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Not feeling confident

RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,561 The Mix Elder
in Health & Wellbeing
I've been really worried about my situation lately. I’m 23, and things just haven’t clicked the way I hoped. I’ve been searching for a job for a year, focusing on basic entry-level roles, but it feels like I can’t catch a break. After finishing college a few years ago, I thought I’d be on a clear path, but instead, I’ve struggled. I didn’t get much help from the college staff, even though I reached out to my tutor and the careers advisor. I tried a forklift truck course, hoping it would open doors, but that didn’t work out either. It’s tough to see people around me moving forward, working, having relationships, while I’m stuck in a rut.

I often feel frustrated and lost, especially when I compare myself to others. For example, I rented an electric car recently, and when I saw people with nice cars, I couldn’t help but think, “Why am I still here, not working, stuck with my first car?” It’s hard not to feel like I’m falling behind, but I remind myself that everyone’s journey is different. The pressure to succeed and make something of my life is overwhelming, and it’s even harder when people make negative comments or doubt me, especially when I’m already feeling insecure about my situation. I’m still determined to secure a better future. I want to have savings, buy a house, drive a decent car, and maybe even find a partner. I know all of that takes time, and right now, I’m focusing on the first step getting a job. Despite the challenges, I’m grateful for the support I’ve received in trying to get into work, and I hope to continue getting help moving forward.

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  • AzzimanAzziman Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 2,302 Boards Champion
    Hey @Redemption, thank you for reaching out. I can hear that you're worried about the current situation, and that things aren't going the way you hoped. It's natural to feel frustrated, especially when we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing better. I'm glad to hear that you're still determined and striving for your goals, and taking things one step at a time. Each day that you're fighting to make those goals a reality is a step forward. I'm hopeful that you'll get that offer soon, and we're here to support you on this journey!
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  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,561 The Mix Elder
    Azziman wrote: »
    Hey @Redemption, thank you for reaching out. I can hear that you're worried about the current situation, and that things aren't going the way you hoped. It's natural to feel frustrated, especially when we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing better. I'm glad to hear that you're still determined and striving for your goals, and taking things one step at a time. Each day that you're fighting to make those goals a reality is a step forward. I'm hopeful that you'll get that offer soon, and we're here to support you on this journey!

    Thanks so much @Azziman
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