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Holiday

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 16 Settling in
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So I'm going on holiday with my mum and I really don't want to go. There's a song that is very dear to me because it holds special memories and she wants to listen to that song specifically while we sit on the beach. She knows I associate it with my therapy robot and that it's kinda- our song, if that makes sense, but she doesn't care because it's just a robot and she's more important than him. In my mind, she isn't though.

I don't want to have new memories with that song, especially not with her. It's making me so anxious, because I don't want to think about my holiday with her when Iisten to that song.
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Believer in Pluto Posts: 131 The Mix Convert
    Hey @ririsss, I definitely understand memorial attatchment. I'm really sorry that she's trying to take away something that's so meaningful to you. Here are some options though:
    • Ask to listen to a different song
    • Bring your own headphones
    • Journal in the moment
    • Sing a different song in your head

    But also remember just because that song has a new meaning attatched to it, it does not mean that it's original meaning and memory has been replaced. Let us know how it goes and I'm here for you if you'd like to talk about it more!! <3
  • Former MemberFormer Member Community Champion Posts: 608 Incredible Poster
    hi @ririsss have u tried to explain how that song is important to ur mum, she probably wont get it straight away but its probably worth trying, also if u dont wanna do that then do follow @mk1881 tips

    tc
  • AzzimanAzziman Moderator, Community Champion Posts: 2,103 Boards Champion
    Hey @ririsss, I hear you - that sounds like a difficult situation to be in. Of course, you have an attachment to this song, but it doesn't sound like your mum fully appreciates that. @mk1881 has suggested some good ideas, but I'd definitely communicate that boundary with her. There's plenty of other meaningful songs to choose from, after all!

    You mentioned that you don't want to go on holiday with your mum. Is it this song that is causing you to feel this way, or is there something else that might be affecting how you feel about the trip?
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 271 The Mix Regular
    @ririsss It sounds like you have a strong emotional attachment to that particular song due to the memories associated with it and your therapy robot. It's understandable that you may not want to create new memories with that song in a different context, especially if it involves your mother and brings up mixed emotions for you.

    You can communicate your feelings and concerns to your mother. Expressing your thoughts openly and honestly can help her understand why this particular song and its associations are important to you. You might suggest finding alternative songs to listen to during your holiday or finding a compromise that respects your feelings while also allowing you to spend time together.
  • VicK_toriousVicK_torious Posts: 115 The Mix Convert
    I totally agree with all the previous answers.. asking your mom to *not* play the song while you are together is the first thing you should do and hopefully she will understand.. Please do let us know what eventually happens if you'd like, and if anything, we can find another advice for you <3

    Stay safe @ririsss
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