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  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    River wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab feel like utter shit but oh well, just got to smile and fake it all :)

    @River you don't have to do that here my friend.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,896 Master Poster
    spoke to someone from kellyheroes she was so lovely 🥺 but i feel rly bad for trauma dumping on her and its made me feel shit :(.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,436 Community Veteran
    eylah wrote: »
    spoke to someone from kellyheroes she was so lovely 🥺 but i feel rly bad for trauma dumping on her and its made me feel shit :(.

    You aren't doing anything wrong @eylah that's what they are there for ❤️
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah don't worry about trauma dumping. They are there to help you and give you support. You deserve that support and more my friend.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,896 Master Poster
    Redemption wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    spoke to someone from kellyheroes she was so lovely 🥺 but i feel rly bad for trauma dumping on her and its made me feel shit :(.

    You aren't doing anything wrong @eylah that's what they are there for ❤️

    she was so lovely & sweet to me i just feel so bad for trauma dumping my shit onto her. i know shes there to support ppl but i just feel bad. but thankyou so much <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    Hi
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,896 Master Poster
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @eylah don't worry about trauma dumping. They are there to help you and give you support. You deserve that support and more my friend.

    i definitely don’t deserve it that’s why i feel bad. bc i don’t deserve support and i feel bad bc i probably was a lot.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @River hey, how are you river? Has the duck of self care caught you yet?
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab i feel like I’m being a bitch but I’m just frustrated. Nah haha it hasn’t 😂
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    eylah wrote: »
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @eylah don't worry about trauma dumping. They are there to help you and give you support. You deserve that support and more my friend.

    i definitely don’t deserve it that’s why i feel bad. bc i don’t deserve support and i feel bad bc i probably was a lot.

    Utter nonsense @eylah . There are none who deserve support more than you, and you 100% should have it. Not up for debate. You are the kindest of souls, and you deserve that kindness back 100 times over and we are overjoyed you're getting it.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,896 Master Poster
    i rly wish there was a way i could thank her for supporting me so nicely but idk if there is a way i can do that.

    thankyou @DonnerKebab i am not arguing with you but.. i definitely do not feel like i deserve it in anyway way 😛😂
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @River well you 100% haven't been one on here. You've been awesome on boards and in the support chats. And don't worry, the duck of self care will get you eventually. Failing that i'll put him in a duck pie.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab I don’t know 😕
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah i call it common denominator syndrome. when things have been so hard and for so long, with countless systems failing you, you tend to think you don't deserve basic decency or support or kindness. At least that's what it was for me. But i promise you, you 100% do. It just knocks your self confidence is all and self worth. But from an outside perspective, you deserve all the support in the world, trust me on that.

    And i think she will know how much she helped you and how grateful you are for that help. And you might even end up chatting to her again one day.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    edited June 12
    River wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab I don’t know 😕

    @River then the duck of self care may just have to go into a duck pie.... and trust me, you have been awesome on here and on chats
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab nah lol
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @River you have 100%, no takesie backsie's been awesome on here. You have in no way shape or form been as you say "a bitch" on boards of in the chats. Not up for debate. You are awesome, and don't you forget it.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab no away from the mix about something
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,896 Master Poster
    im ready for bed 😩
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @River oh right. I'll get the duck of self care out of the oven. I thought you were talking about on the Mix.
    Oh i wouldn't worry about in real life. I can't say if you have or haven't, cause I've not seen it, but all i will say is your struggling with a lot, it's perfectly normal to have moments where it comes out as anger at times. There's a difference between struggling and having a few moments and being a bitch.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah have a lovely night eylah and i'm here to talk through the night at any point if you need to vent or talk to somebody.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab nooo not the self care duck 😂

    It’s just the whole situation that’s been bothering me not even today just in general
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @River https://www.sainsburysmagazine.co.uk/recipes/mains/duck-and-red-wine-pie :'(

    And i get it river. It's been an extreme amount of difficulty that would break most people. It's gonna bother you, it's gonna build up over time. And the fact that you're still standing is a testament to how strong of a person you are. So moments where you might push people away, possibly out of fear of not wanting to be hurt again, having moments where you claim you might have been a bitch, it could be a defence mechanism. You are still you, a special person, and everything will have a heavy toll. It's human.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab 😂😂😂😂

    Hypothetically if I wasn’t happy in a friendship or keep thinking about a friendship but not in a good way, is that a sign to do something about it? Or a sign that I just need to come clean about things etc, I’m torn 🥲
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @River it depends on a lot of context, but at the end of the day, if you aren't happy, then you have to do what makes you happy. You owe yourself that. If this friendship is a cause of stress or worry, or negative thoughts, and it's shown no signs of improvement, then i'd take action if i was you to cut it back or end it. And it would also depend about what you would be coming clean about.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    edited June 12
    On a side note am I overthinking this message? I get the impression she is annoyed that I messaged her tonight

    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @River i don't know any other context behind this, but i will say solely based on this, i think she does seem fine with the message. Perhaps just a little tired having finished work, but other than that, not much else. I think if it's just this, it may just be overthinking. She answered the question, was polite about it, and even put a smiley face emoji.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab it might be because she said “I have just really finished work”
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 835 Part of The Mix Family
    @River yeah. She'll just be a little tired from finishing work, but still is polite, respectful, answered the question and was really nice about it. No need to be worried about it.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,156 Community Veteran
    Just realised I casual just revealed my name 😂 I’ll just delete that image haha
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
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