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Honoring- myself and others
So hey guys, I've come back with yet another dilemma. I've mulled over this issue for a long while and am still unsure of what to do. So my aforementioned friend, Thomas, has been in a lot of my posts recently known as being my bestfriend. He's 20 and I'm 17. I've known him for about a year and two months. At first I hated him and then we grew to be close friends while we worked together(we still work together). He had a hoe phase and then got a girlfriend which honestly she just seemed boring to me. But through knowing her for a few short months, I've grown to respect her. She still isn't my favorite person as she is incredibly insecure in her relationships, possessive and a little overbearing. But the way she treats Thomas is amazing. When Thomas was on a trip for a few long weeks, we talked everynight, usually falling asleep together on the phone. I knew that his girlfriend, we'll call her Veronica, wasn't a huge fan of me just because Thomas and I were so close. But I continously invited her out to things and they usually went really well. I asked her if she wanted to be apart of my welcome home present for Thomas and so we went and picked out a few things. When he got back I gave him the gift basket and he loved it. Alot of the stuff I'd gotten on my own. But I found out later that she was upset I got him a gift even though she helped me pick it out in the first place. He also told me that we had to establish ground rules. Meaning we aren't supposed to hang out without her in our presence. That really hurt cause he's different when it's just the two of us. I knew over his time on his trip that I had developed a crush. Knowing my past, I tend to overomanticize my friendships because of my insecurites of them leaving, so keeping that into account I didn't think much of it. But I think I do really like him. We hung out yesterday for 6 hours going to get food and then him falling asleep on my lap while watching a show. Then we went upstairs to my room and cuddled watching tiktok. When he had to leave I invited him to go see a movie with my girl bestfriend and her boyfriend, telling him that he could invite Veronica if he wanted to. So we went to the movies and he didn't bring her. He told me that he told her that he was hanging out with "the boys." I didn't question it. He layed his legs on me during the movie and then I asked if I could lay in his seat with him and he welcomed me over into his arms, laying together while watching the movie. I had a really good time and so did he. Earlier he came over and we cuddled watching tiktoks. All that to say, I do like him and I told him about my past feelings not mentioning that they were current, but I think I really like him. There's not really much I can do because he's not a cheater and I don't want to hurt his girlfriend, Veronica. I don't know it's just been really hard recently. Any advice friends?
"But our lives will only ever always Continue to be A balancing act That has less to do with pain And more to do with beauty." -Shane Koyczan