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How do I not look like shit when I step outside?

bignosegirly0bignosegirly0 Posts: 50 Boards Initiate
edited November 4 in Health & Wellbeing
When I’m inside the house, although I don’t look fantastic, I am happy with how I look. But when I step outside, I look like shit. I take comparison photos of myself inside and outside, and notice a massive difference. My eyebrows are lighter and my eyebags are more noticeable in the daylight.

I look like I’m 80 when I step outside. I already follow a skincare, use caffeine eye cream and Vaseline to shape and grow my eyebrows. But I still look horrible outside.

How do I make myself look better when I’m outside?

Edit: the first photo was taken outside, whilst the second was taken inside. They were also taken on the same day

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  • ebyrne556ebyrne556 Moderator Posts: 1,199 Wise Owl
    Morning @bignosegirly0 and nice to meet you. I don’t think we’ve ever met before on the boards!
    I’m sorry to hear that you’re struggling with looking different when you’re inside and outside I think it’s really a light thing I think when you’re outside things become a lot clearer and you can see things more easily. Have you spoken to anybody about your worries around how you look? I think that you’re doing great and that it can be really hard sometimes to like compare yourself but just keep being you and your awesomeness will shine through
    Sending hugs <3
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  • bignosegirly0bignosegirly0 Posts: 50 Boards Initiate
    @ebyrne556 I have been to a therapist in the past when I suspected I was suffering from bad body dysmorphia.

    There’s also been many times where I’ve opened up to my family about my insecurities after breaking down crying. Because I’ve done it so many times, they say that I’m too vain and just need to simply stop worrying because it’s not the biggest issue in the world. I even remember my dad booking me with a makeup artist in hopes that it will make me more confident.

    Sadly it doesn’t, because no matter how much I try to look better (whether I’m wearing makeup or not) I still get treated horribly by men for not being good enough.

    So sadly, there is no one I can open up to.
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 173 Helping Hand
    Hey @bignosegirly0 , thanks so much for your post. I can really hear how loud these worries and fears about your apperance feel right now, and how distressing it is to notice the way your appearance changes and for that to feel outside your control.

    It's so positive that you're opening up to us here, and what you're going through is valid. There are so many societal expectations and pressures around beauty-standards, as well as stigma around being single, etc. And it can feel so all-consuming and crushing sometimes. I'm really sorry to hear that when you have tried to open up in the past about your anxieties, you've been labelled vein. I can imagine its isolating to be misunderstood like that, and you really do deserve to have these feelings taken seriously because they sound really heavy to be coping with.

    You mentioned that in the past you've found therapy supportive, and that your therapist mentioned body dysmorphia. How did you feel about that? Did that term resonate with you?

    If so, you may find the following places supportive for you <3
    https://bddfoundation.org/
    https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/body-dysmorphic-disorder-bdd/self-care/
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