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ellie2000
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Can ppl make u lose who u r
Crazy mad insane
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This is quite a poignant question. Sometimes friendships/relationships can make people feel as if they are losing their identity or shifting their personality. This can be quite unsettling and damaging if the transition feels negative. May I ask whether you are experiencing this now? We can explore this together if you like, we are here for you.
Take care.
I truly believe this and it doesn't have to be negative either, people who respect, support and empower you can also rub off on your character. I believe an important factor of who we are is also what we consume and the people we surround ourselves with is included in this. So toxic people or toxic things in your life can make you lose who you are.
Do you feel this way about someone?
What I mean by 'rub off on your character' is just when we surround ourselves with people, certain aspects of their behaviour we can adopt and it can become part of us, just naturally. Whether this be positive, or negative.
I do believe sometimes people take advantage of sincerity and kindness. I believe sometimes people subconsciously attach themselves to someone that is kind-hearted, for their own benefit. I'd say, sometimes saying no to people, having boundaries with relationships, and putting yourself first, can have a really positive effect on you.
Would you feel comfortable enough to share what kind of horrible things people have done?
Sending hugs
I'm so pleased to hear that you now feel safe after moving, you are worthy of living in an environment which is free of fear.
You have mentioned some events which may have been very traumatic for you, would you like to explore these with us? We are able to provide further support if this is something you are interested in. You are not in this alone, we are here by your side.