If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Overload at volunteering, talking about this? Conflicting adjustments?
Invisible_me
Posts: 248 Trailblazer
Hi .
So I went volunteering on weekend ended up getting really sensory bothered from my clothes unexpectedly and new people around, change that I managed to took myself away for break but cried cried massively! Wrapped myself up in the sensory blanket but couldn't let go so it took me half an hour to go back in no one checked in on me to see where I was, how o was, still obviously unsettled once getting in byt tridd to carry on and self stim as went alobg. But kept crying at intervals in the end got to the point where I was having sh urges and scratched myself in discreet, slapped rubber bands across my wrist whethet they saw this dunno?
I was umming and arghng going home but that would break by routine and made me feel a failure, which makes me worse
I didn't approach the 1 familiar staff whose aware of me because she was busy doibgv her jobs and felt scares to drop a teams message.
So plundered through. Other volunteers knew there was something ip and I dobt think the staff were oblivious to it either but they didn't check in. Thought ill speak to her during brief but was unfamiliar staff so shut down.
Came home sebt a text to gather number asking if either my allocated supervisor or previous supervisor could call me. Got a text immediately to say yes of course but now I'm scared to actually talk it throuugh. My current supervisor has said before she doesn't know if there's anything more thry can do the previous supervisor however says there is (now a semi manager think) and I'd rather talk to her but she's only supposed to be point of contact when my supervisor is on leave. I've not heard from either supervisor yet.
Should I talk it throuugh, hsve talked through previous shifts I've struggled. And genuinely they are understanding. Is there a polite way of speaking to my previous supervisor instead. In October I emailed her to talj through difficulti shifts byt my supervisor was in leave and she said she'll let me supervisor know and for her to catch-up with me on it but she didn't.
So I went volunteering on weekend ended up getting really sensory bothered from my clothes unexpectedly and new people around, change that I managed to took myself away for break but cried cried massively! Wrapped myself up in the sensory blanket but couldn't let go so it took me half an hour to go back in no one checked in on me to see where I was, how o was, still obviously unsettled once getting in byt tridd to carry on and self stim as went alobg. But kept crying at intervals in the end got to the point where I was having sh urges and scratched myself in discreet, slapped rubber bands across my wrist whethet they saw this dunno?
I was umming and arghng going home but that would break by routine and made me feel a failure, which makes me worse
I didn't approach the 1 familiar staff whose aware of me because she was busy doibgv her jobs and felt scares to drop a teams message.
So plundered through. Other volunteers knew there was something ip and I dobt think the staff were oblivious to it either but they didn't check in. Thought ill speak to her during brief but was unfamiliar staff so shut down.
Came home sebt a text to gather number asking if either my allocated supervisor or previous supervisor could call me. Got a text immediately to say yes of course but now I'm scared to actually talk it throuugh. My current supervisor has said before she doesn't know if there's anything more thry can do the previous supervisor however says there is (now a semi manager think) and I'd rather talk to her but she's only supposed to be point of contact when my supervisor is on leave. I've not heard from either supervisor yet.
Should I talk it throuugh, hsve talked through previous shifts I've struggled. And genuinely they are understanding. Is there a polite way of speaking to my previous supervisor instead. In October I emailed her to talj through difficulti shifts byt my supervisor was in leave and she said she'll let me supervisor know and for her to catch-up with me on it but she didn't.
links with other thread of talking ans being open to supervisor on this thread, links with autism and clothes and follow on from work thread
3
Comments
Thank you for reply. My current supervisor called me today, I did pick it up but I said I was at work so she said she'll phone me tomorrow... im really scared foe it now. Today when she phoned I was like just before in floods of tears.
If I don't feel comfortable with it, how can I politely ask to spwak to the other one?
It's also awkward because she's phoning me at 3pm and that's such an awkward time everyone will be at home then. Thank you.
If you’re not comfortable speaking with your current supervisor, you could politely ask to speak with the other supervisor instead. You could say something like, "Would it be possible to speak with (other supervisor’s name) instead? I feel more comfortable discussing this with them."
For the timing, if 3 PM isn’t ideal, you could also ask if there’s a better time that works for both of you. Hope it goes okay.