Negative feelings

JMMV2005

(Disclaimer, this post mentions something quite philosophically deep that may upset people)

I’m not really sure why but over the last week I’ve started to feel pretty down and upset, I’m not 100% sure why and I feel like I shouldn’t feel like that because right now things are slowly getting better for me

I think one of the possibilities is I’m a deep thinker and I like to think deep and watch YouTube videos on philosophy and deep subjects, but I watched one and it was talking about how people can never see inside another person’s mind therefore we can’t truly understand and 100% connect with someone no matter how close we are, and that just hit me like a ton of bricks because I’m already isolated and feel like it’s just me with my thoughts, even if I’m around people, and I feel like that video has amplified it and now I feel worse and I can’t seem to stop thinking about it either, I know it sounds silly but this might be why I feel bad

Maybe some other reasons are my minds constantly deep thinking, or because theres a lot of change in my life right now, maybe it’s because I’m developing, maybe it’s because I’m thinking to far into the future

Like I said I’m not sure why I feel upset but I think it’s probably a combination of these things

Sorry if this post is silly but just getting this out there helps me feel better, like just knowing I’m not keeping this all to myself helps

Azziman

Hey @JMMV2005, thank you for sharing your feelings on here. It's not silly at all, and I'm glad to hear that expressing yourself is helpful - that's what the forum is here for! I can hear how the concept of connection is on your mind, and that you're feeling isolated especially after watching the video.

While we might not be able to connect 100% with someone, that doesn't mean that we can't form connections with people. 100% might not happen, but 90% or 80% (or even lower) is still a good connection. Connection can be strong ties that last for decades, but exists even in the small, occasional interactions we might have with people we don't know so well. Don't give up - it's okay to feel disconnected sometimes, and many people will feel that at some point in life. You're certainly not alone in how you feel

You mention that you're navigating other challenges at the moment, like life changes and developments. Would you like to explain a little more about what you're going through? We're here to listen to you

JMMV2005

@Azziman Thank you!

I’ve started to feel a little better today now I’ve had time to reflect, I was sort of in a bad mindset when I wrote this post, I’ve actually started a little notebook where I write down deep thoughts or ways of seeing truths in life that give reassurance, and that’s really helped because I feel like I can refer back to that when I’m struggling, I guess I sort of found a way to put the not being able to connect 100% with people issue into perspective, how I’ve done that is I’ve realised a true connection with someone isn’t being able to understand each other 100% but relating to each other in your own individual experiences and supporting each other in your own individual journeys, and having faith in each other despite not being able to read their minds, and I’ve also realised if someone your in a friendship/relationship with isn’t being truthful or is trying to manipulate you eventually they’ll reveal themselves because I know from experience bad people always reveal their true colours eventually if you don’t see it beforehand, and that means the longer your in a friendship/relationship with someone the more faith you can have in them

I wouldn’t say I’m going through a lot of challenges, more so a lot of changes, but that has its challenges, Like now I’m 19 everything is changing which can be scary, but I’ll find ways to put it into perspective and write them down

ebyrne556

Hey @JMMV2005 I’m really glad you’ve started to feel a bit better yesterday growing up can be really challenging and I feel like when you’re 19/20/21 it’s such a weird age transitional adulty ( ish lol) age but yes, I’m really glad that you started to write things down and you can kind of reflect on it. You’re definitely not alone in these feelings and I’m sure a lot of us here can relate I’m thinking of you and we are here if you wanna chat even just to rant about The rollercoaster that is being a young adult Sending hugs

JMMV2005

@ebyrne556 Thank you!

If I ever need to get anything off my chest I’ll be sure to post