18/12/24 Christmas Support Thread

Claire28

shannonxg_ wrote: »

@Claire28 its just because i am seen as such a problem and no one tries to understand how i feel. as soon as youth workers from education authority suggested additional learning needs, specifically adhd, my mum shut that down immediately:( i just want to be understood and i feel like no one gets me. i got super lucky with the psychologist, she genuinely is the best person in the world and has never once made me feel silly for feeling how i feel or invalidated anything so im really grateful for that. TW!! even today i said how a counsellor told me i self harm for attention, my social worker agreed on that and the psychologist immediately said that they were wrong for doing that - everyone always justifies what they said as correct - but she immediately said it was wrong and yes for sure their jobs can be so challenging at times and emotionally draining etc but it still does not at all justify what they said, she didn’t at all try to justify what they said and it felt so good?

honestly i don’t really remember last christmas. i know the year before a person my mum was seeing came down and it was like kinda awkward:/

I'm sorry you feel no one understands you, that sounds very painful. You deserve to feel understood. I can hear how invalidating it must feel to have your mum shut down the youth works who suggested additional learning needs and ADHD. You should never feel silly for how you feel

I'm really glad to hear your psychologist is so supportive. I can imagine that hearing those comments from a counsellor and social worker felt distressing and by your psychologist not justifying that felt validating. I'm glad that felt good.

You're doing really well talking here. When it comes to Christmas, what would you like people in your life to understand about what you need to make it less overwhelming?

shannonxg_

@Claire28 i just need understood in general but nobody is ever going to:(

eylah

i went ice skating was rly gd! saw christmas lights to @Maia ❤️. she got rushed into hospital yesterday and had surgery today bc of what happened ( not rly appropriate to say tbh) but im just so hoping nothing bad happens now shes had the surgery like it did with mum. first christmas alone in my homeless flat out sucks bc i was wanting to celebrate etc but i cant be i am alone i have noone 💔 im already struggling with it and its next week.. 💔 tbh my mental health nurse is taking me to maccies next week bc she knows how hard it is for me butttt maiaaa! if i continue being safe with medication i get my antipsychotic medication back they helped me! she emailed my psychiatrist explaining how well im doing rn so thats positive i hope my psychiatrist is proud of me ( hes a bugger) 😂❤️ aw I missed you more bc your the besttt ❤️

Maia

Eeeek. I actually can't even imagine. You were so brave to let her read everything and I am SO stinkin glad that she is someone who is kind and validating, seriously, it's a relief to know you have your psychologist in your corner - it can make such a difference to feel genuinely supported like that

Her response to what those other professionals said is exactly what you deserve: compassion and understanding, not judgment. I'm glad that she didn't try to justify their behaviour, not that she could. They were so disgusting for what they said

It's so disheartening when people don't listen Shannon, I'm so sorry that your mum shut that down I have ADHD and I know how it can often be misunderstood. It’s great that youth workers recognised the possibility. It’s not your fault if others can’t or won’t acknowledge what you’re trying to explain - that's on them !

You’re doing so well, even though it’s been so hard I hope you can hold onto that reassurance from your psychologist—it sounds like she really sees and values you for who you are. And I really value you too, you’re such a kind and thoughtful person, even when you’re struggling.

@shannonxg_

Maia

Y'all, i'm going to brb for 5 minutes or so. Claire is still here to look after you all!

eylah

see you soon @Maia ❤️

TheNightmare

Maia wrote: »

I'm glad you can trust this place @TheNightmare . I know how much the community means to the staff and moderators. They all work really hard to make sure it's a safe space for y'all to open up

Everything you're feeling right now is totally valid dude. Things have been piling up overtime and it's naturally to dwell a little on those setbacks. I hear that you've been doing your bet to move forward, though, and that's something to be proud of

Well done on applying for a voluntary role! I hope you get the place and that you enjoy it. I know it wasn't something you were 100% struck on but i'm glad you took the leap and applied anyway. It'll make your CV shine

I really hope next year brings positive changes for you. You've been working so hard and you deserve that breakthrough. We will all be cheering when you do!

I promiseee I’ll keep everyone updated, and hopefully I can stay connected with y'all

The Audi is running great! I have the hots for a BMW X3 I saw though, soo temping to treat myself to a new car but i best not hahah My poor audi.

