It's official im a curse

Past User

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Former Member

Hi @Past User,

You've done a really brave thing by sharing this with us. Do you think these feelings of being a curse to your family are internal (i.e. they're coming from within yourself) or are your family saying/doing things that are making you believe that you're a curse to them? Wherever these feelings are coming from, they're completely valid and I want you to know that we hear them and appreciate that things sound as though they're quite tough for you right now.

How are things with your family at the moment? Would you like to tell us a little bit more about your relationship with them? If you would then we're all ears.

Take care, Morgan, and speak soon.

See you around, legend,
Harry

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AislingDM

That sounds like such a painful situation for everyone to be wrapped up in, especially for the kids who might not be able to properly understand what is happening @Past User How do you feel about what's happened, like for example towards your aunt's daughter? Or for the predicament the kids are in now?

And of course, for you with each new stressful thing that happens in your family you're going to feel all the more responsible and to blame for other people's pain and choices. Given how low you can feel in yourself, it's no wonder you immediately think of how this is your fault or how it adds to a pattern of negative events since your adoption.

I know this is not something that will affect how you perceive yourself, but truly this is not your fault, Morgan. Not only are you a beautiful soul and wonderful person, you know the pain of your family interacting with social services (even if the situation is for the best, it can cause a lot of anguish for everyone involved). You would never want another person to be in that position and I am sure you really value a family that is connected and can communicate openly together It must be so exhausting to feel so responsible for all of the pain in your family's lives. What do you think makes you feel this way? xxx

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AislingDM

Completely and that just further reinforces how you cannot be to blame for this type of pain your family is experiencing right now, because you know wholly in your heart that you did not want this for those little girls. They deserve a life that is free of burden and where they can trust their parents to look after them as they need. You know better than anyone how tough it can be to be moved away from family and deal with the fallout in a care setting It's no wonder you're so worried about them.

Ah, that makes so much sense then @Past User , given that you have been repeatedly told and let know that you are responsible for others' pain, it's no wonder you're going to internalise all of that. It sounds deeply draining for you, like you're always on the lookout for the next thing that you can hold culpability for

That's okay for you not to believe me right now, I think it will take a lot of time and healing to be able to see the wonder you bring to other people, especially here on The Mix

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Completely, and you're so right that is the most important point that the girls can be protected right now @Past User

You're working very hard to try to cope with your own mental health but of course it makes sense to want to be there for them too. I really hope you'll be able to see them soon and maybe do a nice activity to give them a bit of a distraction. xx