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Replaying a situation in my mind

Creativeboy23Creativeboy23 Posts: 245 Trailblazer
in Health & Wellbeing
Hello all.

I keep replaying in my mind the time a university deputy additional learning support tutor said she thinks she needs to get someone to go through my strengths with me. Also, when she placed a lot of emphasis on university education, without acknowledging my autism spectrum. It made me feel singled out for special attention, particularly criticism. It is not something I can just move on from because the situation has stuck with me ever since. It was affecting me today when I saw her come in the library, causing me to feel low for the rest of the afternoon. I feel awkward about sharing this with her, since she is a staff member.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Moderator Posts: 991 Part of The Mix Family
    I think it's totally normal to have particularly painful moments stick in your head like you mentioned @Creativeboy23 I imagine a lot of us can relate to what you're going through right now. Do you mind me asking how long ago it was since this happened to you? Sometimes these things simply fade with time and it can help a little to know that things will get better. <3

    I know it can feel awkward talking to staff members about these kinds of things but if someone at your univeristy said something that upsets you then you're never in the wrong for sharing your feelings, if that's what you choose to do. Hopefully talking about it here on the boards is a good first step so please always feel free to talk about what you're going through. :)
  • Creativeboy23Creativeboy23 Posts: 245 Trailblazer
    It happened around August last year @Riley.

    Thanks for the reassurance. I will keep that in mind and share how she made me feel.
    😄😄
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,299 Part of The Furniture
    edited February 2022
    Hey @Creativeboy23

    Thanks for reaching out to us. I think it is really brave of you that you have been able to talk to us about how you are feeling. I also have autism so I may be able to understand some of your situation, though I appreciate it affects us all differently.

    Would you like to talk more about how you feel your autism has affected university education for you? or how you felt about being told you need to go through your strengths? We are listening if you do! <3
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  • Creativeboy23Creativeboy23 Posts: 245 Trailblazer
    Hello @Laura_tigger82.

    No thanks. I have already spoken to her about how she made me feel, and I feel much better at the moment. Thanks for asking, being sympathetic and understanding. <3
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,299 Part of The Furniture
    Hey @Creativeboy23

    Thanks for your response. No worries at all. I am really glad to hear you feel much better at the moment and felt able to speak to her about how she made you feel. Please remember we are always here for you and listening to you <3
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