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Tonsillectomy
Siena
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Hi I’m having private tonsillectomy Friday and I am getting very scared about the pain and just everything in general because no one in life knows I’m getting it done and they say need 2 weeks recovery but I am going to try to go to work as work don’t know either. I’m just wondering if anyone’s had it and how painful was it and will it be easy to hid from my family. I am thinking of pretending having emergency tonsillectomy as i don’t know if it’s something I can hide. Im 24 and apparently it’s hurts more the older you are
If anyone has any lies I can come up with to my family about where im going on Friday and why im going so early and why I’ll be taking forever please helppp
(Please don’t ask me why im paying for tonsillectomy and why im not telling anyone about it)
If anyone has any lies I can come up with to my family about where im going on Friday and why im going so early and why I’ll be taking forever please helppp
(Please don’t ask me why im paying for tonsillectomy and why im not telling anyone about it)
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I don’t know how I’m even getting there. It’s £160 in taxi but the trains is confusing
I’m also worried there was like small print I haven’t read and like I get hit with a big bill that I can’t pay for
Most likely won’t be happening Friday
So basically they found out my history of self harm and the hospital won’t see me unless I’ve seen a psychiatrist as surgery can be a form of self harm. I was just like why would I pay thousands of pounds when I can do it for free and he just laughed and said true.
So tomorrow I need to ring my gp and try to get them to confirm before Thursday I’m in a fit state for the surgery otherwise it won’t be happening without a doctors say so about my mental health and I’d just get my hospital fee back. I’m soooooo pisseddd of.
Do your best where you can, because that's what you have control over. Speak to your GP as soon as you can to explain the situation to them, and I hope that they'll be able to sort this all out for you in time for Friday. I wish you the best of luck with the process, I hope that the procedure goes ahead and that it isn't too painful Please let us know how you get on, and reach out for support if you need it as always.
I’m so fucking pissed off. Maybe if I said I self harmed before wouldn’t of been a problem but tbh i don’t know why self harm has anything to do with wanting tonsils out
& thank you
He said about giving me my consultation money back but I would feel kinda bad but I should be getting my hospital fee back. Anyways I’m just going to try a different hospital and give fake gp. But I need my hospital fee back to try another place as yeah money. I’m going to email a few places now
I was at work when rang me and I full on just started crying so I had to have 30 mins break lol
I think my gp told them I’m stable to decide but they wanted more of a mental health professional
Please stay safe 🙏
I’m going to try one more place. I can probably get the consultation for Friday as yeah travelling and I can’t risk calling in sick again and my only day off otherwise probably could get it sooner but yeah gunna try few places and see who can fit me in on Friday
I did ask the surgeon about how private works and if I try one more hospital and lie will that work and he said it might or it might not but it’s not good to deceive. I think he means yeah it will work
I really regret doing that thing to stop my binging. This isn’t anything to do with binging. Then he mentioned he has a daughter with anorexia and that he knows why people might go for anything to eat less.
Anyways I’m proper embarrassed for just crying again at work. Fml they must be so fed up of my shit now. But I did stay until 1:30 with my blood shot red eyes, instead of 1 as I used 30 mins crying so I hope they’re not that annoyed
But I’m sorry it’s not happening the consultant seemed really sympathetic though which I guess is a little bit of a positive ?
Anyways this is the email I’ve sent to about 3 or4 hospitals. Hopefully I’ll hear back from some tomorrow
“ Hi
I am looking into having tonsillectomy, because I have big tonsils with lots of cysts where food gets stuck creating tonsil stones, that hurt and can make my tonsils very bad as well as cause bad breath which in turn makes me self conscious. My only concern is that I’m not registered with a GP but my health is good. Apart from I have a naturally low blood pressure.
If could let me know if I need medical history or a NHS gp to get treatment/possible surgery from you before going any further.
Thank you”
But I’m just thinking even if I can wear what I want, they put the general anestic on the inside of your arm and would see my scars? So maybe I just be like yeah I moved when I was a kid so I don’t have a gp anymore but when I was a teenager I did self harm a bit as a phase? Although some do look new so i don’t know
You mentioned in your last post that you've found a private hospital who will do the tonsillectomy for you without you being registered with a GP. How're you feeling about that now that you've had a few days to think it through? Have you given any more thought to whether you might be able to share some more of your history or medication with them?
You're being really brave by thinking this all through aloud with us, Shaunie. We're always here to chat things through
Take care,
Harry
What I’m gunna do is ring my gp Monday and tell them how much this is affecting me and how I haven’t self harmed for a bit and that this is what I’ve been wanting for ages so please do not say anything if get the email. And depending on how that call goes I will tell them my real gp. Otherwise I’m just using a fake gp and pretend I’m pretty healthy and not on meds just apart from the self harming as would see my scars doing surgery
I did make a consultation for Wednesday but I’ve cancelled it as I’m scared as is under same company as one I’ve tried before and don’t wanna risk them finding out so just trying new one
I haven’t got my hospital refund yet which is £2,000 so I am a bit stressed
It sounds like a really tough process you're going through managing these consultations and seeing what support some of the other hospitals could offer to help you with this. You mentioned you wanted to ring your GP on Monday to share how much this is affecting you. That sounds like a really brave step and you're doing really well sharing with us how much this is impacting you too. How did that conversation go with your GP? We hope you were able to get some support from them
We also hope you're able to get your refund back from the hospital. Keep us updated with how everything is going. Remember we're all here for you. Keep going