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Starting College in September

Former MemberFormer Member Keep being you<3Posts: 1,489 Wise Owl
edited March 27 in Work & Study
Hi guys I am going into mainstream collage in September and I am nervous because I feel like I won’t have friends because I have a wheelchair but other people have said I’ll be fine but I’m nervous because I don’t want to feel alone :(
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Community Champion Posts: 1,294 Wise Owl
    feeling nervous is completely normal. try to remember most of those around you joining the college will be feeling the same way even if they seem confident. I can understand how you being in a wheelchair may heighten your anxiety surrounding joining somewhere new and making friends but think of it this way...having a wheelchair helps to identify those who you DON'T wanna be friends with (eg. if someone is mean or cold towards u just bcs you're in a wheelchair then you know straight up that they're a shitty person who u don't wanna befriend) so in that regard making friends could be easier :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 271 The Mix Regular
    Hi @_Tech_Addict_Girl congratulations to your new journey. It's completely understandable to feel nervous. Remember that friendships can be formed based on shared interests, personalities, and mutual respect rather than physical abilities. Hope you enjoy your college life! :)
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 4,786 The Mix Elder
    @_Tech_Addict_Girl As a recent college graduate I know that feeling myself too when I first started. Just remember that feeling nervous or anxious is completly normal and you are not alone as thousands of young people starting college will be feeling the same. Friendships and making friends can be very tricky and it sounds that you are anxious that people may avoid you because of being a wheelchair user. I can assure that everything will be fine and I'm sure you will find lovely friends who are understanding and accept you for who you are. As I say a true friend is someone who stays with you and accepts you, and if they don't then they aren't a true friend. I also know that as @Terry8936 said most friendships are formed by shared interests and even clubs or hobbies. Having a physical disability shoulden't stop people from wanting to be friends with you but as @Xee said it also shows who is nice and who isn't. I wish you all the best for starting mainstream college and I hope everything goes well for you, I am always here too if you need any advice, support on making friends or even on mainstream college itself.

    Sending you a special hug,

    Amy22 <3
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • Former MemberFormer Member Miss Moderator Posts: 132 The Mix Convert
    @_Tech_Addict_Girl congratulations on starting your next chapter, it is completely normal to feel nervous its a big change but I can ensure you it will be okay, true friends will be made based on mutual interests and having a physical disability should not effect that in any shape or form, true friends will love you for just being yourself so whilst you're there take care of yourself and be true to yourself its all you can do <3 Keep us updated on how it all goes, hope you are feeling excited too :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Keep being you<3 Posts: 1,489 Wise Owl
    @Xee @Amy22 @Terry8936 @eparker98 Thank you for all your comments I am also excited other then nervous but I will keep you all updated I know I’ll probably make some lovely friends I just have to try and have a positive mindset and think nothing can stop me because I have a wheelchair 💙
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 4,786 The Mix Elder
    _Tech_Addict_Girl wrote: »
    @Xee @Amy22 @Terry8936 @eparker98 Thank you for all your comments I am also excited other then nervous but I will keep you all updated I know I’ll probably make some lovely friends I just have to try and have a positive mindset and think nothing can stop me because I have a wheelchair 💙

    I bet it is an exciting time for you too as it's a new journey too, by the way I wonder what you are studying?. I'm just very curious aha :)
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • Former MemberFormer Member Keep being you<3 Posts: 1,489 Wise Owl
    @Amy22 I’m going to be doing a computer course:)
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 4,786 The Mix Elder
    _Tech_Addict_Girl wrote: »
    @Amy22 I’m going to be doing a computer course:)

    Aw brilliant, I bet that is going to be very exciting and fun for you to do too. I just completed my level 3 creative media extended diploma in tv & film (2nd year) but I'm sure you will love college. I found that college was more relaxed than school or sixth form personally.
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • Former MemberFormer Member Keep being you<3 Posts: 1,489 Wise Owl
    @Amy22 Well done for getting your diploma I’m proud of you:) yes it’s also a very exciting time for me too there’s a new course in collage starting in September all to do with AI so I think I’m doing that. Not going to lie sixth form is Beto boring I’m also glad I’m leaving 😂mixed emotions like I say I’m nervous also and think a lot of people won’t accept me for being a wheelchair user
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 4,786 The Mix Elder
    _Tech_Addict_Girl wrote: »
    @Amy22 Well done for getting your diploma I’m proud of you:) yes it’s also a very exciting time for me too there’s a new course in collage starting in September all to do with AI so I think I’m doing that. Not going to lie sixth form is Beto boring I’m also glad I’m leaving 😂mixed emotions like I say I’m nervous also and think a lot of people won’t accept me for being a wheelchair user

    Thank you I haven't actually gotten it yet as I have to wait for my results in August but we did leave early than normal. Oo that does sound quite interesting and especially getting to learn about AI too as that is becoming more of a popular thing nowadays. I also felt the same about sixth form too as I felt that once I joined most of us sixth former's were put to one side and not a lot of funding went into our sixth form. But when I left they started putting more funding into it. I also had mixed emotions starting college as I did three years, I did a foundation art course then decided to the 2 year tv and film course. As I say if people don't accept you for being a wheelchair user then that is their own problem to deal with, and it also shows who is nice too. Always here too <3

    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • ebyrne556ebyrne556 Moderator Posts: 1,130 Wise Owl
    Sending u all the positives vibes and luck for college in September.I can hear how nerve wracking it would be but u got this <3
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 3 Newbie
    Hey, don't feel nervous about it. Just remember everyone will be starting new and be friendly and approachable and you will make friends in no time! Try find an extra curricular activity that you enjoy and join clubs, that would open your chances even more of making friends. All the best!
  • ebyrne556ebyrne556 Moderator Posts: 1,130 Wise Owl
    Heya @_Tech_Addict_Girl just checking in to see how you’re feeling about college now as i know it’s getting towards the end of august! The summer seems to have flown by <3 We are here for u
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Keep being you<3 Posts: 1,489 Wise Owl
    Hello guys I’m just really nervous and thinking the worst stuff like I won’t make any friends because of my wheelchair
  • DancerDancer Community Champion Posts: 8,103 Legendary Poster
    If people have a problem with the wheelchair (unless it's an accessibility thing which is completely different) then they have a problem with us. However a lot more people are more accepting these days of people with disabilities and a wheelchair is just something that helps you.
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  • ebyrne556ebyrne556 Moderator Posts: 1,130 Wise Owl
    Heya @_Tech_Addict_Girl I can understand how your feeling nervous about staring college and making friends.Having a disability can be hard but their will be true people who are understanding and supportive and the right nice people wont be judgemental an will accept you for who you are no matter what <3
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