On Tuesdays

ellie2000

On Tuesdays I go to therapy to a one tht focuses around SA. I go with a carer and the carer mouths off to get back. They agreed 30mins stay 4 me to calm down. But they still rant and 'COME ON I GOT NEXT SUPPORT' I can't shut them off n it stresses me out. I lost trust in them wen one of them left the minute I went in coz they had a huff on. and the therapist went to check, this wasn't resolved.
How should they act after I come out of therapy?
Also there was a meeting but they said wat I had done wrong, wat is tht called? I think a review is now a bullying match. Wat is a review for?
They undid all work tht my previous therapist did

Sunshine12

@ellie2000 hey, that sounds like a really stressful situation for u to experience, it also sounds very unprofessional of ur carer to take out their anger on u, sure they have other people they work with but they don't need to voice their frustrations on u as its not ur fault, is there anyone u can talk to about getting a different carer? they should definitely be more patient with ur emotions after coming out of therapy, as therapy takes a lot of energy and brings a lot of hard to deal with emotions to the surface

Azziman

Hey @ellie2000 - sorry to hear what you've had to go through. I'd agree with @Sunshine12 - this doesn't sound like the standard of care one would expect, and it's worth raising this as a complaint and looking for a different carer. There are plenty of kind and supportive carers who will give you the support and respect you deserve in this situation. Is there someone you can escalate this issue to? We're here to support you through this

ellie2000

@eylah @Azziman @Sunshine12 is there a site to tell u war care companies are in ur area. If anyone is looking at 's__nto_care' although say they've got green ticks, it's actually not tht gr8

eylah

ik youve had replies ellie but just wanted to say im so sry abt how you was treated hru today? ❤️

ellie2000

@eylah I'm gd. Mums coming to tlk to me about the emails I've been sending but manager started it asking how I was. N I told him wag I observed n wat was wrong with the place, he didn't like tht, y? Is him having my email address and emailing me unprofessional?

Sian321

Hey @ellie2000 , thanks so much for your post and for letting us know what you've been going through.

It sounds so upsetting to be ranted and shouted at by your carer after your therapy session. No one has a right to treat you that way, and you deserve support and understanding.

Can I ask, is anyone else aware that your carer responded to you that way? Is this something your carer has done in the past too, or perhaps this was the first time?

Would you also feel comfortable telling us more about the content of your carer's emails to you? I can hear a part of you is concerned it might be unprofessional, and that sounds difficult to be navigating right now. You also mentioned in a seperate post that this carer / manager has been accusing you of doing things wrong, as well as giving you things - is that right? Can I ask, what sort of things has he been giving you? And what has he been accusing you of?

It would be great to understand this further so we can support you.

If you're looking for help finding alternative care for yourself, or discussing concerns you might have about your carer, the following places might be helpful:

Carers UK provide information, support and advice to carers around a range of subjects relating to caring. For information and advice they have a helpline open Mondays to Fridays 9am-6pm on 0808 808 7777. You can also get in touch with them via email advice@carersuk.org, or fill out the query form on their website. You can find details of your local carers' organisation on their website. For information for young carers you can go to https://www.carersuk.org/help-and-advice/practical-support/support-for-young-carers/

POhWER provide information, advice, support and advocacy to people who experience disability, vulnerability, distress and social exclusion. All of their services are free, independent and confidential. They also have a set of advocates especially for children and young people, including if you are involved with a mental health unit or CAMHS.To speak to an advisor who can point you in the right direction, you can contact their help hub which is open Monday-Friday 8am-6pm, except bank holidays. Their phone number is 0300 456 2370 or you can send the word 'pohwer' with your name and number to 81025. You can also find the details for how you can email, skype, fax or post to get in touch with them. You can also head to their website which has an easy read and accessibility option at https://www.pohwer.net/

If you did ever feel unsafe, the following places are also here for you:

Is This Ok? Is an organisation that supports young people with anything you are worrying about or finding difficult covering a wide range of topics. If it is something you feel like you can't speak to anyone else about, they are there for you. They can also support you if you are worried that someone else is being badly treated or abused. They have a chatbot which can support you with advice and information 24/7. Is This Ok? use a chat-bot as an easy way of identifying the support you need. The chat-bot will be able to give you advice and information 24/7. You will then have the option to be transferred through to a trained chat advisor who will be able to listen and provide non-judgemental support. Their specialist advisers are available to chat to from 2:30pm-9:30pm Monday to Thursday and 4pm-11pm Friday, Saturday and Sunday. They are a completely anonymous service and won't ask you for any personal information. They are a service mainly for 13-18 year olds, but if you are slightly older than this and present an issue that they can support with, they will try and help. Their website is https://www.isthisok.org.uk/

There’s an organisation called NSPCC. They offer advice, counselling & information to those concerned about a child at risk of abuse, including children and young people themselves. The helpline is available Monday to Friday 11am-5pm on 0808 800 5000, but you can email help@nspcc.org.uk or complete their report abuse online form on their website at any time. You can also use their online form to report abuse. If they feel a child is being abused or neglected they will want to intervene by using the information that you give them so if you want to remain anonymous then you should not give them personal details about yourself. You can also go to www.nspcc.org.uk for more details.

We're here for you

eylah

sending you so many hugs ellie you matter to us all were here for you ❤️