@Maia it's all down to you amazing mods. I and I'm sure everyone values all the work yiu do and its from the kindness of your hearts. Hopefully I can move forward and it's good like my determination because I'm not just going to continue wanting to sit at home that's the biggest fear I'm all this I refuse to accept that, it what gives me dark thoughts, it's bad to ve true that I'll be like this permanently. Hopefully it's soon now maybe just a matter of experience, a few people have said that. I appreciate the encouragement and stuff like I've applied to a few. Will be so sad for you to leave probably for you too, we'd be losing an incredible mod. Haha, I'd you can confortably afford it maybe you should, I don't wanna push you though lol. If you do get the bmw and want to get rid of your Audi im here, I'll take it and clear driveway space free of charge lol. Joking. I like Teslas though like the latest model 3 looks really cool. I used to like jaguar but not anymore after their new rebrand.

Claire28

shannonxg_ wrote: »

@Claire28 i just need understood in general but nobody is ever going to:(

I hear you Shannon, we're here for you

eylah

hope your ok @Maia ❤️

Claire28

@eylah I'm sorry to hear about your sister, it sounds like a really worrying and stressful. Wishing her a speedy recovery. It's completely understandable to find Christmas lonely. You have us to keep you company if you wanted to join the movie afternoon and quizzes.

Can you think of something you might like to do at Christmas? I like to catch up on TV or read when I'm on my own, sometimes the radio is company too.

That;s great news about your medication, I'm proud of how hard you are trying

shannonxg_

@Maia it took a LOT to show her, and she actually realised that without me even having to say - she said how she knows that it definitely was not an easy thing and that she really does appreciate me sharing it with her, especially as we’ve only had 2 sessions so far so it’s really soon to share so much; she had said how last session she was really struggling because she wasn’t sure why i was so reluctant to open up to her so writing it all out and letting her read it has really helped her as she has got so much more information to go of now and that she can really see why i struggle with opening up too so knowing that the reason i was holding back was because of past experiences and fear etc rather than because i didn’t want to be there is super helpful for her and that they are more than willing to give me time to open up now they know that i do want to be there n everything but i just need time - the FIRST ever time i’ve felt so understood!

it’s scary how she is the first professional to not attempt to justify what they said… the last one to do so was the social worker who said she wasn’t wrong as it’s true, she could have just worded it a bit better like no, it was SO wrong and no at all true!!!!!!

i did try and get somewhere with it, the youth workers wrote me a letter for the gp and i showed him it and his response was “oh em we don’t have an adults adhd service in northern ireland”, he was so unwilling to do anything about it at all:( im not sure what else to do.

i just wish that i was more understood, especially times like christmas as it would make it so much easier i think. this is gonna be super silly but im really happy the psychologist offered me an appointment on 6th january, i was so happy when she said that because that’s my birthday which i also hate too so i get to see her on my birthday then so at least ill have someone that i want to see that day - how embarrassing im really happy to see a psychologist on my birthday, what a sad life…

thank you so so much maia i am really grateful for all the support you give me, you genuinely are such an amazing person🩷

eylah

@Claire28 hey! i don’t have a tv or anything so i cant do anything’fun’ or to take my mind of stuff which is hard. im probably just going to cry the whole day and hopefully it will end soon. thankyou for replying to me your very kind! ❤️

TheNightmare

eylah wrote: »

TheNightmare wrote: »

Hey @eylah

hi

Im so sorry with what you’ve been going through and still are.

Maia

Aww @eylah I am SO glad you went out to enjoy your day. I bet the christmas lights were beautiful!

I'm so stinkin sorry to hear about your sister - that must have been so scary for you Eylah I can totally see why it might bring up those difficult feelings about your mum too. It’s completely natural to feel anxious after everything, but it sounds like your sister is in good hands now I really hope the surgery helps her heal, and she can start to recover without complications. You’re being so strong, it's really not fair you're having to go through this.

