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hi i've been having quite a few problems and disagreements with my mum as i feel she favours my sibling over me. do any of u have advice on how to cope as its hard
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It sounds like things are really difficult for you at home at the moment, Libby. You've mentioned that you feel as though she favours your siblings. That must be really tough. Is there anything in particular that makes you feel that way?
You're really welcome here, Libby, and we're here for you.
Take care,
Harry
its things like getting angry with me and not my sibling, sometimes ignoring me when i say something to her, going the extra mile for my sibling (she said that herself) and not doing anything for me
Sometimes parents hurt their children without realising or put their frustration on someone/something else without meaning to, have you tried talking to her about it and bringing up the fact that you wish for her to be more considerate? Do you think it would be possible to talk about it openly?
I know it could be a nerve wrecking conversation, however trying to make a list of topics you want to address and examples where your mother's behaviour has hurt you could help you make you feel more confident. Open communication is important so, if you think she'll listen and believe that she'll take your opinion into consideration, trying to have a conversation about it may be a good idea.
Alternatively, you could try talking about it with your siblings as well to see if they feel the same way as you do. Maybe they noticed the situation too, or feel like they're being dismissed as well in different ways.
Let us know how you're feeling
It seems like this is a really demoralising and deflating situation, you deserve to feel loved and cared for. We are here with you, to work through this together. I am so pleased to see that you were able to write a letter to your mum, a bid for connection like this takes both vulnerability and strength. Reaching out can be nerve-wracking, especially to a parent.
I am glad to hear that there have been a few improvements as a result of this, I can imagine this gives you an inkling of hope that things could get better. Nevertheless, I see that this is still really challenging to work through, it seems that things aren't where you'd like them to be. From what I can gather, the lack of investment from your mum seems to be rubbing salt into an old wound, by your reference to other people leaving you in the past. Would you like to share a bit more about this? We are here to listen if you'd like.
Take care.
hope that answers ur question
Checking in to see how the last few days have been for you?
I have seen you providing some lovely and compassionate support in other discussions. Your caring nature is shining through. I hope you can see this strength of yours. Looking out for others during a difficult time for yourself, is selfless and endearing. I understand this can take it's toll though, so we are here if you'd like to chat.
Take care.