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hastings1066hastings1066 Posts: 48 Boards Initiate
Last night I was admitted to hospital, I am expecting a baby and I had a mental breakdown. I live with a foster family and they are not coping with the fact that I am pregnant and the fact that the baby is there sons.

I was going to take an overdose but due to the fact that I am pregnant I decided against it. I am going to see the doctor today and go from there.
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  • AifeAife Community Manager Posts: 3,010 Boards Guru
    I'm so sorry to hear about your foster family, that sounds incredibly tough to be going through especially at this time where you might be feeling you need support the most. You've been really brave to reach out for support here @hastings1066.

    You've shown so much strength in fighting against those thoughts and reach out to your doctor. It's not easy to do or open up to others. How are you feeling about seeing the doctor?

    I was having a read through your other post where you mentioned social services had said you need to stay with your foster family. How have things been with social services recently? Do they know the father of your baby is your foster family's son?

    Keep us updated with how you're feeling and remember, there's a whole community of people here to help you through this - you're not alone. If you are struggling with thoughts of wanting to end your life, remember these services are always a call or text away anytime you need someone to talk to:
    * If you need urgent help or have any concerns for your health or safety, the quickest way to get help is to call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. 
    *Crisis Messenger - Our crisis messenger text service provides free, 24/7 crisis support across the UK. If you’re aged 25 or under, and are experiencing any painful emotion or are in crisis, you can text THEMIX to 85258.
    * Papyrus - If you are having thoughts of suicide, you can contact HOPELINEUK for confidential support and practical advice. You can call them on 0800 068 4141 or text them on 07786209697.
    * Samaritans are reachable by phone and email 24/7. Whatever you're going through, you can call them any time, from any phone on 116 123.
    Maybe somethings don't get better, but we do. We get stronger. We learn to live with our situations as messy and ugly as they are. We fix what we can and we adapt to what we can't. Maybe some of us will never fully be okay, but at least we're here. We're still trying. We're doing the best we can. That's worth celebrating too ❤
  • hastings1066hastings1066 Posts: 48 Boards Initiate
    I have found working with social services really hard since they told me I had to stay with my foster family for the moment. I am really upset that I am living with a family that are unsupportive about my pregnancy. My social worker said that the baby and I are safe so for the moment I can stay with current family.

    They don’t realise that the family are unsupportive and that I can’t talk to them about my pregnancy. Social services don’t know that my foster family’s son is the the baby’s dad.
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  • genderless_fungigenderless_fungi Moderator Posts: 156 Helping Hand
    Hello @hastings1066

    You've shown a lot of strength in dealing with this situation alone and in deciding to put your health and the health of your baby above all else.

    I'm sorry social services are not responding properly to the situation and that you don't feel safe or supported by your foster family. Can I ask why are social services not aware that your foster brother is the father of the baby? The decision to disclose that or not is completely up to you, however it might be easier for social services to evaluate the situation if they know the whole story behind your pregnancy.

    You mentioned being upset about the way your foster family is treating you, can you tell us a bit more about this situation and their behaviour towards you?
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  • hastings1066hastings1066 Posts: 48 Boards Initiate
    The reason social services don’t know that the baby’s father is my foster family son is because I haven’t told them. They did ask and I didn’t tell them. Social services are encouraging me to stay in school even though it’s the last place I want to be since I became pregnant.

    When the mother gets upset about my pregnancy I am often banished to my room. We can’t talk about the pregnancy in front of their son. I am often given lots of chores to do which is exhausting.
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,066 Part of The Furniture
    How are you feeling about the idea of telling them this at the moment @hastings1066? I can hear you felt hesitant telling them which meant you did not tell them when they asked.

    However, if there are any factors causing you to feel uncomfortable sharing this with them that you would like to talk to us about, we are listening to you.

    Do you want to talk to us about how school is going for you since becoming pregnant? It sounds like a really difficult time for you at the moment and you don't have to go through this alone <3
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  • hastings1066hastings1066 Posts: 48 Boards Initiate
    @Laura_tigger82 my foster brother doesn’t yet know that I am pregnant and his mother won’t let me tell him that I am pregnant with his baby. I don’t know how I can tell social services that I am having his baby if I haven’t told him yet.

    I am really nervous of when the baby decides to come. I am worried what happen if I can’t deliver the baby.
  • hastings1066hastings1066 Posts: 48 Boards Initiate
    By the way school is horrible at the moment I am struggling with morning sickness and I keep having to go out as I am going to be sick. I also need the bathroom a lot and feel like I want to sleep. I am constantly getting into trouble for not doing homework as I need to sleep when I get home.

  • Terry8936Terry8936 Posts: 271 The Mix Regular
    @hastings1066 It’s understandable that this is a challenging time. It's important to prioritize your health and well-being during this time. Here are a few suggestions that may help: Speak to your teachers or school counselor, Consider a reduced workload, Create a support network, Seek medical advice, Reach out to trusted adults. Hope you feel better soon!
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  • hastings1066hastings1066 Posts: 48 Boards Initiate
    edited June 2023
    I am currently in hospital I tried to harm myself not the baby.
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  • GemmaGemma Community Manager Posts: 453 Listening Ear
    Hey @hastings1066, thank you for bravely sharing that with us. You are doing so well to reach out for support.

    I'm hearing how heavy things have been for you recently and it sounds incredibly tough to be experiencing these thoughts. Really glad that you were able to get to hospital last night and have people around you. I hope that they are able to help you find the support you need right now. <3

    The staff team have dropped in with a DM to you this morning to check-in, as we really care about you @hastings1066 and we are here if you'd like to share more.

    Please know that you are not alone and there are services that you can reach out to if you feel you are unable to keep yourself safe. I know these were posted earlier in the thread but I'll pop them below too so you have them:
    * If you need urgent help or have any concerns for your health or safety, the quickest way to get help is to call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. 
    *Crisis Messenger - Our crisis messenger text service provides free, 24/7 crisis support across the UK. If you’re aged 25 or under, and are experiencing any painful emotion or are in crisis, you can text THEMIX to 85258.
    * Papyrus - If you are having thoughts of suicide, you can contact HOPELINEUK for confidential support and practical advice. You can call them on 0800 068 4141 or text them on 07786209697.
    * Samaritans are reachable by phone and email 24/7. Whatever you're going through, you can call them any time, from any phone on 116 123.

    Keep going Hastings, we're here for you <3.
  • AzzimanAzziman Moderator, Community Champion Posts: 1,798 Extreme Poster
    Hey @hastings1066 , just wanted to check in with you. How are you feeling at the moment? We're here to support you through this <3
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