Affirmations

ellie2000

Are they positive sentences or statements
Wat r some examples?

Libby_

Hi Ellie

Here’s an example I found,

For example, if we've just been rejected by a potential romantic partner, we might say the affirmation, "I am worthy of love." Or, if we're struggling in our career, we might say the affirmation, "I am capable of success." These examples highlight how self-affirmations in popular psychology kind of merge our automatic

AislingDM

Libby gave some brilliant examples @ellie2000 I suppose the key point to understand is what you're feeling low about and what you need affirmations for?

Some people also find it easier to start with affirmations that are about less challenging things in their life. For example, if you felt dreadfully low about your appearance, maybe don't start there, instead you could try to affirm little things in the day-to-day, like "I always make such a good cup of tea".

It might sound silly, but over time these words begin to mean more and feel stronger, especially if you keep at it. No one is saying they are going to 'fix' everything but they can make waking up each day just a little bit less terrifying.

ellie2000

@Libby_ @AislingDM i need good stuff to say to feel gd, wen i feel oo-er moments. to start off the day, positively

Laura_tigger82

One of my favourites is "Yesterday has gone, tomorrow is not here yet but right now I can focus on making today a good day. It will be a good day". Hope this helps @ellie2000

ellie2000

@Laura_tigger82 @AislingDM focusing on today or tomorrow is not tht easy as ppl think it varies from person to person i think the future is no. at least i no im goin on a cruise i used to h8 my hometown, im somewhere else
horray 4 meltdowns ppl notice finally n they move u
why does it take ppl to notice something drastic 4 ppl around u to do something?
i got games, i got company, family's near, everything is gd ....:)

AislingDM

Fair point of course, we never know what tomorrow brings and one person's perfect day could be another's worst nightmare @ellie2000 !!

Some other options could be:

1) I am stronger than I know
2) I can reach my goals
3) I am proud of myself (I find this one especially hard but very important).
4) I am important and my words matter

Hoping some of these might fit in with the vibe you are looking for

The cruise sounds very exciting, wow I am jealous! Which areas will the cruise by moving through?

I agree, you make such insightful points Ellie, especially about how people respond to mental health needs. Often people cannot truly 'see' that a person is really struggling until they are at a breaking point, which just shows we need better education with letting people know the signs of someone suffering. Also, I reckon some people can be dismissive, and it's certainly not everyone and it's not always done out of malice. Nevertheless, I think you can see it with parents sometimes: they do not want to think of their child as being in pain, so they can push away the truth. Sadly, this does nothing to help the person

Why do you think people wait for something drastic before acting? xxx

ellie2000

@AislingDM its a cruise in the fjords n stuff after i tlkd to someone this evening, i relised i try to distract myself too much tht ppl dont see how i really feel.

AislingDM

Sounds like such a beautiful trip @ellie2000 ! I just looked up some pictures of the fjords and they are so gorgeous

Completely, I think sometimes distractions can be useful when you're feeling really distressed and you just want to get away from the intensity of those feelings but other times you need to actually let yourself feel them and know that others can see them too. We don't want to shoulder all the pain on our own and when others seem oblivious to just how low or anxious or distressed we are, it can feel pretty invalidating and a lot of us start to wonder whether people can really see us for who we are

I wonder, Ellie, do you feel comfortable talking about your true feelings to people? xx