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Does anyone actually care about me?

Past UserPast User Posts: 0 Just got here
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  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 4,634 The Mix Elder
    edited September 18
    @Past User I care about you a lot and I bet there are lots of others who care and love you lots. I know that feeling myself sometimes but you are cared for and loved for on here. Sending hugs,

    Amy22 <3
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  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 1,541 Extreme Poster
    edited September 18
    @Past User, like Amy has said, we care about you here on the mix and would definitely care if you weren't here. I'm sure lots of other people do in your life too. Try to remember you aren't alone and are loved by many (even if we can't always see it for ourselves).

    Take care,
    Sinead :3
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  • AislingDMAislingDM Moderator Posts: 1,666 Extreme Poster
    edited September 18
    It makes complete sense to feel like people do not care about you @Past User , and I'd never try to force you out of the intensely difficult headspace. But as others have said, you are so very important to this community and to me. Being able to talk to you on your different threads has been really important to me and i am always grateful to learn from your responses, I do hope that you will continue to be such a force on this platform and to know how sincerely valued you are <3
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 203 Trailblazer
    We care <3 that's what The Mix is about and that is what we are all here to do, to hear each other out and offer support to one another. We all care about you <3
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 287 The Mix Regular
    edited September 18
    Hey @Past User,

    Just echoing what everyone else has said, we all really care about you Morgan. You're a valuable member of the community :)
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 203 Trailblazer
    edited September 18
    @Past User how have you been feeling more recently?

    <3
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  • AislingDMAislingDM Moderator Posts: 1,666 Extreme Poster
    edited September 18
    Completely @Past User <3 I think it is never easy to express your emotions with so much clarity and insight, whilst also trying so well to be a listening ear for others. Sometimes, when we're in so much pain, we cannot see anything else, which is completely understandable, but it seems you always have room for the needs of others, which I think is beautiful =)
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 172 Helping Hand
    edited September 18
    @Past User i really admire the empathy you have for yours, I feel like it is a rarity these day. But remember to treat yourself as you would as good friend 😊

    I’m so sorry you were told that, I can’t imagine how hard and dismissive that must have been. I think people sometimes just don’t how to help and support. I think someone telling you something like that, is more a reflection on them, than it is you.

    I think sometimes “whining” can be misinterpreted for just ranting and venting, which really does help working through difficult, complex and confusing emotions, and you just need someone to listen.

    Is there’s someone you feel comfortable talking about your emotions?

    You said that hide your emotions, which I imagine would be very tiring, is there anything you do to cope or find that helps?

    All the best ❤️
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 24 Boards Initiate
    By the way this song might cheer you up even though it is a breakup song. In this song a man remembers his ex lover and how she used to think he was goregous.
    https://youtu.be/3GzpcN3vy_Q
  • AislingDMAislingDM Moderator Posts: 1,666 Extreme Poster
    edited September 18
    That is so frustrating and wrong, I think @Past User !! :( Some people are just so underprepared to hear people's raw emotions that they default to asking them to push them back inside. Sometimes when we are so emotional, people get scared and can only think of that fear, rather than remembering that we are asking for their support. This is not right though, I promise, and asking you to 'not complain/whine' is unfair!

    You deserve space to vent about your anguish and to gain access to some real solutions if that's what you'd like. Being shut down in that way is always pretty horrid. Perhaps this sounds odd, but I would recommend changing your response to this person the next time they are upset.

    I am not suggesting being cold/cruel, and you're too empathetic to treat anyone that way anyhow, but, once you have provided the person with comfort, emotional support and space, it may be useful to mention that you would be grateful for more support when you are suffering. I suggest this because then they will be able to relate to and understand what you mean, because they were the one who was just in pain and asking for support.

    I'm not sure if this idea would be helpful, but just thought I'd offer it in case because it has helped me in my life <3
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 203 Trailblazer
    edited September 18
    @Past User, you say you care more about others than yourself. You know that saying 'treat others how you want to be treated'? I think it's important to also treat yourself how you treat others, as I too, give advice to others that I do not apply to myself. You deserve to nurture yourself and be gentle with yourself.

    To be told you are whining and being pathetic is really horrible, especially by someone you felt close enough to actually share what was going on. Due to this bad experience, it's not surprising that this has made you want to hide your emotions. Is there anyone else you think you'd feel comfortable talking to? There are other ways of release, also. Writing/gardening/movement/art/this forum :)
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