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Im just done.
Chloe234
Community Champion Posts: 3,553 Community Veteran
Im tired of it all, i am completely exhausted because of college, My support network is basically non existent and now here is gonna be basically gone for possibly 3 weeks. I wanna do things i love but i just dont have the energy and now im seriously thinking about leaving the mix. I left a different site ive been using last night and im just so exhaused and tired of it all. i dont see any point of reaching out anymore
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It sounds like you’re carrying a lot right now, and it’s completely understandable to feel drained and discouraged. College can be SO demanding (I remember feeling constantly burnt out!) and if you aren't getting the support you deserve and need, I can imagine it feels very overwhelming. Is there a specific thing about college which feels particularly overwhelming right now? Is there somebody you could talk to and get some support from? Feeling like you have no energy to do things you love is also VERY frustrating, especially when you are feeling down and all you want to do is something that makes you feel happy!
It's completely valid if you feel like you need some space from The Mix right now. We all go through different stages with our mental health, and sometimes we need different things at different times. However, even when it feels pointless, being part of a community might be helping you in ways you can't see right now. So if, after taking a break and processing your emotions, you feel like coming back, I want to remind you that this community will always be here for you 🌻
I think it's just all aspects in my life are changing and change is do hard for me. I don't have anybody to talk to in person right now either however when I was still in school I always had atleast one person I could go to if i needed them and now im in college if I want someone it means going and opening up to new people which I'd feel so hard.
It's just difficult becausefor a while if things got hard sometimes I would just turn around and go for a surf for example but now I barely ever have the energy for that too. It's just hard I guess when the little things I tried to continue now don't work either because of my mental health.
I think I'm mainly just scared if anything. So much change is happening already and then it's this ontop of it all and I guess it's just a tad conflicting? And in a way adds to all the other change and I'm scared about loosing here too that in a way it feels it'd be easier to leave but In the same way I don't think I'd be able to because the mix is just so amazing but I guess at the moment it all feels like it's not "the mix" in a way as it's different I guess because of the changes
You mentioned having people in school who you could talk to and how useful this was for you. Were these friends or staff? If friends, it may be possible to talk to them even if they have not gone to the same next steps as you. If staff, I am wondering if it might be worth knowing more about who they passed your information to - this may be a way of feeling connected to other staff who know you through the staff you knew.
If it is going up to new people you find most difficult, is there a way you find more accessible to communicate to new people - for example, sending them a message or writing about how you feel and putting this on their desk at the end of a lesson?
It is positive to hear you are recognising you need self-care, like things you enjoy, even if those have changed for the moment due to lower levels of energy. Are there lower-level energy self-care activities you could do - like read a book, watch a favourite show, spending time with animals or listening to music?
It sounds like this is feeling beyond your control at the moment, with all the scary changes, but we are here to support you. What would you find most helpful at the moment?
It was mainly staff, i don't like loading everything onto my friends as i know when i was in the position where i had it all being loaded onto me and it became a massive problem and i don't want that to happen to my friends.
None of my info was actually passed on from school to college. I think its the same for everyone, and i guess when you apply if you want them to know stuff then you can tell them or even tell them as you become more comfortable at college. I dont know ive got a friend whos telling me to go to student services (basically the mental health people/pastoral) because apparently theyre really good but even then i wouldnt know what to say or how to approach it.
Our main lecturer Liz got us all to write letters to introduce us and i basically just trauma dumped with some of the stuff. But then with the college if they feel you need it theyll talk to you or you can talk to them and then theyll refer you onto student services so its not really like i could do before and pic a teacher or 2 and go to them.
Idk sometimes i dont really enjoy the lower energy things because a lot of them are still just laying or sitting which never really helps. I have books to read but i just cant focus and ill listen to music but theres not much to do alongside. I guess im back to trying to drown myself in college work at the moment though to try ignore everything.
I dont know in all honesty i just wish someone could take all the pain away but i know that isnt possible