i miss you mum 😭

eylah

a whole week without mum its been so hard. i miss mum sm i rly want to be with her rn i dont see a future without her im so lost rn im trying my best to cope without her but its to hard everything is. im useless like my dad keeps saying im not sure what my life is now mum gone im rly trying but dad keeps making everything worse im trying to tell him how upset i am abt me losing mum but he keeps laughing and saying horrible stuff abt mum . im so upset i have no reason now . life is so unfair 😭😭. im failing everything. i want to try continue bc i promised mum i would but its so difficult. 😭😭

Lucy_21

I'm so sorry about your mom, that's so hard at any age but so young but then for your dad to say such things about her like that is disgusting and you deserve so much better. I'm here for you and your moms will be so so proud of you for carrying on like this and so am I. You are being so strong and don't listen to him. You have her memory and you know what she was truly like wich I'm sure was wonderful. I know it sounds typical to say but it does get easier with time and you will be able to think of her an smile again one day I promise. She is watching over you right now saying stay strong and how proud of you she is I know it. You may not have your dad helping you like he should be and I'm so sorry for that but you do have me and all of us here. I'm Christian and if you like I can pray for you tonight and talk to her for you. You can also message me any time for a chat if you need to. It's hard I know but you've got this💖

eylah

thankyou im trying my best today to keep going its so incredibly hard bc i miss mum sm.

eylah

i cant do this i cant without her im so upset 😭.

Gemma

I'm so very sorry @eylah. Losing someone as important as your mum is so incredibly tough, and it's okay to feel lost and overwhelmed. Please know that you're not useless - you're going through something really hard, and it doesn't make you weak. You're still here, you're still trying, and that says so much about your strength.

I know it's difficult when you don't feel supported by people close to you, especially your dad, but what I'm sure your mum would want most is for you to take care of yourself, even if it feels impossible right now. You're not alone, even if it feels that way. There are people who care about you and want to help, like us.

Your mum’s love for you is still with you, and it’s okay to hold onto that as you keep going, even when things are hard. You're not a failure, and taking things one step at a time is enough. You promised your mum you would try, and you're already doing that by reaching out and sharing how you're feeling. It’s okay to take it day by day, or even moment by moment. You’re stronger than you know.

I'm just pasting some links again to lovely services you can reach out to talk when you're ready, just so you have easy access to them:

The Cruse National Helpline is staffed by trained bereavement support volunteers, who offer free emotional support, information, and counselling to anyone affected by a bereavement. Their helpline number is 0808 808 1677 and it is open from Monday and Friday 9:30am-5pm; Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday from 9:30am-8pm and Saturday and Sunday from 10am -2pm. They also have a webchat service open from 9am - 9pm Monday to Friday. For email support, you can contact them on helpline@cruse.org.uk. You can also visit their website.

Hope Again is a service for young people up to 25 who are affected by a bereavement. They're run by Cruse Bereavement Care and they offer support via phone, email & have online support through their website. They are open Monday-Friday from 9.30am-5pm, and stay open until 8pm on Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays. You can call them on 0808 808 1677 or email them at hopeagain@cruse.org.uk

There's an organisation called Grief Encounter which aims to provide support to anyone who has suffered from a bereavement. They run a helpline and their website also contains helpful resources. They are open Monday - Friday from 9am - 9pm. You can call them on 0808 802 0111, email them at grieftalk@griefencounter.org.uk or visit their website for their counselling service and more information.

Sending big hugs

eylah

thankyou @Gemma i appreciate your kindness sm

Laura_tigger82

We are all here with you @eylah. How are you feeling today? One day at a time

eylah

im not gd today im rly struggling without mum but im doing my best. @Laura_tigger82

Former Member

@eylah, it is so very hard to lose a parent- I expect it feels as though the rug has been pulled out from under your feet! Know that you are not a failure. When you lose someone that close to you and still get up in the morning, you are having a victory. It feels so difficult in the face of loss and grief, but you are a warrior. A quote from a TEDX talk I like is: "Sometimes all the strength you need, is the strength to reach out for help." Just reaching out to us shows that you are strong and that you are not a failure. You are definitely not useless, and the things your dad is saying are not true. It must hurt so much to hear such unkind words from him when you are already hurting. I'm sorry. When I lost a parent I found this quote comforting to me: "It's OK if all you did today was breathe." Don't replay your dad's words, but speak to yourself with the loving kindness of a best friend. If you can't do everything you did before with the same energy, that is OK. It is OK to grieve and that doesn't make you any less of a person.

Don't give up. Over time the heart-shattering, screaming pain subsides- it won't be so very painful, and you'll always have the memories of your mum with you to keep close to your heart. Your Mum would be so proud of you for continuing, especially when it is so hard.

It sounds like you love your mum a lot and she wants you to keep going. That in itself will make a future for you- even if you can't see it, know that it is there, and you will feel happy again.

Keep going trooper. Do it for your Mum. We're here for you every step of the way.

eylah

Alwayshope2day wrote: »

@eylah, it is so very hard to lose a parent- I expect it feels as though the rug has been pulled out from under your feet! Know that you are not a failure. When you lose someone that close to you and still get up in the morning, you are having a victory. It feels so difficult in the face of loss and grief, but you are a warrior. A quote from a TEDX talk I like is: "Sometimes all the strength you need, is the strength to reach out for help." Just reaching out to us shows that you are strong and that you are not a failure. You are definitely not useless, and the things your dad is saying are not true. It must hurt so much to hear such unkind words from him when you are already hurting. I'm sorry. When I lost a parent I found this quote comforting to me: "It's OK if all you did today was breathe." Don't replay your dad's words, but speak to yourself with the loving kindness of a best friend. If you can't do everything you did before with the same energy, that is OK. It is OK to grieve and that doesn't make you any less of a person.

Don't give up. Over time the heart-shattering, screaming pain subsides- it won't be so very painful, and you'll always have the memories of your mum with you to keep close to your heart. Your Mum would be so proud of you for continuing, especially when it is so hard.

It sounds like you love your mum a lot and she wants you to keep going. That in itself will make a future for you- even if you can't see it, know that it is there, and you will feel happy again.

Keep going trooper. Do it for your Mum. We're here for you every step of the way.

aw thankyou i rly appreciate your kindness .