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mollyrose77
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Hi everyone,
I have recently discovered the mix and think it’s amazing to have this community. I’m really struggling with my mental health right now and it’s reassuring to know I’m not alone. I’m in 2nd year at univeristy but have had to leave and come home for a bit as my anxiety is making my day to day life a struggle. I intitaly came home thinking I would only be needing a week or so but it’s been 6 weeks now and I’m so upset, frustrated and worried that I’m still struggling. This dip in my mental health has blindsided me, I was so ready for 2nd year and to join some new societies, really invest in my modules, my new house with my friends was so lovely, and I feel like it’s all be ruined now and I’m just stuck in this loop of intense anxiety, never knowing if I’m going to feel ok and feeling unsafe. It’s so disheartning and exhausting, I know that I will get through this as I have always gotten better in the past from severe mental health dips, it’s just really hard to stay positive at times as I feel I’m failing at the life I should be living right now and I’m not sure when I will be doing better again.
Thank you for taking the time to read this far if you have. I hope you are well and feeling safe wherever you are. Molly x
I have recently discovered the mix and think it’s amazing to have this community. I’m really struggling with my mental health right now and it’s reassuring to know I’m not alone. I’m in 2nd year at univeristy but have had to leave and come home for a bit as my anxiety is making my day to day life a struggle. I intitaly came home thinking I would only be needing a week or so but it’s been 6 weeks now and I’m so upset, frustrated and worried that I’m still struggling. This dip in my mental health has blindsided me, I was so ready for 2nd year and to join some new societies, really invest in my modules, my new house with my friends was so lovely, and I feel like it’s all be ruined now and I’m just stuck in this loop of intense anxiety, never knowing if I’m going to feel ok and feeling unsafe. It’s so disheartning and exhausting, I know that I will get through this as I have always gotten better in the past from severe mental health dips, it’s just really hard to stay positive at times as I feel I’m failing at the life I should be living right now and I’m not sure when I will be doing better again.
Thank you for taking the time to read this far if you have. I hope you are well and feeling safe wherever you are. Molly x
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I can hear how you're struggling with mental wellbeing at the moment. Like you've said, you in the right place for support as I'm sure your experience will resonate in some way with others here. I can understand the dilemma you're in here - you stay home because daily life is a struggle, but in doing so, it sounds like you're upset with missing out on society events, academic content and time with friends.
Mental wellbeing can waver over time, and while it's never pleasant to go through a dip, it's reassuring to know that you've been through worse and gotten through. You've got the resilience to make it through this
Taking some perspective on the situation can be helpful too. Our wellbeing can be impacted by all sorts of things at any time, and you certainly won't be the first or last person to need some time away from university. University societies will still run events you can join once you're ready to go back; lecture content can be caught up (and uni tutors can help you to plan this when you return); and I'd hope your house friends will be glad to see you back! When we feel like we're missing out, it can make us feel worse; but at the same time, it gives us something to look forward when we can return. You're not failing at life because you need a little time out - if anything, it's a decision taken with maturity, compared to just ignoring the issue
Is there anything in particular, apart from being at home itself, that you think is making you feel anxious? If missing out is the issue, are there any ways you could slowly ease yourself back into socialising/studies while at home? We're here to support you through this
Thank you so much for opening up to us about what's been happening lately. The intense anxiety you're coping with daily sounds really overwhelming, especially alongside your fears of failing at life you 'should' be living, and the fear that your anxiety might never go away. That's a lot of pressure and worry.
I can relate personally to just how all-consuming anxiety can feel sometimes. It's horrible, to feel unsafe even when you're trying to reason with your mind and remind yourself that you are. The anxiety just feels so real, and I relate too to that feeling of 'what if this never goes away? What if this is who I am now?' It can be scary.
I'm so glad that you've found us here. I know there are so many friendly people who want to listen and support you. It feels like you're really working through something right now, and while I have every faith that this anxiety won't be permenant and that things will shift and change, it's okay to not have all the answers right now. I hope you can be kind to yourself, @mollyrose77 , and lean in to whatever you need.
In some of the hardest moments with your anxiety, is there anything or anyone that helps bring you comfort? Who or what helps you feel safer?
Keep us posted, and sending hugs,
Sian