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Hurtful comments again from my dad and brother

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edited September 2023 in Health & Wellbeing
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  • AzzimanAzziman Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 2,297 Boards Champion
    Hey @Creativeboy23, it sounds like you're feeling really hurt by what your brother and dad said. From what you've said, it looks like they've mentioned a lot of things that can hurt all at once - making unhelpful and negative comments about sensitivity, using sexuality and gender as negative associations for behaviour; and criticising your ability to have a "mainstream" partner or keep a job. Your feelings of hurt are completely valid, because those aren't nice, or necessary, things to say, especially given that this all started over placing a bottle of water in a fridge!

    I want you to know - it's okay to be sensitive, some people are more than others, and that can be a good thing too. Being sensitive isn't only something that gay people, or women, do - men can be sensitive as well. It won't stop you from having a partner (if anything, having emotions and communicating them is a healthy thing to do!), nor will it stop you from holding a job. It is absolutely fine to be sensitive. Whether your brother is trying to look out for you or not, I can't say. But it sounds like either way, the remarks that your brother and dad are making aren't helping at all, but instead hurting you and hurting your confidence, and I'm really sorry to hear that. You don't deserve to be put through that <3

    I want you to know, that it's a brave thing to come on here and share your experience, so well done for doing that. You're always welcome to share your feelings on here, where you'll be listened to and heard. You are fine as you are, and deserve to be loved <3
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  • Katie12Katie12 Posts: 437 Listening Ear
    awww i am sorry this has happened. You feeling hurt by the comments and the situation are to be expected and definitely completely valid.
    @Azziman is so right, being sensitive doesn't at all need to be a negative thing!!
    <3
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    @Creativeboy23 I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling hurt and upset after the comments made by your dad and brother. It's essential to acknowledge that words can have a significant impact on our emotions, and it's entirely valid for you to feel the way you do. You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, and it's okay to take steps to protect your feelings and establish a supportive environment for yourself.
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