Mind stuff

ellie2000

I was talking to someone about trauma I been through, and he told me to move on. Is it tht simple or is he being a dh. I struggle with my mental health every day. Is it OK not to feel gd?

AnonymousToe

It isn’t really as simple as just ‘moving on’ unfortunately. It’s totally fine to struggle and it makes sense especially when you’ve been through a lot. Big hugs

sinead276

As much as we probably wish we could just 'move on' from the traumas of the past - it's often a challenge to do so, and understandably. It's part of the process to feel the emotions you feel, and if there are days where you don't feel good then that is okay. It's never really a straight line recovery from trauma, and there will be days that don't feel as good as others.

Sending hugs
Sinead

Former Member

hello @ellie2000

It is okay to not feel okay. It is not as easy as just moving on. Everyone is different and certain events and traumas affects each individual differently. It is okay to not feel good on some days but fine on others. If you are really struggling with this, do you have anyone you can talk about your feelings to?

Maisy

It's okay to feel whatever you feel. Unfortunately, some people don't understand trauma. They might not realise the different types of trauma and that what doesn't affect one person, might affect someone else. They also might not understand that even if things happened a long time ago, we may still struggle with the effects long after. It's not as simple as 'move on'.

It sounds like this person doesn't understand trauma. It might be a good idea to not talk to them about your trauma in case they don't understand and might make you feel upset. It's good to make sure that whoever you open up to about your trauma is someone that you trust and is someone that understands trauma.

It is possible to overcome trauma and to get to a point where it doesn't affect you so much. But how long it takes is different for each person. You'll get there though