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I just wanted to be the opposite voice and tell you that you aren't a letdown or dissappointment. For example, university isn't for everyone. and it's what is best for you that matters. You're on your own journey and path to a job and career, and from what it sounds like, are making all the right steps to get there. You are putting in the effort and doing all you can - which is absolutely enough.
I know the rejections from job hunting can be disheartening, but what matters is you don't give up. You'll eventually find the breakthough you want and it will all fall into place. Everyone's life goes at different paces - what matters is that you are happy and do what YOU want to do.
Try not to be too disheartened by your uncles words, and remember you are on the path to where you want to be. Youre absolutely not a letdown.
Sending hugs
Sinead
University isn't for everyone. And even those that do go to university and graduate don't necessarily end up working in the field that they studied. Some can't get professional jobs, while others realise they want to change career or not use their degree at all. Some people might've worked really hard for their degree only to feel burnt out at the end and would prefer a less stressful job. Just because your cousins have degrees, it doesn't mean that you are not good enough or that you're a let down (I promise you, you are not a let down!). It just means that you are on your own journey, and that's okay. Everyone is different and does things at different rates.
I'm really sorry to hear that your uncle said those things to you. That's bound to be upsetting, especially when you weren't expecting him to say that (more so since you opened up to him before at feeling like a failure). Of course, it's difficult that you are looking and applying for work, while your cousins have graduated. But it doesn't make what your uncle said right or okay.
All progress, no matter how big or small, is good. You've done really well to get into a program to help you find work, as well as having previously applied for jobs and done courses. You might not have got a job yet, but look at all the things you've done so far. You're in a better position now than before. And if you hadn't taken all these steps, you would probably be in no better position at all.
Sometimes people just don't understand. It sounds like you had a real positive moment when you were thinking of your goals and what you want from life, and it's a shame that the phone call with your uncle spoiled your mood. It's hard, but try not to let what your uncle said get to you. I'm also wondering if there is anyone else in your life that you trust to talk to about how you feel? Since your uncle doesn't seem very understanding, it might be better to talk to someone who is a bit more understanding, instead.
You don't necessarily have to apologise to your uncle. Some things like jobs aren't always in our control, but you have taken positive steps to help yourself. It's entirely up to you whether you ask your uncle about what stuff you can do that would make him happy. But as you said, you have to live for yourself too
@eylah thank you so much and all that goes to you too.[/quote]
thank you. dont put urslf down. your very strong. and you keep goin. . be proud of urslf.
You are trying. you're making steps to move closer to where you want to be. you're not giving up and are working towards your goals - no matter how long it takes. you keep going when things seem like they are hard or you feel like you are not getting anywhere. But try and remember even the rejections you get in jobs applications etc. are all leading you one step closer to where you are meant to be.
And I think for that you're not a letdown and disappoinment at all. Don't give up and we're all super proud of you
Sinead
Sending big hugs to you,
Amy22