Christmas sounds so hard this year, and it’s okay to feel upset about being alone. It’s such a difficult season when things already feel heavy, and I’m really glad your mental health nurse is being so thoughtful in taking you out next week. Enjoy being out, Eylah Even small things like that can be a comfort when everything feels overwhelming! Also, how amazing is it that you’re doing so well with your medication and might get your antipsychotics back!!??? That’s such an achievement! So stinkin proud of you and I bet your psychiatrist is proud of you too, even if he’s a “bugger” 😂—it’s not an easy journey, and you’re doing incredibly well. Well done

I’m always here rooting for you

aw I missed you more bc your the besttt ❤️

Maia

eylah wrote: »

hope your ok @Maia ❤️

I'm good, thank you! hahah literally just trying to convince a toddler to go to sleep!! I'm back now

Claire28

eylah wrote: »

@Claire28 hey! i don’t have a tv or anything so i cant do anything’fun’ or to take my mind of stuff which is hard. im probably just going to cry the whole day and hopefully it will end soon. thankyou for replying to me your very kind! ❤️

I hope the day passes peacefully for you. There's nothing wrong with crying and letting our emotions out especially when you are holding a lot. Sometimes it can be the release we need.

TheNightmare

Maia wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

hope your ok @Maia ❤️

I'm good, thank you! hahah literally just trying to convince a toddler to go to sleep!! I'm back now

Are they are sibling or something?

Maia

Thank you so much—that means a lot to hear. You’re so kind, and I know I speak for all of us when I say it’s a privilege to support you all. ❤️ Your determination is genuinely inspiring, and I think that’s going to be the key to you moving forward. It’s totally valid to feel scared about being stuck, but it’s clear you’re not someone who’s going to settle for that !

I know waiting can be tough but you're doing so well with it all. It’s also great to hear people have been encouraging about the experience side of things because that’s often the gateway to more opportunities. Keep holding onto that determination ❤️

Haha, I love that! You're a chancer I’ll keep you in mind if I ever decide to part ways with the Audi, but I think you’d rock a Tesla Model 3 too, it’s such a beautiful car. I was also a bit unsure about Jaguars rebrand, what was that all about?

Let's hope 2025 is your year !

@TheNightmare

Maia

TheNightmare wrote: »

Maia wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

hope your ok @Maia ❤️

I'm good, thank you! hahah literally just trying to convince a toddler to go to sleep!! I'm back now

Are they are sibling or something?

It's my friends child. My friend is staying at mine right now so I have the bed time duties haha @TheNightmare

Maia

She sounds like the perfect person to have in your corner @shannonxg_ 🥺 It's like she saw straight through you, she must be very skilled at her job! That feeling of finally being heard and not having to justify yourself is so rare, but it’s so good to hear that you're feeling that now – you've waited too long for that feeling!

Your response from your GP is so frustrating UGHHH. Why do they have to suck so much?! I am really glad that you've got people like your youth workers helping you out though Shannon, Keep pushing, because even if it feels like you’re hitting walls sometimes, It's so important to advocate for yourself

And don’t worry about being happy to see the psychologist on your birthday! That’s not sad at all – in fact, I think it’s amazing that you’ve got someone who makes you feel safe and supported, especially on a day that can be tough. So i'm GLAD you are seeing her on your birthday. I’m sure you’re not alone in feeling better about seeing someone who truly gets you

Big big big hugs You're an amazing person too, Shannon! Thank you for trusting me with all of this

TheNightmare

Maia wrote: »

Thank you so much—that means a lot to hear. You’re so kind, and I know I speak for all of us when I say it’s a privilege to support you all. ❤️ Your determination is genuinely inspiring, and I think that’s going to be the key to you moving forward. It’s totally valid to feel scared about being stuck, but it’s clear you’re not someone who’s going to settle for that !

I know waiting can be tough but you're doing so well with it all. It’s also great to hear people have been encouraging about the experience side of things because that’s often the gateway to more opportunities. Keep holding onto that determination ❤️

Haha, I love that! You're a chancer I’ll keep you in mind if I ever decide to part ways with the Audi, but I think you’d rock a Tesla Model 3 too, it’s such a beautiful car. I was also a bit unsure about Jaguars rebrand, what was that all about?

Let's hope 2025 is your year !

@TheNightmare

@Maia no problem at all, your replies are giving me a smile ear to ear despite things nit being too easy atm. Yh waiting is tough. I guess im moving more forward and looking and trying and a few like courses are coming up. I think volunteering should he something I could get soon and get onto the next thing coz everyone just wants money and some might not do it.

I couldn't actually take a free car off you lol I should be the one giving you one I should buy yiu the bmw. Yh I might rock a model 3 but I don't think my bank account would haha. 1 day though, like a model 3 preformance and all the new jags in the rebrand if anyone buys any of course lol and leave them in the dust hahaha.

