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CAMHS (TW mention of attempt and brief mention of hospital)

Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 3,507 Community Veteran
in Health & Wellbeing
After my attempt in February I ended up seeing this team called MARRS (Multi agency rapid response service) before I was allowed to be discharged. They then did this assessment deeming me stable enough to leave which then led to a follow up in school a few weeks later which they promised me a range of support. 7 months later and I hadnt heard anything so ended up just accepting I'll never get support even tho I tried to reach out. On tuesday however i got a call which i made my friend answer and it ended up being a lady from CAMHS. I was on the bus so couldnt really talk to her so shes calling me back today and im just so anxious loll and i think i guess slightly denying it because ive gone so long without the support. It does also however mean i gotta brave the phone call and i really struggle with them lol
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  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,014 Supreme Poster
    You will be just fine. It’s so hard on calls I know but the best thing you can do is find a quiet, private place and just be honest with them about how you’re really feeling.

    Both CAMHS and adult CMHTs have such long waiting lists, it’s awful that you’ve had to wait so long but sadly it doesn’t surprise me in this day and age. I’m glad you’re going to get the support now.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 3,507 Community Veteran
    independent_ wrote: »
    You will be just fine. It’s so hard on calls I know but the best thing you can do is find a quiet, private place and just be honest with them about how you’re really feeling.

    Both CAMHS and adult CMHTs have such long waiting lists, it’s awful that you’ve had to wait so long but sadly it doesn’t surprise me in this day and age. I’m glad you’re going to get the support now.

    Thankyou @independent_ <3 it's just hard to know what to expect I guess. I'm also hoping that they call before dad and stuff get home because otherwise there'll be no where private to go in my house as I share my room. Part of me wants to back away but I know I shouldnt
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  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,014 Supreme Poster
    Of course, it’s so hard and it’s a fear of the unknown.

    It sounds a little odd but if there’s nowhere else private you could always try the bathroom. The echo is because you’re in the kitchen if anyone asks
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • AnonymousToeAnonymousToe Posts: 2,380 Boards Champion
    You can do it!! Just remember this is how you’re gonna get help, and imagine how you’ll feel once you’ve done it.
    I spoke to CAMHS on the phone and that means anyone can 🤣
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 1,502 Extreme Poster
    i spoke to camhs on the phone when i was 12 but i didnt get referred until i was 15 since i was discharged from the psychiatric hospital and needed further treatment. so that proves that anyone can speak on the phone. bare in mind im socially awkward.
  • Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 3,507 Community Veteran
    Thanks guyssss

    Still no call atm aha
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  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 1,502 Extreme Poster
    it'll be 5pm soon so they may call you tomorrow. thats when they end their shifts anyways unless if its out of hours.
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,014 Supreme Poster
    Yeah they do usually stop at 5 or 5.30pm, so it might be tomorrow now. Prolonging the agony of waiting I say. Waiting is the worst part
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 3,507 Community Veteran
    edited September 19
    Just had the call, and im still on the waiting list but theres an online thing they want me to try out where I basically journal about how im doing blardy blah and its probably just them trying to make sure im still alive lolll. She said she will be checking on on this onlie thing as well as doig calls and stuff too so not much use but oh well aha i hate journaling but the whole phone call was me sat going "yeah" "that sounds good" "Yeah im okay, a bit up and down" lolll
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  • Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 3,507 Community Veteran
    edited September 19
    I also find it funny how they never say depression and its just "low mood"

    Shes also on holiday for a week after friday loll
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  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 1,502 Extreme Poster
    its strange how i never had to wait for my first camhs appointment and i just got the help immediately. then again idk if thats normal if youve been discharged from a psychiatric hospital. do you know how much longer you have to wait for?
  • Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 3,507 Community Veteran
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    its strange how i never had to wait for my first camhs appointment and i just got the help immediately. then again idk if thats normal if youve been discharged from a psychiatric hospital. do you know how much longer you have to wait for?

    nope but by the sounds of it, its not gonna be anything immediate
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  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 1,502 Extreme Poster
    thats unfortunate. i hope you get it soon enough, but you know what the camhs waiting lists are like.
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,014 Supreme Poster
    It’s not immediate and it might not be what you’re really looking for, but the main thing is that you now have a form of contact with them. If they can look at the online journal you put, they might be able to spot patterns etc and help you better when you do get to the top of that waiting list.

    They love the term “low mood”, it took doctors years and years to call mine depression, low mood seems like such a vague term and doesn’t describe it well at all. A low mood to me is just being a bit down, but depression is much more than that.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • AnonymousToeAnonymousToe Posts: 2,380 Boards Champion
    Well done! You did it! It’s rubbish that you have to wait but at least they are keeping an eye on you 🫂
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    its strange how i never had to wait for my first camhs appointment and i just got the help immediately.

    Wow lucky 😂
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 1,502 Extreme Poster
    edited September 19
    independent_ wrote: »
    It’s not immediate and it might not be what you’re really looking for, but the main thing is that you now have a form of contact with them. If they can look at the online journal you put, they might be able to spot patterns etc and help you better when you do get to the top of that waiting list.

    They love the term “low mood”, it took doctors years and years to call mine depression, low mood seems like such a vague term and doesn’t describe it well at all. A low mood to me is just being a bit down, but depression is much more than that.
    do they mention depression more instead of low mood in amhs? of course i dont have depression but im just wondering
    AnonymousToe wrote: »
    Well done! You did it! It’s rubbish that you have to wait but at least they are keeping an eye on you 🫂
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    its strange how i never had to wait for my first camhs appointment and i just got the help immediately.

