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Struggling

independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,051 Supreme Poster
in Health & Wellbeing
I'm struggling. That's just it. Hitting a crisis and I can't do anything about it cuz it's Friday and the weekend will be here in a few hours and good luck getting to speak to anyone before then.
“Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”

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  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,051 Supreme Poster
    edited September 18
    Past User wrote: »
    Hey @independent_ can you contact someone from shout like your manager or friend?

    Thanks, not sure how they could help tbh but will probably need to contact them re time off
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    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • Former MemberFormer Member Community Champion Posts: 1,294 Wise Owl
    If you wanna vent or anything we're all here for u :) Sorry to hear you're struggling though. I'm not really sure what else to say lol but I hope u feel a little better soon! Sending hugs <3
  • SpaceOtterSpaceOtter Community Champion Posts: 891 Part of The Mix Family
    Sending the biggest hugs. Im sorry youre struggling but so proud of you for reaching out here, i know its not easy, you help people so much but we're here to help you too. <3 Here to listen if it helps.
    You're awesome!
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,051 Supreme Poster
    Thank you everyone. You’re all way too kind. I don’t feel like i deserve kindness right now so thank you
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 4,869 The Mix Elder
    independent_ wrote: »
    Thank you everyone. You’re all way too kind. I don’t feel like i deserve kindness right now so thank you

    @independent_ you deserve all the kindness that you need at the moment. I know the feeling of when you don't feel like you deserve kindness or help but sometimes you have to be kind to yourself too sometimes. We are always here for you no matter what and I'm also here if you ever felt the need to vent about anything <3

    Sending hugs,

    Amy22 <3
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,051 Supreme Poster
    Thank you

    The things that usually help just aren't. Had my hair cut this morning though and mum wants to go shopping this afternoon. It's like she's trying to keep me busy i know she's trying to help but i just want to stay in the house
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    It sounds particularly difficult that the things which usually help just aren't helping you at the moment @independent_. How do you think you will feel after going out with your mum?

    Could you, maybe, talk to her about wanting to stay in the house and make some indoor plans? We are here for you if you would like to talk to us or if there is anything we can do to support you :)
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  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,051 Supreme Poster
    Usually things like shopping with mum would help and going hair dressers would help but it just isn't. Partner wants to go out tonight but I don't want to do that either.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    It sounds like you want to rest indoors but everyone else wants to go out and thinks that is better for you. Is that right @independent_? If so, it might be worth talking to them about how you are feeling if you feel comfortable with this :)
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  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,051 Supreme Poster
    Could do I guess. But don't want to let them down I've already done that. Everyone saying i need help but it's weekend and i don't wanna ring 111
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    You deserve all the support you need @independent_ - no matter what that may look like <3
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Community Manager Posts: 319 The Mix Regular
    Hey @independent_,

    How are you feeling this afternoon? I just wanted to drop by to echo what Laura has said - you matter to us and you are absolutely deserving of support.

    You've mentioned not wanting to call 111 to seek support Independent, and I completely respect that - different services work for different people and it's good to hear you're aware that some support is out there.

    I thought I'd just drop by with a reminder of some of the other crisis support services that are available if you do feel as though you reach crisis point and need to reach out:
    Crisis Messenger (24/7) | text THEMIX to 85258
    Samartians (24/7) | call 116 123 | email jo@samaritans.org
    Papyrus (2pm-midnight) | call 0800 068 41 41 | text 07786 209 697 | email pat@payrus-uk.org
    Supportline (hours vary) | call 01708 765 200
    Childline | call 0800 11 11

    I'm sure these services won't be new to you, but I thought a reminder wouldn't hurt.

    Take care of yourself, and keep up posted on how you're doing.
    Harry
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,051 Supreme Poster
    edited April 2023
    Thank you for the links @HarryT

    Not much has changed although I keep thinking it has but then nope. Feeling very very stupid right now because i can't put a name to how i feel
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 4,869 The Mix Elder
    independent_ wrote: »
    Thank you for the links @HarryT

    Not much has changed although I keep thinking it has but then nope. Feeling very very stupid right now because i can't put a name to how i feel

    You don't have to feel stupid about trying to put a name to how you feel. Sometimes, and I know this myself too when everything just feels overwhelming or too much, it can be hard to describe how we are feeling. You also don't have to feel bad about letting down your partner as they wanted to go out. It sounds like maybe you just need to have a rest and focus on yourself a bit until you start feeling a bit more better.

    Sending hugs,

    Amy22 <3
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • Former MemberFormer Member Community Champion Posts: 1,294 Wise Owl
    Hey @independent_ sending lots of hugs <3

    As @Amy22 said, it's ok to not be able to put a name to how you feel. Sometimes it's really difficult and frustrating to try and do that. Have u tried journaling? It really helps me when I feel like that and my emotions are all over the place. It's just nice to get them all down. Also sometimes I verbally journal, I make voice notes of me rambling because I'm obviously most comfortable rambling to myself than to anyone else and it can really help sometimes :)
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,051 Supreme Poster
    Couldn’t get through to GP this morning. It all feels weird in my brain like nothing has happened but it has at the same time. I’m back on the cigs too. Ugh
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • GemmaGemma Community Manager Posts: 1,138 Wise Owl
    Hi @independent_, that sounds really tough and you're doing so well to continue to look for support for yourself. Do you think you will try to contact the GP again to get an appointment? I know it can be difficult to get through in the mornings and sometimes it's a case of being persistent!

    How was your weekend? I know you mentioned that your mum & partner wanted to go out with you and keep you busy, but that you wanted to get some rest. How did that go?

    The community are here for you <3
    ♡♡♡
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,051 Supreme Poster
    Thank you. My weekend was ok. As slow as a week in the jail as my dad would say but it was ok I got through.

    Had GP appointment today. They’ve increased my meds and referred me to occupational therapy. I don’t know what that’s all about but doctor said it can help people with disabilities and mental health. I don’t know how I feel about it all. Was told to go to A&E if i have another meltdown like i did other day.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • SpaceOtterSpaceOtter Community Champion Posts: 891 Part of The Mix Family
    Heya independent, sending big hugs. How are you feeling today?
    You're awesome!
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,051 Supreme Poster
    I feel so weird. Been referred to some kind of crisis team type thing but it’s not called that. But is for short term support.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 1,700 Extreme Poster
    Hope you’re feeling a bit better than you were and that in time you’ll be feeling good again.

    Remember we are all here for you

    Sending hugs
    Sinead
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 4,869 The Mix Elder
    Hope you feeling okay this week @independent_

    Sending hugs,

    Amy22 <3
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • ebyrne556ebyrne556 Moderator Posts: 1,199 Wise Owl
    Hey @independent_ Just checking in on you as well <3
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  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,051 Supreme Poster
    Thanks for checking in. Been an ok ish day but wish the intrusive fucking thoughts would piss right off like now! Thank you for the hugs <3
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
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