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Doing nothing (vent)
AnonymousToe
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You’d think a gap year is so easy. My parents tell me off when I can’t cope because “you’re not doing anything!!!” but having such an empty life is half of the problem. There’s no reason to go to bed. There’s nothing to do anything for. Every day is the same, and I feel like I’ve failed. I don’t have anything to focus on, not in the same way as I did with school. That took up most of my time and almost all of my brain power. It just feels better when you actually do something, I suppose. School was awful, so I feel like I should be fine now. At least I’m not overworking myself every day. It was so hard. But I was doing something. Now I’m just nothing. My brain can go all over the place because I’m not using it for other things. Sometimes I’d do homework to wear myself out and slow my thoughts down. I suppose I could still do that. I just don’t have the motivation to do anything because there’s always the next day - there’s no deadline for anything. It sounds like it should be relaxing but it’s just depressing. It’s been the strangest few years ever, I’ve just had the most demanding and exhausting few years of school and now… there’s nothing? It sounds so easy but it really isn’t. I don’t deserve for anyone to care about me this year because it’ll have no result. I’m contributing nothing to anyone. I feel like such a waste of space. And no one cares because I’m doing nothing.
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@AnonymousToe I'm going through a similar situation right now it's so hard.
As far away as it might seem, a time will come where things start to fall into place and you'll find that purpose or passion in life to do things again. But in the mean time remember to take care of yourselves both physically and mentally, and if you need more support, do keep reaching out
Sending big hugs
Sinead
Just wanted to say a lot of people also feel the same way as you do when school/college/uni comes to an end. It can often feel very abrupt and weird to all of a sudden have no deadlines. It makes you realise how much education gave you a routine.
I noticed you mentioned about being on a gap year. Do you have a college/uni course starting after the summer? Or an internship/job?
It could be worthwhile to find a summer job or even part time work to help ease you into a routine? Or if this is not what you are looking for, you could always volunteer somewhere to help out the community? I’m a volunteer for a few charities myself and I find it really helps to give you a sense of purpose like you are stating you are missing right now.
Another option is taking up some new hobbies or sports? Is there anything like that you are interested in? You could perhaps look into local clubs within your area?
Hope some of this helped!
Ok, hear me out...tv. Now I know suggesting that is usually discouraged for whatever reason, but I'm not saying 'go binge watch an entire series or movie or something' because it's easy to get addicted, but sometimes that little bit of extra input is really helpful, and can stimulate the brain into doing something creative. Talking to someone about that new season that just came out and you're so excited et cetera et cetera...it can help you to socialize and enjoy yourself. Maybe it's so interesting you build up some theories, or maybe it encourages you to look into a prequel/sequel or check other franchises. Having something as normal and time consuming as that can really bring a lot of normality and entertainment to an otherwise boring situation.