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i were thinking
ellie2000
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TW: Mention of abuse
y havent someone killed me yet.
would a facebook confession b enough 4 an s.assault b enough.
I h8 feeling like this, its not fun
i used to mention abuse in the first convo wen i used to tlk to ppl, it steered most of them away
at least i kaput a bee by throwing my plushy at it hahahaha
y does getting funding 4 accommodation take ages, is there a quicker way? rather than let the adults do it
y havent someone killed me yet.
would a facebook confession b enough 4 an s.assault b enough.
I h8 feeling like this, its not fun
i used to mention abuse in the first convo wen i used to tlk to ppl, it steered most of them away
at least i kaput a bee by throwing my plushy at it hahahaha
y does getting funding 4 accommodation take ages, is there a quicker way? rather than let the adults do it
Crazy mad insane
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I'm wondering what sort of reaction would be best when you talk to people about abuse?
https://www.verywellmind.com/should-i-tell-people-i-was-sexually-assaulted-4802699
This article also has some good advice about how to talk to people about abuse and trauma, I hope it can be of some use.
Just mentioning that I also edited your post to add a trigger warning, only because the post begins with an intense question, so I just wanted members to be prepared for that. xxx
Wanting to be honest is always very impressive, especially when it's in an effort to gain better support from those around us. Despite that, some people can push away from hearing traumatic stories, whether they are close with the person or not. I suppose a lot of the time this shows the empathy people can feel with your situation, however I know that does little when it leads to you feeling undersupported. Perhaps there is a way to be able to fully express yourself honestly, whilst also 'putting people as at ease' as possible to encourage better responses (not that you should be responsible for this).
Can I ask, how do you usually tell others about what has happened to you, and how do they respond?
Big hugs xx
For this reason, people who are grieving or recovering from a trauma can be left all the more isolated, because friends/family can opt to avoid the person rather than risking saying something slightly wrong. Regardless of why people may do this, I know this does little for you as a person who actually needs your loved ones' support throughout recovery.
Perhaps, if you feel up to it, you could try to subtly encourage the people around you by increasing their awareness of how survivors of sexual assault may prefer to be supported, like in this article:
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/27/smarter-living/sexual-abuse-assault-support-mental-health.html
Just a thought, absolutely no pressure on this