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ellie2000

why dont we focus on ourselves, someone told me 'its not ur job'

Former Member

Hi @ellie2000, when you say someone told you it's 'not your job', were you trying to help someone at the time?

ellie2000

i opened to my therapist about mum fretting n i asked my therapist about calming her down n she sed tht it not my job
eeerrrrr..... wats?

Laura_tigger82

Hi @ellie2000

Thanks for your response and clarification as it means we can support you the most effectively we can. It would seem that your therapist meant that they hear your concerns but you have lots of other responsibilities and calming your mum down is someone else's responsibility. You have a lot on your shoulders already but I can understand that you care about your mum and may think it is your responsibility. I hope this helps

Former Member

Hey @ellie2000
Yeah I think they mean that it is not completely down to you to help and sometimes people need to deal with things themselves. I think your therapist just meant it in a way of not putting too much pressure on yourself. Hope everything works out!

Laura_tigger82

Hi @harpreet

Thanks for also looking out for @ellie2000 and helping to explain

How are things today @ellie2000?