Mum

nem

My parents won’t let me live with them unless I tell them all the dates of all my mental health appointments

shannon_164

hey @nem 🙂

that really unfair, and i’m sorry they’re putting you in that position. you deserve support and a safe place to live without having to give up your privacy and share things like dates of mental health appointments, unless that is what YOU want, not your family, but YOU. your mental health is your business, and it’s not right for them to make that a condition for having a home.

do you think there’s any way to set a boundary with them, or would that just make things worse? if you don’t feel comfortable sharing everything, maybe there’s a way to give them just enough information to ease the situation without sacrificing your privacy completely?

whatever happens, you’re not alone in this - we’re all here for you

nem

They’re 100% not okay with me setting a boundary with them on this lol, it seems ,lol
I mean I’m planning on cancelling my next one, I’m not lying if it’s not happening

nem

Like
Idk
They didn’t say I’m not allowed to cancel an appointment
They did say I have to attend all appointment

nem

nem

This is what they said to me

nem

2 days ago my mum said I was officially homeless
It lasted for 1 hr

nem

I have an appointment scheduled for Monday
I never wanted to go to it in the first place
I want to cancel it

nem

My parents have not been told the date of this appointment unless there has been a mistake with the NHS, they took me to A&E without telling me the other day and then got me to agree to outpatient treatment because they were threatening me with homelessness

shannon_164

i really do hear how hard this is for you @nem - you deserve to feel safe and not have to worry about potentially becoming homeless.

always here for you

Laura_tigger82

I can hear how your family are trying to care for you @nem, even though it may not feel like care. For you, it sounds more threatening than support, am I hearing this right? Have you talked to them about how you feel with these rules? I am hearing all the other rules appear okay for you at the moment but attending your mental health appointments is particularly difficult.

Having to tell them when all your appointments are is potentially a sense of additional pressure. Am I hearing this right - is there anything which might help the mental health appointments to feel more accessible and comfortable at the moment? We care about you and are here to support you