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ASD party struggles update

BensonEBensonE Posts: 189 Helping Hand
in Neurodivergence
I'm still stressing however I'm hyping my self up for it a little bit

Today I looked at train times, sorted out my outfit and even cleaned my shoes and bag for it

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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    Did you go to the party @BensonE? If so, I am wondering if you would like to talk to us a little more about how the party went for you. I can hear how you were feeling stressed, even if you were hyping yourself up for it a little bit. As a fellow autistic myself, I can completely empathise with how difficult social events can be (especially places like parties!) <3
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  • BensonEBensonE Posts: 189 Helping Hand
    Laura_tigger82 wrote: »
    Did you go to the party @BensonE? If so, I am wondering if you would like to talk to us a little more about how the party went for you. I can hear how you were feeling stressed, even if you were hyping yourself up for it a little bit. As a fellow autistic myself, I can completely empathise with how difficult social events can be (especially places like parties!) <3

    Party is on 18th may
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    Ah, sounds like you are nice and prepared early @BensonE! Sometimes feeling prepared can be helpful for us. How are you feeling about it at the moment? :)
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  • BensonEBensonE Posts: 189 Helping Hand
    Laura_tigger82 wrote: »
    Ah, sounds like you are nice and prepared early @BensonE! Sometimes feeling prepared can be helpful for us. How are you feeling about it at the moment? :)

    50/50 getting prepared ahead has helped me massively honestly I spoke to a different mate and we both said I could just be that person whom stands at edge talking to only people whom talk to me
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    It sounds positive that getting prepared has helped you @BensonE. How does it feel that you could be the person who stands at edge talking to only people who talk to you? We can hear how you are feeling conflicting, 50/50, about this. We are here with you :)
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  • BensonEBensonE Posts: 189 Helping Hand
    Laura_tigger82 wrote: »
    It sounds positive that getting prepared has helped you @BensonE. How does it feel that you could be the person who stands at edge talking to only people who talk to you? We can hear how you are feeling conflicting, 50/50, about this. We are here with you :)

    honestly my mate said it as joke (this mate isn't going because he don't know the other person) but honestly it removes the social stress from it

    My mate who party it is meeting me at the station so hopefully I will be introduced to some people fairly early on if others are with her great
  • BensonEBensonE Posts: 189 Helping Hand
    I don't know if it will be just her meeting me at station or what but honestly I don't mind, I think the only thing I'm stressing about is that I'll be an outsider

    Because me and her aren't part of any of the same friendship circles her friendship is just us

    Tbh most my friends are like that and have been for the past 2 years because the previous 2 times I mixed friend circles it didn't end well

    Although I'm more open to mixing my friend groups now a days
  • AzzimanAzziman Moderator, Community Champion Posts: 2,103 Boards Champion
    Hey @BensonE, it's great that you're getting prepared for this party, sounds like you're looking forward to it! It's really nice of your friend to meet you at the station, I can hear how that can help you to meet people there. I'm sure you'll come across friendly people who will help you to feel more comfortable in the situation there and less of an outsider! <3
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  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 4,869 The Mix Elder
    It sounds like you have been very anxious and have had this party on your mind recently. I hear that your friend is aware of your asd and seems okay with it. It's good that you have got a good understanding friend because then at least she can make sure you feel comfortable at the party. Also, I was wondering even if you did get overwhelmed by people and things going on is there a quiet space at the party you could go to when you feel the need to have some quiet. It may be a good idea to also bring some fidgets too as well. I know the feelings of meeting new people and worrying what others will think of me but I tend to try and tell myself that it's only just one day and I can choose how I want to socialise at said event. Sometimes for us neurodiverse folk it can be super hard meeting people because we have difficulty in communication skills and often feel either outed or like an outsider. Like everyone else said on here I'm sure that you will meet some lovely people at the party and I bet that they will be also interested in you too. I hope everything goes well for you <3.

    All the best,

    Amy22 <3
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  • BensonEBensonE Posts: 189 Helping Hand
    Amy I checked the location and found 2 possible quiet places, outside and in the bathroom
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    It sounds positive that are 2 possible quiet places @BensonE. How are you feeling about this?
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  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 4,869 The Mix Elder
    BensonE wrote: »
    Amy I checked the location and found 2 possible quiet places, outside and in the bathroom

    Thats good that they have got some possible quiet areas for you if say you did feel overwhelmed. It may also be an idea even to just say maybe you feel a bit overwhelmed if there are lots of people and there's nothing wrong in saying that. Sometimes we have to tell others that we may need to go somewhere quiet to process things a bit in our own time too. <3
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