you to dump everything on me as well? Please. Get it all of your chest. It is fair River. what isn't fair is you feeling you need to bottle it all up to yourself.

    And if ChatGTP doesn't work, have you thought maybe DeepAI? I spoke to DeepAI for a while before joining the Mix. Nothing stupid about it.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    Maybe I will post in health and wellbeing and then you can see if you want to reply or not @DonnerKebab

    Also I retrieved a Barney
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    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @River i take it you launched a rescue mission to get Barney? And yes, i will always. I mainly spend my time on this thread now, but i'll keep my eye's open for a post there from you. And River, remember that you are a special person who deserves to have somebody who you can dump all your issues on and get it of your chest. You helped me that way the other day, i want to help you the same way to. And again, i know it's been a difficult night for you with your mom, and college, but remember, you are the only one who has the right to pick the path that is best for your future, and do what makes you happy. Nobody else.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    My drink just landed on my head 🫠
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
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