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Im just done.

Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 3,352 Boards Guru
Im tired of it all, i am completely exhausted because of college, My support network is basically non existent and now here is gonna be basically gone for possibly 3 weeks. I wanna do things i love but i just dont have the energy and now im seriously thinking about leaving the mix. I left a different site ive been using last night and im just so exhaused and tired of it all. i dont see any point of reaching out anymore
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  • issieissie Moderator Posts: 60 Boards Initiate
    edited September 13
    I really hear this @Chloe234 and I'm so sorry you're struggling 🦆❤️

    It sounds like you’re carrying a lot right now, and it’s completely understandable to feel drained and discouraged. College can be SO demanding (I remember feeling constantly burnt out!) and if you aren't getting the support you deserve and need, I can imagine it feels very overwhelming. Is there a specific thing about college which feels particularly overwhelming right now? Is there somebody you could talk to and get some support from? Feeling like you have no energy to do things you love is also VERY frustrating, especially when you are feeling down and all you want to do is something that makes you feel happy!

    It's completely valid if you feel like you need some space from The Mix right now. We all go through different stages with our mental health, and sometimes we need different things at different times. However, even when it feels pointless, being part of a community might be helping you in ways you can't see right now. So if, after taking a break and processing your emotions, you feel like coming back, I want to remind you that this community will always be here for you 🌻
  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 1,541 Extreme Poster
    just wanted to say i completely agree with what Issie has said - and sending you a big hug :3
  • Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 3,352 Boards Guru
    Thankyou @issie <3 and thankyou @sinead276 <3
    issie wrote: »
    Is there a specific thing about college which feels particularly overwhelming right now? Is there somebody you could talk to and get some support from? Feeling like you have no energy to do things you love is also VERY frustrating, especially when you are feeling down and all you want to do is something that makes you feel happy!
    I think it's just all aspects in my life are changing and change is do hard for me. I don't have anybody to talk to in person right now either however when I was still in school I always had atleast one person I could go to if i needed them and now im in college if I want someone it means going and opening up to new people which I'd feel so hard.

    It's just difficult becausefor a while if things got hard sometimes I would just turn around and go for a surf for example but now I barely ever have the energy for that too. It's just hard I guess when the little things I tried to continue now don't work either because of my mental health.

    issie wrote: »
    It's completely valid if you feel like you need some space from The Mix right now. We all go through different stages with our mental health, and sometimes we need different things at different times. However, even when it feels pointless, being part of a community might be helping you in ways you can't see right now. So if, after taking a break and processing your emotions, you feel like coming back, I want to remind you that this community will always be here for you 🌻
    I think I'm mainly just scared if anything. So much change is happening already and then it's this ontop of it all and I guess it's just a tad conflicting? And in a way adds to all the other change and I'm scared about loosing here too that in a way it feels it'd be easier to leave but In the same way I don't think I'd be able to because the mix is just so amazing but I guess at the moment it all feels like it's not "the mix" in a way as it's different I guess because of the changes
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,267 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 15
    You wouldn't ever loose us @Chloe234! You are doing really well sharing with us about how you are really feeling. Your thoughts and feelings are valid and matter to us. I also find change difficult so I can particularly empathise here, as I am sure many of our other wonderful community members also can. It is often through identifying what is difficult that we can discover ways to manage with those difficult things though - a really brave first step.

    You mentioned having people in school who you could talk to and how useful this was for you. Were these friends or staff? If friends, it may be possible to talk to them even if they have not gone to the same next steps as you. If staff, I am wondering if it might be worth knowing more about who they passed your information to - this may be a way of feeling connected to other staff who know you through the staff you knew.

    If it is going up to new people you find most difficult, is there a way you find more accessible to communicate to new people - for example, sending them a message or writing about how you feel and putting this on their desk at the end of a lesson?

    It is positive to hear you are recognising you need self-care, like things you enjoy, even if those have changed for the moment due to lower levels of energy. Are there lower-level energy self-care activities you could do - like read a book, watch a favourite show, spending time with animals or listening to music?

    It sounds like this is feeling beyond your control at the moment, with all the scary changes, but we are here to support you. What would you find most helpful at the moment? <3
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  • Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 3,352 Boards Guru
    Thankypu so much @Laura_tigger82 <3
    You mentioned having people in school who you could talk to and how useful this was for you. Were these friends or staff? If friends, it may be possible to talk to them even if they have not gone to the same next steps as you. If staff, I am wondering if it might be worth knowing more about who they passed your information to - this may be a way of feeling connected to other staff who know you through the staff you knew.
    It was mainly staff, i don't like loading everything onto my friends as i know when i was in the position where i had it all being loaded onto me and it became a massive problem and i don't want that to happen to my friends.
    None of my info was actually passed on from school to college. I think its the same for everyone, and i guess when you apply if you want them to know stuff then you can tell them or even tell them as you become more comfortable at college. I dont know ive got a friend whos telling me to go to student services (basically the mental health people/pastoral) because apparently theyre really good but even then i wouldnt know what to say or how to approach it.
    If it is going up to new people you find most difficult, is there a way you find more accessible to communicate to new people - for example, sending them a message or writing about how you feel and putting this on their desk at the end of a lesson?
    Our main lecturer Liz got us all to write letters to introduce us and i basically just trauma dumped with some of the stuff. But then with the college if they feel you need it theyll talk to you or you can talk to them and then theyll refer you onto student services so its not really like i could do before and pic a teacher or 2 and go to them.
    Are there lower-level energy self-care activities you could do - like read a book, watch a favourite show, spending time with animals or listening to music?
    Idk sometimes i dont really enjoy the lower energy things because a lot of them are still just laying or sitting which never really helps. I have books to read but i just cant focus and ill listen to music but theres not much to do alongside. I guess im back to trying to drown myself in college work at the moment though to try ignore everything.
    It sounds like this is feeling beyond your control at the moment, with all the scary changes, but we are here to support you. What would you find most helpful at the moment? <3
    I dont know in all honesty i just wish someone could take all the pain away but i know that isnt possible

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  • amy02amy02 Moderator Posts: 280 The Mix Regular
    So sorry to hear you are struggling at the moment @Chloe234 change can definitely be a scary and unnerving thing. You are so brave for sharing. How has your day been Remember you are not alone and we are always here to listen <3
  • Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 3,352 Boards Guru
    Had a call from camhs on the bus today. It wasn't the best timing due to being on the bus so she's calling back Thursday but it's scary to think I may be actually getting support after the attempt in February
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  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 1,541 Extreme Poster
    hope you're doing okay today - sending you a big hug @Chloe234
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