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Sexual abuse?
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Since I was 20 weeks pregnant my dad has started showing an interest in my baby bump and he has talked about having sex with me once the baby is here. I am scared that I might be having his baby in the future.
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Just wanted to check in to see how you are doing?
Sorry to hear about what your dad is saying to you, and it's understandable that you feel scared. How would you feel about speaking to your dad and asking him to not say those things to you? Also are you able to limit the time that you spend with your dad?
It's really positive that you've opened up to us about this. We care about you and we are here for you.
Have you told anyone else about this? Anyone else you trust that you could talk to about this?
Sending hugs
I tried to not let him have sex with me as I was so turned on. I think I could be pregnant again soon after I have this baby.
I'm hearing how much you're going through and how tough things are at home with your Dad. It really feels like you're going through so much right now, and I'm also aware that you're about to be a mum for this first time and feeling worried you may become pregnant again soon after the new baby is born. I can imagine how scared you might be feeling especially those times when you're alone with your Dad.
How do you feel about getting in touch with some support services outside of The Mix to share what's happening at home with your Dad? I've listed a few below if you wanted to have a look and ask any questions about them. There might be a few community members here who are going through similar experiences to you or have used one of these services before.
ChildLine offers information, advice and confidential counselling to anyone aged 18 and under on any issue affecting them. Their phone line is open all day every day by calling on 0800 1111, or you can go to www.childline.org.uk to access their webchat service.
Women & Girls Network (WGN) offers a range of advice, practical help, counselling and signposting options for women and girls across London affected by gendered violence. This includes, but is not limited to, childhood sexual abuse, domestic violence and rape. This service is free, women-only and survivor-led. Their advice line is 0808 801 0660 and is open 10am - 4pm Monday to Friday and additional hours of 6-9pm on Wednesdays. If you'd prefer email support, their email is advice@wgn.org.uk.
If you're feeling unsafe at any point, and you feel your Dad might harm you or your baby when they are born, we would also urge you to call the emergency services on 999 so that they can provide emergency and immediate support.
Your midwife and doctors or nurses are also people you can reach out to as well
Hope to hear back from you soon Annas, keep us updated with how you're feeling. We're here for you
It can feel scary when a relative, whether that's your brother or dad, interacts with you on a sexual level, especially when it's not consentual. Nobody has the right to make you feel uncomfortable, and although it can be tricky, you always have the right to say no to anything you don't want to do, or be done to you. How are you feeling about this at the monent?
What support do you think would be helpful that The Mix, and the community here can help with?
As well as the community, we have our helpline that is open 4pm - 11pm Monday - Saturday, where you can call to speak to someone about what's going on for you at the moment. The number free to call and you can call on: 0808 808 4994
You can also reach out to ChildLine which offers information, advice and confidential counselling to anyone aged 18 and under on any issue affecting them. Their phone line is open all day every day by calling on 0800 1111, or they also have a webchat service.