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pregnancy scare

Past UserPast User Posts: 0 Just got here
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  • One-in-a-millionOne-in-a-million Posts: 606 Incredible Poster
    Hey Morgan I know how you feel it can be pretty scary can’t it. I was the same although I found for me it was more I had to keep checking because although I’d done the test I couldn’t understand why my period hadn’t come back. So I ended up doing a further 2 tests within the next few weeks.

    Does anyone you trust knew about this?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Obnoxiously Large Anchor Posts: 1,201 Wise Owl
    Hi, I found out I was pregnant in February 2022. I hadn't been trying and I'd just had a feeling I was pregnant. I took a test and it came back a strong positive. I did 5 further tests that all confirmed my pregnancy.

    If the test does come back positive, you really have a few options -

    1) you keep the baby
    2) you have an abortion
    3) you look to get the baby adopted

    At the end of the day it's your choice and no one else's. I decided to keep go ahead with the pregnancy and keep my baby.

    I'm here if you need anything.

    Also remember when taking a test to follow all the instructions, wait the right amount of time and discard the test after it says to. Otherwise it could give you a false result.

    False negatives are far more common than false positives. If you get a positive then you are >99% for sure pregnant but a negative could still be a positive if too early.

    I know it's a rough time but we're all here to support you and your decisions 🥰
  • Former MemberFormer Member Moderator Posts: 197 Trailblazer
    edited September 2024
    Hey @Past User
    Thank you for reaching out to the community, it shows a lot of bravery. A pregnancy scare can be extremely nerve wrecking and I want to commend the fact that you bought a test and tried to give it a go even though you were understandably scared.
    You mentioned that no one should know but would you be able to talk about it with someone you trust? maybe a friend who could help or give you support while you're waiting to find out the test result? Not being alone might help you find the courage to check it


    Here is an article written by experts on pregnancy testing - it briefly goes through information about when to take the test, where to find free and accurate ones, where to get counselling, and some sites that might be of help:
    https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/pregnancy-and-parenthood/pregnancy-testing-4187.html

    Brook is a charity where you can find a lot of information and tips as well as advice on what to do after having taken the test. You can speak to someone at a Brook service, a sexual health clinic or another young people’s service. A counsellor can listen to how you’re feeling, answer any questions you might have and give you lots of information and support to help you make a decision that feels right for you: https://www.brook.org.uk/topics/pregnancy/

    If you want to try again, you can get a pregnancy test free of charge from your GP, at Brook or a sexual health clinic.

    Whatever the result, remember you can always use the boards for advice and support Morgan. Let us know how it goes.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Moderator Posts: 197 Trailblazer
    edited September 2024
    Hello @Past User
    Do you mean pregnancy testing or counselling? you can use this tool to find services near you https://www.brook.org.uk/find-a-service/
    Unfortunately Brook only offers services face to face

    However, I'm sure you'd be able to use helplines that cater more towards metal health and anxiety to talk about this situation. Despite being so scared you're doing a really good job at dealing with all these emotions and are taking reasonable steps to address the issue, that is no easy feat. We fully support you no matter what the result is or what your decisions are.


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  • Former MemberFormer Member Moderator Posts: 197 Trailblazer
    Yes, I believe the helpline we have here at the mix would be a good place to start :)
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  • Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,217 Part of The Furniture
    Brook Also have clinics Across the UK that offer a wide range of things. You can pick from the list what your looking for E.G abortion , contraception, pregnancy testing and then enter your postcode in the next page and it will show you any brook clinics near by and there opening times . There’s also an option to view NHS clinics too. If you are pregnant a good place to start will be a sexual health clinic or your Gp to advice on where you want to go next <3

    https://www.brook.org.uk/find-a-service/
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
  • JustVJustV Inactive Posts: 5,640 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 2024
    Building on what others have said, depending on the reason you think you might be pregnant, there might be other reasons for those symptoms @Past User. For example, if your period is late, a tonne of things can cause that like stress, drug use, weight loss, and more. I've been in relationships where we've had pregnancy scares and something else was always behind it.

    Obviously I don't know if that's the case here and I'm conscious you didn't share why you think you're pregnant, so I could be way off base. I just know how scary and all-consuming these things can be and I wanted to say this in case you were in that headspace too!

    Still good to take a test (or two) as others have mentioned, and whatever the results are there are options and people around to support you through it all. :)
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  • Past UserPast User Definition of a mental mess and a certified lost cause :) Posts: 0 Just got here
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 113 The Mix Convert
    edited September 2024
    Hi @Past User

    It's understandable that you're finding it really challenging to check given the circumstances of the last time you fell pregnant. It seems like this is evoking some difficult and uncomfortable feelings for you. I can imagine it has been really upsetting for such a sensitive and personal moment to be spread around the school. We are here by your side, to work through this together.

    Facing reality can sometimes seem overwhelmingly daunting, and avoidance can seem like an escape. Unfortunately, avoiding a fear doesn't extinguish it, but sweeps it under a rug where it will remain. Only by taking the test can you clear this confusion. I see you have considered ringing the helpline today, have you managed to do so? Perhaps it'd be reassuring to do the test whilst they are on the phone with you, then you won't be facing this alone.

    We are also happy to discuss contraceptives and likewise with you if this is something that you're interested in. I understand that it can be a bit of a minefield to get your head around.

    Please let us know how you get on. Take care.

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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,346 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 2024
    You are doing so well keeping us in the loop with how things are for you @Past User. I can hear how you are not pregnant, even though you had a pregnancy scare.

    How are you feeling about all of this at the moment? We are all here for you and listening to you if you would like to share more with us <3
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,346 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 2024
    Hey @Past User. How are you feeling about this at the moment? <3
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,346 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 2024
    I can hear that, although you feel it was the right thing to do, it is still upsetting. I also know that no matter what we say, we can't necessarily take away that upset and hurt. However, we are here with you and listening to you @Past User. You don't have to face this alone <3
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