13 years

Rose113

So as yall pretty much know im adopted and on Thursday it will be 13 years since I moved in with mum. Mum brought it up and said that she won't make a fuss about it but she has said that on Thursday she will take me to the cinema to watch despicable me 4 and we will get some dinner out. She said that she isnt gonna bring it up on the day or even before so everything can remain as calm as possible

Rose113

She told a one of her friends yesterday and blurted it out so loudly whilst we were standing on the pavement...idek her friends. Why does she have to tell people when it's my business

Gemma

Thank you for sharing this with us @Rose113. What a big anniversary coming up - I can imagine you're feeling all sorts of emotions. Anniversaries can resurface a lot of things for us and it's totally valid to find this time of year tricky.

It sounds like your mum has organised something fun on the day for you to focus on. But it's also okay to feel whatever emotions you're feeling and allow yourself to sit with that. Is there anything that you feel you need to help you on the day and in the lead up?

I'm sorry that your mum blurted it out in front of her friends who you aren't close to yourself. I can imagine this must feel quite invasive and uncomfy hearing your mum talk about something so personal in public with someone you don't know. It might be worth sharing with your mum how that made you feel? It's okay to have boundaries and the people we love should respect that.

Keep us updated with how you're getting on this week. We're here for you.

Rose113

@Gemma really not sure how to feel. I keep having to berry it all back inside my head im not sure. I dont know what will help at all sorry

Laura_tigger82

It is okay not to really know how to feel @Rose113 - even unknown emotions are okay. You can talk to us about how you are feeling but you only need to share as much or as little as you feel comfortable with. We are here with you

Rose113

Thank you @Laura_tigger82 I just shut the convo down when it comes up

Orchid059

@Rose113 it's lovely that you and your mum are commemorating the special day doing something nice, but I can also understand why you might feel annoyed for bringing it up to her friends. I don't think she meant any harm by it, I think she is just proud of to show you off.

Rose113

@Orchid059 she knows I don't like it

Orchid059

@Rose113 I understand that completely. Did you talk to her about how it made you feel?

Rose113

@Orchid059 yh

Orchid059

@Rose113 That's good hopefully you were able to clear the air with her then

Sunshine12

Rose113 wrote: »

She told a one of her friends yesterday and blurted it out so loudly whilst we were standing on the pavement...idek her friends. Why does she have to tell people when it's my business

I'm sorry to hear that happened to you, that must of been really frustrating for you. Sending u lots of love, and I'm always here if u want to talk about what happened more and how it made u feel