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Why I hate the 14th 😕
Rose113
Community Champion Posts: 2,945 Boards Guru
TW// Mentions of abuse, suicide
So tomorrow is my birthday and it’s the worst day of my life, I’ve never likes birthdays and on my 3rd birthday I was taken into care and removed from my birthparents but for you guys your probably thinking well that’s in the past and that I was only 3 when it happened but the 3 articles online about my birth parents are about me going into care on the 14/09/09 so that’s one reason why I hate it.
The second reason is because a few years ago I lost a friend to suicide on my birthday, she did what she did in the early hours and all I did was wonder if she was okay the whole day which I’m not even mad about that or upset that it “ruined” my birthday, I just never want to relive that day ever again
Sorry…
So tomorrow is my birthday and it’s the worst day of my life, I’ve never likes birthdays and on my 3rd birthday I was taken into care and removed from my birthparents but for you guys your probably thinking well that’s in the past and that I was only 3 when it happened but the 3 articles online about my birth parents are about me going into care on the 14/09/09 so that’s one reason why I hate it.
The second reason is because a few years ago I lost a friend to suicide on my birthday, she did what she did in the early hours and all I did was wonder if she was okay the whole day which I’m not even mad about that or upset that it “ruined” my birthday, I just never want to relive that day ever again
Sorry…
Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
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Comments
It's perfectly okay to not enjoy your birthday, and given the events you have said have happened on that date, I can totally understand why it isn't the most enjoyable of days for you.
My only bit of advice is to try and spend the day tomorrow how you want to. if you feel up to it, maybe try and find things to do that make you happy or you enjoy, however big or small they may be. I know it may be hard especially if you're being reminded of it all with 'happy birthday' messages and all that, but ultimately its your choice how you go about the day...... whether you choose to do anything, find a distraction, or even just treat it like a normal day
whatever you decide is okay and we'll all be here as always to support you however we can - i believe you'd got the strength to get through it and be okay
Sending hugs
Sinead
Did you manage to take care of yourself yesterday or do anything nice (even if it was just to get through the day, rather than to celebrate)? We are all here with you.
I am wondering, would you like to share more with us about how you are doing today, after having a difficult day yesterday?
You can share as much or as little as you feel comfortable with but we really care about you