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mollyrose77mollyrose77 Posts: 7 Confirmed not a robot
Hi everyone,

I have recently discovered the mix and think it’s amazing to have this community. I’m really struggling with my mental health right now and it’s reassuring to know I’m not alone. I’m in 2nd year at univeristy but have had to leave and come home for a bit as my anxiety is making my day to day life a struggle. I intitaly came home thinking I would only be needing a week or so but it’s been 6 weeks now and I’m so upset, frustrated and worried that I’m still struggling. This dip in my mental health has blindsided me, I was so ready for 2nd year and to join some new societies, really invest in my modules, my new house with my friends was so lovely, and I feel like it’s all be ruined now and I’m just stuck in this loop of intense anxiety, never knowing if I’m going to feel ok and feeling unsafe. It’s so disheartning and exhausting, I know that I will get through this as I have always gotten better in the past from severe mental health dips, it’s just really hard to stay positive at times as I feel I’m failing at the life I should be living right now and I’m not sure when I will be doing better again.

Thank you for taking the time to read this far if you have. I hope you are well and feeling safe wherever you are. Molly x

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  • AzzimanAzziman Moderator, Community Champion Posts: 2,103 Boards Champion
    Hi @mollyrose77, welcome to the forum! We're glad to have you here :)

    I can hear how you're struggling with mental wellbeing at the moment. Like you've said, you in the right place for support as I'm sure your experience will resonate in some way with others here. I can understand the dilemma you're in here - you stay home because daily life is a struggle, but in doing so, it sounds like you're upset with missing out on society events, academic content and time with friends.

    Mental wellbeing can waver over time, and while it's never pleasant to go through a dip, it's reassuring to know that you've been through worse and gotten through. You've got the resilience to make it through this :)

    Taking some perspective on the situation can be helpful too. Our wellbeing can be impacted by all sorts of things at any time, and you certainly won't be the first or last person to need some time away from university. University societies will still run events you can join once you're ready to go back; lecture content can be caught up (and uni tutors can help you to plan this when you return); and I'd hope your house friends will be glad to see you back! When we feel like we're missing out, it can make us feel worse; but at the same time, it gives us something to look forward when we can return. You're not failing at life because you need a little time out - if anything, it's a decision taken with maturity, compared to just ignoring the issue :)

    Is there anything in particular, apart from being at home itself, that you think is making you feel anxious? If missing out is the issue, are there any ways you could slowly ease yourself back into socialising/studies while at home? We're here to support you through this <3
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  • Princesslouise02Princesslouise02 Posts: 90 Budding Regular
    Hi Molly nice to meet you
  • Princesslouise02Princesslouise02 Posts: 90 Budding Regular
    Hi Molly I know how you feel but it will get better trust me I’m like that myself I have health axciety and autisum so anytime you want to talk I’m here for you
  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 1,710 Extreme Poster
    Hi @mollyrose77 and welcome - hope you're feeling okay today <3
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 173 Helping Hand
    Hey @mollyrose77 , it's lovely to meet you! Welcome!

    Thank you so much for opening up to us about what's been happening lately. The intense anxiety you're coping with daily sounds really overwhelming, especially alongside your fears of failing at life you 'should' be living, and the fear that your anxiety might never go away. That's a lot of pressure and worry.

    I can relate personally to just how all-consuming anxiety can feel sometimes. It's horrible, to feel unsafe even when you're trying to reason with your mind and remind yourself that you are. The anxiety just feels so real, and I relate too to that feeling of 'what if this never goes away? What if this is who I am now?' It can be scary.

    I'm so glad that you've found us here. I know there are so many friendly people who want to listen and support you. It feels like you're really working through something right now, and while I have every faith that this anxiety won't be permenant and that things will shift and change, it's okay to not have all the answers right now. I hope you can be kind to yourself, @mollyrose77 , and lean in to whatever you need.

    In some of the hardest moments with your anxiety, is there anything or anyone that helps bring you comfort? Who or what helps you feel safer? <3

    Keep us posted, and sending hugs,
    Sian
  • stardust444stardust444 Posts: 95 Budding Regular
    @mollyrose77 hi❤️ welcome to the community. i am here for you if you ever want to talk
  • eylaheylah Posts: 5,220 Part of The Furniture
    hi molly nice to meet you ❤️
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍

    pfp kindly made by the beautiful chloe ❤️
  • Orchid059Orchid059 Moderator Posts: 318 The Mix Regular
    Hi @mollyrose77 welcome to the Mix- it is lovely to have you here
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 4,869 The Mix Elder
    Hi @mollyrose77 its lovely to have you here! <3
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • Katie12Katie12 Posts: 360 Listening Ear
    hey @mollyrose77, welcome to The Mix! Hope you are doing okay
  • amy02amy02 Moderator Posts: 368 Listening Ear
    Hey @mollyrose77 welcome to the community, we are here for you <3
  • Sunshine12Sunshine12 Posts: 164 Helping Hand
    hii @mollyrose77 lovely to meet u i hope u find the support here helpful, it sounds like you're under an immense amount of stress at the moment and its understandable that u find the whole experience very overwhelming as its a lot of feelings to experience, and anxiety is never a pleasurable experience for anyone to go through. I just wanted to let u know what I believe in u and you've been very resilient in the past coming back from a dip in ur mental health, and I believe u can do that again! uni is such an overwhelming experience, but its even worse when u have anxiety, lots of ppl experience similar feelings but don't voice them so ur not alone, take each day at a time and take care of yourself, don't pressure urself to go back to uni if u don't feel better enough to go yet. Sending lots of hugs, and I'm always here to chat (p.s. also a 2nd yr student) <3
  • mollyrose77mollyrose77 Posts: 7 Confirmed not a robot
    Thank you everyone that replied and all your kind lovely words, it means so much to me and I’m so grateful to have found The Mix :)
  • kaiikaii Posts: 566 Incredible Poster
    Hi @mollyrose77, welcome to our community! Thank you for opening up about your experiences, I can imagine that it definitely wasn't easy to do. Like everyone else has said, I just wanted to echo that we're all here for you whenever you need to talk. I hope you enjoy your time here at The Mix and find the support helpful <3
  • Princesslouise02Princesslouise02 Posts: 90 Budding Regular
    Nice to meet you welcome to the group
  • ebyrne556ebyrne556 Moderator Posts: 1,199 Wise Owl
    Welcome to the community <3
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