Ppl with duty of care

ellie2000

I experienced last week a person going off 15mins after I went for therapy And she in a huff
This week another person went with me, I like to stay 30mins after to calm down and the person sed 'ill miss my break'
Both of those occasions I felt wierd or doubting myself. Is tht emotional a8u$3 or is it something else

Azziman

Hey @ellie2000, sorry to hear about your expereince. It sounds like you're not happy with the people tasked with duty of care with you. I wouldn't think that qualifies as emotional abuse, but if they've agreed to stay with you after your session, it's not right that they leave you unattended like this. If it keeps happening, I'd raise the issue with someone. Is there someone you feel you can talk to about this? We're here to support you

ellie2000

@Azziman ppl in tht sort of position aren't supposed to make u worry n doubt yourself, thts psychological abuse. They r supposed to comfort. Wat do others think?

eylah

hugs ellie

ellie2000

@Azziman @eylah wen I say something wierd it gets reported wen I notice something it takes a investigation, y?
Is it OK to b wierd and urself?

Azziman

Hey @ellie2000 - I can understand that - this person is meant to support you, after all! I wouldn't use the term psychological abuse to describe this, but if they're meant to comfort you, then I hear how this experience would be disappointing compared to your expectations. Is there someone you feel you can talk to about this? We're here to listen to you

eylah

hru now ellie? hugs 🫂.

ellie2000

@Azziman @eylah the meeting is on Tuesday. Should I stay quiet or go full out on wat I observed? The past homes the manager was at failedand got a poor rating n shut. I found articles on the Web too

eylah

@ellie2000 if things are troubling you should open up and not stay quiet bc you matter your feelings matter and keeping things inside isnt gd for our wellbeing so defo open up to them bc you matter to.

ellie2000

@eylah should I tell the manager tht he's a bully to his face?

eylah

i would have a convo abt what your not happy with and would share your views with the manager but try not getting heated in the convo bc i want you to be safe.

ellie2000

@Azziman @eylah I haven't had a list of wat they wanna tlk about. The ppl on my side hav wrote a list.
They caused anxiety, panic, me doubting myself n stress and thts not gd is it?

Azziman

Hey @ellie2000, echoing what @eylah says above, your feelings matter and raising those concerns is a valid action to take. That being said, it's important to discuss it in a constructive way - focusing on how you feel instead of pointing fingers at people means that you can discuss the situation without it getting heated.

I can also hear how not having access to the list of talking topics could be causing stress. Could you ask the people on your side if they can share the list with you? Hopefully that can help to ease your concerns. We're here to support you

ellie2000

@Azziman @eylah meeting was meh. We did out points and wen it came to the other side who were the carers, they missed the point of the meeting and ranted, I couldn't remember what they said bc I shut myself off and I was tired too

Laura_tigger82

Oh no @ellie2000 It is really positive to hear you did your points. However, it is really difficult to hear it felt the other side missed the point of the meeting and ranted. It sounds like you did not get what you needed from them in that meeting, am I hearing that right?

Is there going to be a follow-up meeting? I like to ask for a summary of the answer to the question meant to be the point in meetings like that! I find it puts people back on track but can completely hear how you shut off and was tired too