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I'm sorry to hear about the things your uncle has said - it doesn't sound nice at all.

I just wanted to be the opposite voice and tell you that you aren't a letdown or dissappointment. For example, university isn't for everyone. and it's what is best for you that matters. You're on your own journey and path to a job and career, and from what it sounds like, are making all the right steps to get there. You are putting in the effort and doing all you can - which is absolutely enough.

I know the rejections from job hunting can be disheartening, but what matters is you don't give up. You'll eventually find the breakthough you want and it will all fall into place. Everyone's life goes at different paces - what matters is that you are happy and do what YOU want to do.

Try not to be too disheartened by your uncles words, and remember you are on the path to where you want to be. Youre absolutely not a letdown.

Sending hugs
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Maisy

I just wanted to echo what Sinead has said.

University isn't for everyone. And even those that do go to university and graduate don't necessarily end up working in the field that they studied. Some can't get professional jobs, while others realise they want to change career or not use their degree at all. Some people might've worked really hard for their degree only to feel burnt out at the end and would prefer a less stressful job. Just because your cousins have degrees, it doesn't mean that you are not good enough or that you're a let down (I promise you, you are not a let down!). It just means that you are on your own journey, and that's okay. Everyone is different and does things at different rates.

I'm really sorry to hear that your uncle said those things to you. That's bound to be upsetting, especially when you weren't expecting him to say that (more so since you opened up to him before at feeling like a failure). Of course, it's difficult that you are looking and applying for work, while your cousins have graduated. But it doesn't make what your uncle said right or okay.

All progress, no matter how big or small, is good. You've done really well to get into a program to help you find work, as well as having previously applied for jobs and done courses. You might not have got a job yet, but look at all the things you've done so far. You're in a better position now than before. And if you hadn't taken all these steps, you would probably be in no better position at all.

Sometimes people just don't understand. It sounds like you had a real positive moment when you were thinking of your goals and what you want from life, and it's a shame that the phone call with your uncle spoiled your mood. It's hard, but try not to let what your uncle said get to you. I'm also wondering if there is anyone else in your life that you trust to talk to about how you feel? Since your uncle doesn't seem very understanding, it might be better to talk to someone who is a bit more understanding, instead.

You don't necessarily have to apologise to your uncle. Some things like jobs aren't always in our control, but you have taken positive steps to help yourself. It's entirely up to you whether you ask your uncle about what stuff you can do that would make him happy. But as you said, you have to live for yourself too

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AnonymousToe

You’re definitely not a letdown / disappointment. I think that because you’re trying. You’re trying to move forwards and you’ve done stuff at college - I can’t remember the specifics sorry but I know you’re really trying to get a job and all of that. I feel like sometimes the older generations think university is the only successful pathway for people, but it’s not like that really, there are other options. I dont know why your uncle would say that to you, especially if he knows you’re genuinely trying. I’m so sorry.

eylah

your not a let down. your very kind. to me and others. you deserve help & kidnesd. here for you. . your trying your best. that is achievement in itself.

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thank you. dont put urslf down. your very strong. and you keep goin. . be proud of urslf.

sinead276

@TheNightmare - i think it's for the same reasons that @AnonymousToe has said.

You are trying. you're making steps to move closer to where you want to be. you're not giving up and are working towards your goals - no matter how long it takes. you keep going when things seem like they are hard or you feel like you are not getting anywhere. But try and remember even the rejections you get in jobs applications etc. are all leading you one step closer to where you are meant to be.

And I think for that you're not a letdown and disappoinment at all. Don't give up and we're all super proud of you

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Amy22

Hey @TheNightmare I know exactly how your feeling obviously I don't know your full story but from what I've read it sounds like you are really struggling at the moment especially with finding employment. I have read quite a lot of your posts on here and I can say your 100% definitely not alone in this because for young people at the moment it is so tough and hard to find work and even full time employment. I speak from experience as I am in a similar position your in where I have been trying to apply for jobs and have rejected quite a few times. Rejection is quite common most of the time when applying for work because your first job application will normally be a rejection which is quite sad to think about. However, the thing is with rejection there will be other opportunities and maybe even better ones out there too. Always remember that rejection doesn't mean your not great for the job it's just that they may be searching for particular skill set potentially. But as I say they are just missing out on having a really fab employee working with them. I'd say it can be hard having rejections but I always try not to take it to heart and I tell myself to keep applying. Always keep applying and trying because eventually you more you try a door will open up and that good opportunity you want will come. I know that you have been recently setting yourself some short term and long term goals which is fantastic because it can be great having short goals to do whilst job searching. Goals can also make us feel positive too because it can give us a sense of achievement (I got quite a few goals to do at the moment as well). I also want to echo what everyone else has mentioned here you are not a disappointment and failure, in fact no one is. You have been trying you super duper hardest to do well in life and I can see a good hard working person who wants to do well in life. I just wish others could see this amazing quality in you. I'm always here if you do need someone to talk to and I hope you are doing okay at the moment.

Sending big hugs to you,

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