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iām not 100% sure if this is the right category as it could really be more than one so i apologise if this is the wrong place to post this!!!
basically im at college and i have a mentor, it took about 3 months to get that support in place and a lot of hassle with doctors, mental health team & youth workers alongside college throwing up some problems too:/ but i finally got it, and after waiting so long im actually super disappointed in the āsupportā. i had such high hopes for it as i know that having a mentor is not to help me actually do my work content wise but to help me organise stuff, understand terminology of questions and keep on top of my work etc - i am not on top of my work, dont understand what i have to do most of the time and cant organise my work. everything i say about and mention how im behind and stressed, for example, coursework deadlines, all i got was āoh its too close to the deadline nowā - i got absolutely no support i just had to do it alone which resulted in spending so many hours in tears because i was so stressed because i couldnāt organise the work / understand parts of it, once i get an understanding and have some organisation im ok with what i need to do but i really struggle with getting to the stage where i am ok. in sessions so far we have covered how to pass a history exam at uni - i do not do history, or anything remotely close to history at college, that he doesnāt know how to aim for anything less than the highest grade, that you should do revision etc in smaller chunks eg 1 hour then break than another hour and so on rather than 5 hours straight and thatās about it really. yesterday during the session he was going on n on about how i shouldāve answered a 4 mark question in my exam and im no examiner or teacher but i dont think his answer actually answered the question in any way for the most part lol but it was a really hard session as i just had no interest.
we got send through an email with a feedback form from inclusive learning about the support youāre receiving. i rated it 1 star and just said how given how long i waited for the support, im actually super disappointed in it:( i dont even feel supported and still am yet to look at stuff thats actually helpful for me and my course specifically after weeks of it now. i then got an email from the mentors manager and she said how my learning support officer will call me to chat about my feedback form and i then replied sharing i dont like phone calls so can he either do a teams call or email me or face to face so he has now came back to me saying about face to face and itās at 1pm on monday. iām super anxious about it as i really struggle to talk to people in general so itās going to be really hard. i also mentioned in my feedback form how im not very comfy with the mentor himself given past experiences, one of which actually happened in a college library (there was 2 other situations in a workplace and another in the street) so im really scared that im going to have to talk about that probably:/ but im really struggling with that aspect too, and more so since now they canāt do mentoring sessions in the main library and it has to be in a study room so itās just us both alone in a room - im not saying he has done anything or he has tried to do anything, pls donāt at all think that as that is not the case, there hasnāt been anything at all like that from him however due to past experiences i just always have that fear i guess?
i am just super anxious about monday now - we have 2 new teachers so im really anxious about that change too as i struggle so so much with change and then the stress of new units etc too. i feel so so silly for even feeling this way to be honest:(
basically im at college and i have a mentor, it took about 3 months to get that support in place and a lot of hassle with doctors, mental health team & youth workers alongside college throwing up some problems too:/ but i finally got it, and after waiting so long im actually super disappointed in the āsupportā. i had such high hopes for it as i know that having a mentor is not to help me actually do my work content wise but to help me organise stuff, understand terminology of questions and keep on top of my work etc - i am not on top of my work, dont understand what i have to do most of the time and cant organise my work. everything i say about and mention how im behind and stressed, for example, coursework deadlines, all i got was āoh its too close to the deadline nowā - i got absolutely no support i just had to do it alone which resulted in spending so many hours in tears because i was so stressed because i couldnāt organise the work / understand parts of it, once i get an understanding and have some organisation im ok with what i need to do but i really struggle with getting to the stage where i am ok. in sessions so far we have covered how to pass a history exam at uni - i do not do history, or anything remotely close to history at college, that he doesnāt know how to aim for anything less than the highest grade, that you should do revision etc in smaller chunks eg 1 hour then break than another hour and so on rather than 5 hours straight and thatās about it really. yesterday during the session he was going on n on about how i shouldāve answered a 4 mark question in my exam and im no examiner or teacher but i dont think his answer actually answered the question in any way for the most part lol but it was a really hard session as i just had no interest.
we got send through an email with a feedback form from inclusive learning about the support youāre receiving. i rated it 1 star and just said how given how long i waited for the support, im actually super disappointed in it:( i dont even feel supported and still am yet to look at stuff thats actually helpful for me and my course specifically after weeks of it now. i then got an email from the mentors manager and she said how my learning support officer will call me to chat about my feedback form and i then replied sharing i dont like phone calls so can he either do a teams call or email me or face to face so he has now came back to me saying about face to face and itās at 1pm on monday. iām super anxious about it as i really struggle to talk to people in general so itās going to be really hard. i also mentioned in my feedback form how im not very comfy with the mentor himself given past experiences, one of which actually happened in a college library (there was 2 other situations in a workplace and another in the street) so im really scared that im going to have to talk about that probably:/ but im really struggling with that aspect too, and more so since now they canāt do mentoring sessions in the main library and it has to be in a study room so itās just us both alone in a room - im not saying he has done anything or he has tried to do anything, pls donāt at all think that as that is not the case, there hasnāt been anything at all like that from him however due to past experiences i just always have that fear i guess?
i am just super anxious about monday now - we have 2 new teachers so im really anxious about that change too as i struggle so so much with change and then the stress of new units etc too. i feel so so silly for even feeling this way to be honest:(
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