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Drink and pregnancy

annasannas Posts: 9 Confirmed not a robot
Hi

This is going to sound rather silly.

Ever since I became a teenager I became a bit of a rebel early sexual relationships, try out cannabis, smoking and drinking. I was quite a heavy drinker I use to drink a lot of my mum gin and finish off her wine. I have recently found out that I am pregnant and having a hard time stopping some of the behaviours that I use to do before.

I know that these habits aren’t healthy for baby but how do stop?
Mike

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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Posts: 2,225 Boards Champion
    Hi @annas

    Thanks for reaching out to us. I always appreciate how much courage it must take to reach out.

    I can hear that you are aware of some of the potential reasons for these behaviours but also some of the consequences.

    If you feel comfortable discussing this further, I have a question just to help to understand more about your situation. My question is what in particular is making it difficult for you to stop?

    Are you struggling to stop because you are addicted to these behaviours? because these behaviours have become routine? or because you don't know what other behaviours could replace them?

    Knowing this will help us to support you further but please don't share anything you don't feel comfortable with. We are always here as a listening ear :3
  • independent_independent_ Resident Coffee Addict ScotlandPosts: 7,736 Legendary Poster
    Are you seeing a midwife yet @annas? If you are it might be worth having a chat with them. You are definitely not alone in struggling with this, I cam imagine lots of people have been where you are now. Your midwife will hopefully be able to support you and in the meantime, we’re always here to listen as well <3
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
    Laura_tigger82Mike
  • MikeMike 🎮 LondonPosts: 3,825 Community Manager
    edited January 3
    Welcome to the community @annas - it's lovely to have you here. :)

    Building on what @Laura_tigger82 has said, I want to reassure you this isn't silly at all. We all have our vices and most of us can understand how difficult it can be to stop doing something we know is unhealthy. It's good you're getting some support and looking out for baby.

    I know your pregnancy news wasn't the focus of your post, but I just wanted to acknowledge that too and ask how you're feeling about it? Pretty big news at any stage of life, but much more so when you're young. It must be a lot to process.

    Do you have anyone around you to support you right now (e.g. friends or family)?

    I'm mindful that you didn't share the circumstances of your pregnancy or how old you are, but just to let you know you're welcome to get support around that too if you like. ✨
    I know that these habits aren’t healthy for baby but how do stop?
    Ultimately I think different things work for different people. Seeing a midwife might be a good place to start as @independent_ suggested. I don't have any personal experience so can't weigh in with any advice, but there are a few support services that specialise in drink and drugs or pregnancy support who might be able to offer you some guidance:
    We Are With You, who offer free confidential support for alcohol, drugs, and mental health.

    Drinkline – the national alcohol helpline. Call for free on 0300 123 1110 (weekdays 9am to 8pm, weekends 11am to 4pm).

    Family Lives also have a good page on all the support you might need while pregnant.

    For something more practical, you could try The Family Nurse Partnership (FNP), who provide support through a home-visit programme. They can support you to:
    • Have a healthy pregnancy
    • Reach your goals and aspirations
    All behaviour is a need trying to be met.

    Want to join the community champions? Drop @TheMix a message!
    Laura_tigger82
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