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Morning after pill regrets
Warning some details maybe a little too much information but I feel they could be important
Ok so I had my first sexual experience with my love interest. I didn’t communicate with him properly and he thought I was being sarcastic when I said no to being on birth control. This is because when talking about it (via text) He asked about birth control and I answered “Noooo why would I be 😂.” And he took it as sarcasm and replied back “well how would I know.” So with this in mind I thought he knew and he thought I was joking.
So we got caught up and I thought he was going to pull out but he didn’t… yes I’m aware it’s not the best way to protect myself but we were in the moment and I didn’t think.
So when I realised I was like “omg” and thats when we both realised that we had miss understood each other. So obviously we chatted and agreed I would get the morning after pill but I felt unsure about it although I didn’t say anything… as I respected he didn’t currently want more children (he already has some)
So I waited a couple of days and decided to go for it although I knew that I had already ovulated at this point so there is the chance it won’t work..
But just after taking it I kind of felt guilty and wished I left it to mother nature to decide.. it’s obviously too late now. I try to think of the pros and cons and why.
I have said that right now wouldn’t be appropriate as I couldn’t fully provide for the child and give them the best I can.
He has a right to his opinion and my opinion should and isn’t more valid than his. We both equally have a right to say
I was not planning on having a baby
My biggest fear has always been leaving it too late to have babies. Although I’m still young I know having a baby isn’t easy (it can take time.)
I think id be a good mum and there is support out there to help me look after the baby if needed
It would give me the nudge to be more independent and start my own family
I sort of hope I’ve left it too late but at the same time would me having a baby be appropriate.