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Felt my autistic struggles were dismissed

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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 5,437 Part of The Furniture
    Hello @Creativeboy23. You have done really well to share this with us and your support worker, despite feeling unheard when you spoke to your support worker.

    You deserve to feel heard and your experience validated. It can be difficult to live independently with your autism (especially when it is also impacting your mental health).

    What might help it to feel more manageable to live independently with your autism and the impact on your mental health - do you currently have people who support you with your living?

    I believe you, particularly as an autistic person who shares some of these difficulties, and I am here with you <3
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  • Sunshine12Sunshine12 Posts: 166 Helping Hand
    @Creativeboy23 i'm sorry to hear ur support worker invalidated your experience/feelings like that, that must of been so frustrating, especially as they're meant to be there to help u, not make u feel unheard. Sending lots of love <3
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  • Sunshine12Sunshine12 Posts: 166 Helping Hand
    Creativeboy23 wrote: »
    Hello @Sunshine12.

    It was frustrating and disappointing. It left me feeling ignored, stuck in my struggles, and doubtful about them.

    Thank you for being so supportive. ❤️

    I'm sorry to hear they left u feeling so dismissed and unsupported, that's really annoying, no one should have to experience these feelings.
    No worries, i'm happy to chat any time <3
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    Creativeboy23 wrote: »
    Hello @Sunshine12.

    Thanks for your support. I appreciate it.

    How have you been feeling? <3

    Hey!!!
    No worries, any time :) And thank you for asking, I’ve been feeling good, how have u been doing/feeling?! ♥️
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  • Orchid059Orchid059 Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 390 Listening Ear
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    Hi @Creativeboy23 I am sorry to hear your support worker and parents invalidate your experiences and feelings. That isn't fair on you because you deserve to be heard and understood. From what it sounds like they might not realise the true extent of your feelings and struggles. While I am not diagnosed with autism myself, I can still understand how hard it must be for you to feel like you have to fit in with society's system in order to be acknowledged and heard. You should never have to feel that way.

    These situations where you felt personally attacked are completely valid and it must feel very tiresome to have to deal with people who treat you in this way, but you are doing so well. And while you may feel like it's particularly rocky at the moment, things will get better.

    It is good to hear you are planning to email Autism Alliance, I am sure they will come back to you with some useful information on how to best help you. I find writing my thoughts down on paper really useful because even when I'm not sure what I am feeling, I find that my pen is able to express it better.

    Keep reaching out, we are here for you at the Mix and we want to help you through this <3
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  • Sunshine12Sunshine12 Posts: 166 Helping Hand
    @Creativeboy23 i'm so sorry this has taken me so long to respond to! firstly, thank you for being so open with me about how you've been feeling, that was probably difficult to do. It sounds like you've been going through a rrly hard time and your emotions regarding everything are totally understandable and reasonable considering u keep getting dismissed and invalidated by ppl. It must also be super annoying having ppl telling u how u should feel when ur autistic and also having not many ppl understand what that must belike for u, i was just thinking, is there any groups online or even in person that u can join with fellow autistic/neurodivergent ppl, it may help having more ppl around u who can slightly understand ur feelings more, not sure if you'll have anything like that near u as i have one where u just meet u, go for food etc! I rrly hope speaking to autism alliance helps u, and also u definitely deserve to take care of yourself and i know that can be hard to hear and believe (as someone who struggles with their self-image too) as it's often easier to accept the mean things we think about ourselves than listening to the kind things other ppl say to us! Sending lots of love ! <3
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 5,437 Part of The Furniture
    You are right @Creativeboy23 - it is not always going to be easy. There are going to be some days which are harder than other days. Celebrating the good days and putting tools in place for tough days is how I tend to manage this.

    It is, however, so positive you are able to recognise this and that you have autistic friends who you could share your feelings with. One thing I have found helpful is the #ActuallyAutistic community - be that social media or vlogs. Connecting with other autistic people has really helped me.

    How have you been most recently?
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 5,437 Part of The Furniture
    A plan to deal with the overwhelming situations sounds positive @Creativeboy23. Make sure you keep taking care of yourself, we all really care about you.

    Would it be helpful to talk about what has been overwhelming and your plan for coping with these at the moment?
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