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losing someone
libbystrawberry
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they didnt die but they moved countrys and im struggling a lot, i miss them and i feel incomplete without them and i dont know who to talk to abt it.
'told myself that you were right for me, but felt so lonely in your company'
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If you need someone to talk to more you can always talk to us on here if you wish as there’s always gonna be someone to listen no matter how big or small.
Sending lots of hugs and hoping it gets easier for you with time
Sinead
It can help to talk to someone about how much you miss the person. Perhaps you could try reaching out to a family member or a friend. You are also always welcome to post in the forums for support, as well as accessing support from our team: https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team
Is it possible to keep in touch with the person? If you don't have their contact details, maybe someone else that you know might? Or perhaps you can look them up on social media?
Something that helped me when I struggled with missing someone who had moved away was to revisit my favourite memories of them and to acknowledge that even though we couldn't be in touch at the time, it didn't stop me from living my life. It can be help to focus on other interests and things to keep us busy so that if and when we get back in touch with the person we'll have lots to tell them! Writing letters (but not sending them) to them and telling them about how you feel and what you have been up to may also help a little.
This person has clearly had a big impact on your life and it's natural that you would feel very upset now that they have moved away. Be gentle on yourself and in time, you will realise that you will always fondly remember the person in your heart/mind which can be a comfort even if they aren't there with you physically.
Take care
but thx
Do you know what might help you at the moment - for example, is there anyone else you can talk to about this?
Time is a healer, and it might take a while to come to terms with what's happened. But also, it's a nice chance to reflect on the good times and conversations you had together, and we appreciate that we had the opportunity to meet this person for some time
You might find it helpful to speak to someone about how you feel (whether that's a friend, using a helpline such as Samaritans or The Mix, or talking to us here on the board!). Alternatively, writing out how you feel in a journal is a good way to express and process our emotions, if that is something that you would find helpful?
It's totally normal and healthy to grieve over a lost relationship or relationship potential. In the case of missing a form teacher it's very understandable to be upset as losing any sort of guidance figure is difficult.
I think it's correct that these things come with time but I also believe that letting yourself feel these emotions and acknowledging that it does hurt can help with the healing process. If you ever need someone to talk to about it and work through any thoughts and feelings with there are so many of us here who'd be happy to lend an ear. If you are not comfortable talking to someone about it you can always find another way to help yourself process things (for example, as a teenager I wrote a lot of poems and I now write songs).
That's okay. It's still very early days for you so it makes sense that you wouldn't want to be revisiting memories right now as it would feel bittersweet to you. What you are feeling isn't weird at all. Though I understand it is a difficult situation, more so than if it were a friend or family member who moved away because at least you could stay in touch. You might not be able to keep in touch with the teacher now (there are often rules in place for teachers regarding social media and not being friends with students) but maybe when you've left school (e.g. when you are at least 18 and not in compulsory education anymore), you could see if there is a way to reach out to them.
It will take time to feel better, but you will get there. And in the meantime, we are all here for you