Feeling down

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Maisy

It sounds like you are struggling with how others treat you and interpret your situation compared to how you think and feel, is that right?

It's awful feeling like you are singled out because of the way that you are being treated differently by your main support worker. That said, you are right that you support worker wants to be supportive and would show concern about others too. I don't know much about support workers, but I'd like to think that they would offer tailored/personalised support to those that they are supporting. It might be that because of this approach to supporting you, that it feels like you are being singled out (even if you aren't, it might feel this way, especially if you've previously been singled out in your life...you may be more likely to pick up on cues that signal this). If you are uncomfortable with how your support worker is supporting you, might it be possible to talk to them and suggest what you would or might find helpful instead?

It's understandable that you'd feel unheard when others tell you that what you are thinking of feeling is inaccurate. I think it can be easier for others to suggest that your perspective isn't accurate and perhaps thinking a different way might help. But this doesn't help you much (especially since your perspective is valid and may actually be true).

Challenging your thoughts is a tricky area. For me, it can be helpful to do this in certain situations...probably ones where I have more control or not many other people are involved. Challenging thoughts when I have less control or other people are involved is difficult because it's difficult to know other people's motives.

I'm probably not explaining this very well but I once heard about someone who was on a course and felt they were being treated differently who then got told that wasn't the case and to talk about it in therapy instead. But I pointed out that there is a difference between feeling like you are being treated differently and actually being treated differently. CBT and challenging thoughts may be more effective in the former, but may be less effective in the latter situations, because of actually being correct about being treated differently.

If you find CBT therapy helpful, then keep going with it. But if not, maybe talk to the therapist about adapting CBT to suit you or perhaps find a different type of therapy that might help you more.

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jayne26

Hi @Creativeboy23

I think it would be a good plan to message your support worker to explain how you're feeling, if you're comfortable with that and think that it might help you?