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Self esteem
TheNightmare
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I'm working on my self-confidence. I think it's something that I've improved but I'm still working on improving more. I feel it's a bit of a battle because I try to think positively and focus on my self-improvements, even small ones. However, I sometimes think about not having secured a job yet. I try to acknowledge my efforts, but I often compare myself to others, and sometimes comments make me feel like my efforts are dismissed. I think I may have had better confidence, but I feel it's been affected by things not going too well. My confidence has been very low, to the point where I saw myself as worthless, even when I wasn't doing too badly, like in college. I believe being on a course I didn't like didn't help either back then. Critical comments often get to me, and I've previously not been confident about my appearance, but I think I've improved in that area. I worry a lot about what people think of me. I've had quite a lot of things that haven't gone too well, so I tend to add them up, and it can affect me. I often think about what's wrong with me, and I can dwell on setbacks from years ago. I think once things start falling into place a bit, my confidence will also get better. I've been in situations where things have picked up a bit, but then something has gone wrong again. There have been times when I thought things would improve, but then they didn't. For example, this year I thought things would improve because I had something planned, but then it failed, and that has affected my confidence too.
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I can hear how it is particularly affecting your confidence when things go wrong - especially when you thought they would go right. Is there anything, in particular, at the moment that is impacting your confidence?
I note you have recently had an interview, would you like to talk to us about how this has gone for you?
@Laura_tigger82 appreciate the reply as always. I think whats impacting my confidence atm is just not quite being in work yet, due to a few things like stigma towards people not working, hearing comments, the stress of it, being bored and unfulfilled. The interview went ok too, it was kind of a group interview, I said I'm fully flexible which I am, I said previous things I have done too and they asked if I have any holidays over Christmas which I don't, if I did it would have been an issue as they need staff over that period, that's a bit of a positive.
I am glad to hear that the interview went okay- it's all a learning curve too.
You're doing so well so keep it up! Let us know how the results of the interview go. Do you know when you will find out by?
@Orchid059 thanks for all of that, it is a learning curve too, I would hear by Friday if I did get the job, if not then I'll get further support.