TheNightmare

Maia wrote: »

TheNightmare wrote: »

Maia wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

hope your ok @Maia ❤️

I'm good, thank you! hahah literally just trying to convince a toddler to go to sleep!! I'm back now

Are they are sibling or something?

It's my friends child. My friend is staying at mine right now so I have the bed time duties haha @TheNightmare

Haha, cool, I hope you have a great time though on a serious note.

shannonxg_

@Maia im super grateful for her i really did get so lucky!! she’s in the final year of her degree so everyone was like hmmm she won’t be great since she’s not actually qualified but she is amazing!!!! she’s been much better than most other professionals i’ve encountered for sureeee

im so glad i will see her on my birthday, even tho it sounds super silly haha

i appreciate you a lot maia - you deserve a medal for listening to me n all my issues😂thank you so so so much🩷

TheNightmare

Also do you know if you'll be on Friday chat thread or if it will be running this week @Maia ? I saw it wasnt on last week and was a bit upset which is all me, I understand fully things come up in you mods life too.

Maia

@Maia no problem at all, your replies are giving me a smile ear to ear despite things nit being too easy atm. Yh waiting is tough. I guess im moving more forward and looking and trying and a few like courses are coming up. I think volunteering should he something I could get soon and get onto the next thing coz everyone just wants money and some might not do it.

I couldn't actually take a free car off you lol I should be the one giving you one I should buy yiu the bmw. Yh I might rock a model 3 but I don't think my bank account would haha. 1 day though, like a model 3 preformance and all the new jags in the rebrand if anyone buys any of course lol and leave them in the dust hahaha.

I'm really proud of you, it might sound cliche but seriously, you're doing very well.

and ahaaa that made me laugh It's a shame because Jags are beauties but that rebrand is cringeworthy

Take it easy tonight, do something for you. You deserve a chilled out night

TheNightmare

Thanks so much @Maia and @Claire28 for running this tonight I hope you both have an amazing evening and rest of the week.

Claire28

Thank you for sharing tonight everyone We're coming to the end of this Christmas Support Thread. I really hope you found it useful
We know things can be tough right now. If you need someone to talk to this evening, head over to General Chat on Chatwee. Support chat is closed tonight. Your determination, strength and resilience is inspiring.
Be kind to yourselves

Maia

shannonxg_ wrote: »

@Maia im super grateful for her i really did get so lucky!! she’s in the final year of her degree so everyone was like hmmm she won’t be great since she’s not actually qualified but she is amazing!!!! she’s been much better than most other professionals i’ve encountered for sureeee

im so glad i will see her on my birthday, even tho it sounds super silly haha

i appreciate you a lot maia - you deserve a medal for listening to me n all my issues😂thank you so so so much🩷

It's sad to say it but knowing what professionals are like now a days, you did indeed get lucky She sounds amazing and i'm grateful that she's taking care of you so well.

I appreciate you too, thank you for being here tonight, look after yourself and i'll see you soon!

TheNightmare

Maia wrote: »

@Maia no problem at all, your replies are giving me a smile ear to ear despite things nit being too easy atm. Yh waiting is tough. I guess im moving more forward and looking and trying and a few like courses are coming up. I think volunteering should he something I could get soon and get onto the next thing coz everyone just wants money and some might not do it.

I couldn't actually take a free car off you lol I should be the one giving you one I should buy yiu the bmw. Yh I might rock a model 3 but I don't think my bank account would haha. 1 day though, like a model 3 preformance and all the new jags in the rebrand if anyone buys any of course lol and leave them in the dust hahaha.

I'm really proud of you, it might sound cliche but seriously, you're doing very well.

and ahaaa that made me laugh It's a shame because Jags are beauties but that rebrand is cringeworthy

Take it easy tonight, do something for you. You deserve a chilled out night

@Maia Cringe worthy hahaha , gotta be careful there's no pottential new jag owners in here hahaha. Thank you sooo much though ❤️

Maia

TheNightmare wrote: »

Also do you know if you'll be on Friday chat thread or if it will be running this week @Maia ? I saw it wasnt on last week and was a bit upset which is all me, I understand fully things come up in you mods life too.

I'm not too sure buddy, i'm sorry. I know TheMix will keep you posted. It's just if Leyla and Em have to cancel for whatever reason - fingers crossed it will run for y'all!

Goodnight friend!