    Wow lucky 😂
    yeah, i guess i am lucky. im probably a rare case though.
  • ebyrne556ebyrne556 Moderator Posts: 1,130 Wise Owl
    Hey @Chloe234 just checking in on you this morning here for you <3
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  • Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 3,507 Community Veteran
    I think I'm kinda frustrated in a way about the outcome. In a way I genuinely thought they were finally going to see me and although yes I was shit scared part of me still feels having someone rn would be really good.

    Yet I'm just still on the waiting list and they expect me to open up online and work through this CBT stuff alone then wait until this lady checks over what I've done and reads everything I've written then comment on it every now and then

    Thing is when I'm not face to face most of the time I just lie. On the phone call she asked how i was and i just sat and said I'm a bit up and down which isn't overly a lie but I'm fucking shit. I'm tired and I'm just trying daily to keep myself alive. I can't say that though because they'd probably tell dad and he'd get all up in my business.
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  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 1,502 Extreme Poster
    sending hugs @Chloe234
  • Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 3,507 Community Veteran
    There was this test thing I did 0n there too and it said "normal" for some things so maybe I'm just making it up in my head? Of anything this thing is gonna make me fucking worse. Feels like they don't have space for me so they just wanna throw me into this instead which also feels so fucking isolating.
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  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 1,502 Extreme Poster
    youre not making it up in your head. some mental health tests arent accurate, especially the ones online. honestly when i went into camhs the waiting room was empty most of the time which doesnt make sense considering the waiting lists.
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,014 Supreme Poster
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    independent_ wrote: »
    It’s not immediate and it might not be what you’re really looking for, but the main thing is that you now have a form of contact with them. If they can look at the online journal you put, they might be able to spot patterns etc and help you better when you do get to the top of that waiting list.

    They love the term “low mood”, it took doctors years and years to call mine depression, low mood seems like such a vague term and doesn’t describe it well at all. A low mood to me is just being a bit down, but depression is much more than that.
    do they mention depression more instead of low mood in amhs? of course i dont have depression but im just wondering
    AnonymousToe wrote: »
    Well done! You did it! It’s rubbish that you have to wait but at least they are keeping an eye on you 🫂
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    its strange how i never had to wait for my first camhs appointment and i just got the help immediately.

    Wow lucky 😂
    yeah, i guess i am lucky. im probably a rare case though.

    AMHS as in adult mental health services? To be honest not really. It was my GP who eventually called it what it is. The CMHT still called it low mood but if I start ranting about the CMHT I will be here all day.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,014 Supreme Poster
    Chloe234 wrote: »
    I think I'm kinda frustrated in a way about the outcome. In a way I genuinely thought they were finally going to see me and although yes I was shit scared part of me still feels having someone rn would be really good.

    Yet I'm just still on the waiting list and they expect me to open up online and work through this CBT stuff alone then wait until this lady checks over what I've done and reads everything I've written then comment on it every now and then

    Thing is when I'm not face to face most of the time I just lie. On the phone call she asked how i was and i just sat and said I'm a bit up and down which isn't overly a lie but I'm fucking shit. I'm tired and I'm just trying daily to keep myself alive. I can't say that though because they'd probably tell dad and he'd get all up in my business.

    It’s worth checking on their confidentiality policy now that you’re 16, you get more rights to confidential healthcare, but I’m not sure how CAMHS works in that regard.

    It’s frustrating for sure, and it’s so hard to do this stuff online without any actual support from them.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 1,502 Extreme Poster
    independent_ wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    independent_ wrote: »
    It’s not immediate and it might not be what you’re really looking for, but the main thing is that you now have a form of contact with them. If they can look at the online journal you put, they might be able to spot patterns etc and help you better when you do get to the top of that waiting list.

    They love the term “low mood”, it took doctors years and years to call mine depression, low mood seems like such a vague term and doesn’t describe it well at all. A low mood to me is just being a bit down, but depression is much more than that.
    do they mention depression more instead of low mood in amhs? of course i dont have depression but im just wondering
    AnonymousToe wrote: »
    Well done! You did it! It’s rubbish that you have to wait but at least they are keeping an eye on you 🫂
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    its strange how i never had to wait for my first camhs appointment and i just got the help immediately.

    Wow lucky 😂
    yeah, i guess i am lucky. im probably a rare case though.

    AMHS as in adult mental health services? To be honest not really. It was my GP who eventually called it what it is. The CMHT still called it low mood but if I start ranting about the CMHT I will be here all day.
    yeah. i hope i don't get referred to them when i turn 18 and just stop support altogether by that time.
  • Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 3,507 Community Veteran
    edited September 20
    Home alone tonight but struggling a fair bit. This is the latest and longest I've been left since February. I'm safe but it's just hard especially with it being so late. I would put on the app about it but then they may think I'm not safe enough to stay home alone or some shit when I feel like I am

    Edit: my sister and dad are home now so I managed to get through the night
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  • ellaella Community Manager Posts: 267 The Mix Regular
    Hey Chloe,

    So proud of you for getting through last night when you were on your own. It can be really tricky when you are confronted with spending time with your own thoughts- but sounds like you did so well to handle that.

    Is there anything specific you did which helped you get through? Maybe you could add that on the app as a way of celebrating your coping mechanisms?

    Sending hugs! 💛
  • Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 3,507 Community Veteran
    ella wrote: »
    Is there anything specific you did which helped you get through? Maybe you could add that on the app as a way of celebrating your coping mechanisms?
    Thanks @ella <3

    I dont really know, i kinda just did. I blasted depressing music and did college work most the night. Although I made it through most of the time i just have rather than doing it a certain way.

    Were going out tonight but i dont want to so i would ask to stay home but i most likely wont be allowed.

    Im trying to use the thing as much as possible but its hard lol
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