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Neighbours
Redemption
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A few years ago, when we were in the process of moving, we would often go to the house to gradually move things across. It was around this time that everything with the neighbours took a turn. At first, I thought they were nice people, young, with nice cars, and just settling into a home they had worked hard for. I admired that, thinking it was great to see people achieving independence and getting a house of their own. It made me think about my own future, wanting to buy a house and settle down with the right person, and it reminded me that if hundreds of people can do it, why couldn’t I eventually? But anyway, that’s a whole other story. At first, our relationship with them was decent, not super close, but good terms, with no issues. Then, several months later, everything changed so unexpectedly. It’s just not the best situation to be in, and while I know it could be worse, there are far worse situations out there, it’s still something I wish never happened.
We recently received a parcel for our neighbours, which brought back memories from nearly two years ago when they came over aggressively and made violent threats against our household. They threatened to kill us, used derogatory language, and made personal comments about our employment situation. The situation escalated to the point where the police had to get involved. At the time, we were simply moving suitcases around the house late at night to prepare for a holiday, not playing loud music or making unreasonable noise. Despite this, they made threats, and while we’ve lived in several attached houses before without issues, this was the first time something so extreme happened.
Since then, the relationship with our neighbours has remained strained. We don’t speak to each other, but there are occasional moments of eye contact when we see each other, though no words are exchanged. There have been some minor follow-up issues that led to formal boundaries being put in place. It’s not ideal living next door to someone with whom we’re on bad terms, and there’s still a bit of sting from that past encounter. I wasn’t scared for our safety at the time, but the threats and personal remarks about employment were unsettling, especially considering how challenging things have been. It feels frustrating that we were targeted over something relatively minor, while other people on the street have made far more noise without issue.
We recently received a parcel for our neighbours, which brought back memories from nearly two years ago when they came over aggressively and made violent threats against our household. They threatened to kill us, used derogatory language, and made personal comments about our employment situation. The situation escalated to the point where the police had to get involved. At the time, we were simply moving suitcases around the house late at night to prepare for a holiday, not playing loud music or making unreasonable noise. Despite this, they made threats, and while we’ve lived in several attached houses before without issues, this was the first time something so extreme happened.
Since then, the relationship with our neighbours has remained strained. We don’t speak to each other, but there are occasional moments of eye contact when we see each other, though no words are exchanged. There have been some minor follow-up issues that led to formal boundaries being put in place. It’s not ideal living next door to someone with whom we’re on bad terms, and there’s still a bit of sting from that past encounter. I wasn’t scared for our safety at the time, but the threats and personal remarks about employment were unsettling, especially considering how challenging things have been. It feels frustrating that we were targeted over something relatively minor, while other people on the street have made far more noise without issue.
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Just to check, have you had any similar incidents since two years ago, or have the police been involved/contacted since that time about these neighbours (either if they had an issue with you, or any other neighbours)? I can hear that it can be frustrating having a strained relationship with next-door neighbours, and it's unfortunate that you're right next to them. How do you feel about that relationship? Do you think there's a chance that it could be repaired, or do you feel like it's not one you'd want to restart given the past incidents? I hope that you and your family are all safe - we're here to support you.
@Azziman Thank you so much for your kind and understanding message I really appreciate your support. Since the most serious incident, there haven’t been any further situations quite like that. There have been a couple of minor things, but nothing major, and the police haven’t been involved again since then.
To be honest, I still feel quite unhappy about the relationship with our neighbours as you can probably tell. I really wish the whole situation had never happened in the first place. It’s difficult living next to someone when there’s that kind of tension. That said, I think there might be a small chance of repairing things. If it were possible to put the issues behind us, I believe that would be a positive step it would certainly make things easier for everyone involved. Thanks again for being here and offering support. It really does mean a lot.