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he asked 'when can we get intimate'
Maria2008
Posts: 146 Helping Hand
So my boyfriend asked a bit of a wierd question well he didnt ask directly but yh he told my mate to text me this
' when can we get more intimate im not rushing you or anything just want to know where i stand' when i asked what does he mean by intimate he said like 'fingering and that sort of shit' idk what to reply to that or even if im allowed to what should i do
' when can we get more intimate im not rushing you or anything just want to know where i stand' when i asked what does he mean by intimate he said like 'fingering and that sort of shit' idk what to reply to that or even if im allowed to what should i do
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It sounds like your boyfriend is very supportive of your feelings and limits, I would advise you to tell him how you feel about getting intimate with him. If you’re not comfortable with getting intimate that is okay, and being able to talk about these feelings together as a couple will bring you and him closer together. If you’re not comfortable getting intimate, then that is totally okay. No one should feel pressured into doing sexual things or anything they’re not comfortable in doing. How’re you feeling today, have you got any plans?
The age of consent in England and Wales is 16. This is the age when young people of any sex, gender or sexual orientation can legally consent to taking part in sexual activity. This means that sexual activity between two or more people is always unlawful if at least one of the people is under the age of 16.
I think generally if you're below 13, you can't give legal consent, and if 1 of you is 16 and the other is not yet, any sexual activity may be legally viewed as a sexual offence, regardless of the verbal consent given. I'm not sure what the law is specifically when you're both 13+ and below 16 but I don't think it applies to you anyway...
Hope the links work! and I hope you're safe
Soooo sorry for the late reply- I haven't logged on in a while. I hope that you're okay
Generally, anyone aged 13 and below can't give legal consent and so any situation involving vulnerable and sexual activity will be seen as illegal. What I was also trying to say is that a 16 year old may be legally convicted of a sexual offence crime if any sexual activity were to occur with someone younger than them. I think you can read more about the laws in the links I've sent so please do take the time to consider them before acting on anything else- they should hopefully shed more light!
I think just to be on the safe and legal side, perhaps consider waiting until you're also 16 as he is older than you right now, and so the situation might be a bit worrisome in a legal sense. Discussing these laws with him may also be helpful. Even when you turn 16, you shouldn't do anything your uncomfortable with, but as long as you feel and be actively safe, you should be okay!
Hope this makes more sense! Again, you can always dm!